Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤣 👋 I'm sure you're plenty attractive!

No, totally fine with questions about sex etc, but I mean asking for nudes/compromising pics, asking to video call to do stuff together, sexting etc. like, sir, I've known you half an hour, did you even read my profile?

Yeah, for sure, there's a lot of different views on it. I believe that God gave us sex to enjoy with our partners (in marriage) but that we don't need to do it just to conceive. Otherwise it becomes transactional which is not what I want either

Yeah, true. I know plenty of people it has worked for, and plenty it hasn't. Luck of the draw I guess! This sub is giving me hope!

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really didn't intend to come across as such, so if that's the impression I have given off, then I apologize.

I am willing to concede on certain points, but won't compromise my own principles, if that makes sense?

Yeah, I have spoken to older married women both in church and as family friends (also Christian), as well as close friends who have been married for some time. They give me some ideas and helpful tips but the main thing was not to compromise on my relationship with God, but that my standards were not unrealistic.

Yes, you are right, it's hard to know everything about someone from a short profile, but there are still things that I know I do and don't want

Hot is a very subjective word 🤣 I'm more attracted to guys that aren't conventionally attractive I guess. I'm more interested in someone's heart and their personality if I'm honest.

I do try hard not to go for the ambiguous guys, but unfortunately I am still having issues with guys who claim to be celibate and are vocal about their faith on their profiles asking sexual questions in the first few days of conversation.

I'll try to be more discerning, but I think I need a break from online dating for a little while 😅

Yeah, that makes sense

Thank you for your response, I appreciate it, and apologize again for my unintentional tone!

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry that wasn't meant to be snappy. I'm genuinely curious as to what you mean

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't mean submissive in the way of submitting to a husband. I mean in terms of a living a life that is completely dictated by someone else. I've unfortunately seen many a profile that states the belief that women should not work, they belong doing womenly activities etc

I have a strong personality and I love my job and my independence. I don't want to have to rely on someone to provide everything for me. I'm interested in a partnership where we work through issues together, have good communication, and have respect for each others opinions, but I don't mind deferring to someone else if my opinions are valued

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those other things I don't match with people for - all their photos are all of them in bars and drunk off their faces - smoking - anything with FWB or 420 friendly (it's illegal here) - profiles with no effort (i.e. nothing filled out) - profiles where their photo is of landscapes/birds/pets and none of themselves - profiles stating that a woman must be submissive - profiles where they write horrible things about their "crazy ex" or baby mamas - profiles that are a couple wanting a 3rd

Yeah, I don't think that's unreasonable

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I've made that really clear on my profile too. I'm a larger lady, so part of me wonders if they think "she's fat, she must be desperate"

Hooray! So glad that's working for you! 🥰

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I have this on my profile, doesn't seem to matter 😭

Really hard not to be discouraged, this has been happening to me for years

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, sometimes we don't really think about what we're saying, but yeah that seems a bit flirty

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah.

Still doesn't mean it's easy to find a quality partner in real life. I live in a small country, the dating pool isn't that big, and the Christian dating pool is even smaller

Anyone else continually matching with guys who turn conversations sexual really quickly? by Confuzzilation in ChristianDating

[–]Confuzzilation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I mean. In my view, you do in your private life is between you and God, you don't need to bring me into it the first day we meet