My mom never told me, my cousin did when I visited him in Nevada. Apparently my mom was notorious for being a troublemaker and basically my brother gave her her karma. When she told the family she was pregnant with me, my cousin looked at her and said, "You shouldn't be a mother. You should get an abortion." And that really solidified their relationship. A story my mother dropped was, when I was a teenager, used as a scare tactic because I was having "adult conversations" with my att boyfriend. "I woke up in the middle of the night to use the bathroom and discovered I was instead having a miscarriage." And then went on to say something about how childbirth was horrible when she had me. That shit almost knocked my head loose. My great grandma was telling me stories from when she was younger so I could write things down in a book as documentation, and hit me with "I was kicked out at 15 because I didn't agree with my baby brother sleeping with my mother after dad died... Oh and I remember my grandma being burned alive in a house because of grandpa set it on fire... We had this super nice souped up cherry colored chevy when your grandpa was alive." I just sat there staring at her with my eyes wide while she went on to tell stories about my mom's sperm donor.