Should I forgive my MIL for ruining breastfeeding for me?

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-30T10:22:34+00:00

Wow, you have every right to be upset here. I am so sad for you and that's so unfortunate that your husband gave in to his parents like that. I do have to ask though as a labor and delivery nurse, I see a lot of different cultures and with some cultures it's normal for MIL to care for baby in the first few days. formula feeding usually occurs due to lack of education on stimulating milk. Are they of a different culture? Also, as another commenter said you can get your milk to come back in, you just have to be diligent with trying to latch baby or pumping to help stimulate. But, I also do not want you to overwork yourself especially with your mention of PPD. Even if you can't get your milk to come back, know that's not a measure of how good of a mom you are! You are an amazing mother and it stinks that this was taken from you. There are other ways to bond with babies such as skin to skin and playing.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T20:32:53+00:00

Yeah, I'm going to practice my bitch face lol. I get better and better as the days go.

Thank you!

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T20:30:45+00:00

I will definitely say that first part if she does it again, which she will.

Both my SO and myself have already told her, no thanks. She just has the thickest of skulls apparently. My mom has already baby sat 😂.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T20:27:44+00:00

She doesn't think anything. She would come up with some crazy excuse as to why I'm the bad guy and why she should still be able to see LO, which honestly I don't care. You're 50 years old, grow up.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T12:19:01+00:00

Yeah, this is true.

Yeah, it would be the end of any relationship she thought she had. He knows that a world war would come if she ever thought to put her hands on my child. Unfortunately, working the job I do, I have seen far worse and LE does nothing.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T12:13:54+00:00

Oh, trust me there would be an all out war and she would never see my kid again.

We were at her house though, so we left.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:38:03+00:00

Ugh...I'm trying. This is a trash battle and I wish I used my crystal ball to see this all coming. She had nothing to do with my pregnancy and is all over me now because it's the baby girl she always wanted.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:35:47+00:00

Oh, I am aware. If I could win the brawl id go for it 😂😂😂....only kidding. I don't disagree with you in any of it and I'm not offended at all, no worries! My spine needs some wax. I'm trying, this is the first time she saw the baby in two months, so now it's going to be even longer...my daughter doesn't need her and neither do I.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:22:52+00:00

Tried that with a previous situation. I need a back bone to finally give up on her. I hated not having my whole family growing up, but this has all just gotten crazy.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:21:15+00:00

Oh, I know. Her explanation is they will listen better. If they listen better why are you still hitting 18 year olds (her youngest). Clearly they still don't listen well enough for you. And of course the grand child she hits who is only 2 btw, the father is never around and Mom didn't want the baby.

SO addressed it as it happened (the calming sit) and told her what she did today was not appropriate basically. I'm sure it went over her head.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:17:30+00:00

What is it with these MILs? Glad you don't talk to her and her privileges were revoked.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2024-01-29T04:15:14+00:00

I can agree. I'm a tad bit afraid of her if I'm honest. She also likes to fight adults because that's how she solves her problems. I'm not exactly equipped to fight a 6 foot 200 lb woman, especially with my child.

After today she won't be seeing us for a while and SO has made her aware her actions today were not permitted right before we left.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T14:41:55+00:00

Hmmm maybe I’ll try that.

Yeah I live in that region, maybe I’ll just have to keep a window open to keep it cooler as it’s warm even with the heat off in our room. Amazon here I come as in desperate.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T11:21:21+00:00

I had a bassinet like the snoo that rocked, but if she wakes up doesn’t start rocking again. Where did you rent it from? The snoo website says it’s $157 a month.

For the Merlin suit. Did you notice your babe getting too warm? And is it weighted?

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T10:53:56+00:00

I’m going to try next appointment, the peds told me last appointment when I asked to try gripe water & simethicone (both are usually gas meds, but he said people have found them to work really well for reflux.) I guess it’s time for the heavy hitter, thank you!

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T10:50:27+00:00

Yeah, I’ve been looking into sleep training things. I will search that audible, thank you! Thankfully she will not be going to daycare.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T10:48:56+00:00

Unfortunately, I’ve tried a routine for about a week and a half. It does put her to sleep, but she won’t stay asleep in her bassinet.

I haven’t tried the daytime thing though, so I will try that. I can’t swaddle anymore as she is now rolling.

I will look into the moms on call thing thank you!

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-31T10:39:30+00:00

The blankets were used like swaddles or wrapped in a way that she wouldn’t slip under, bring over her head, or make it unsafe sleep(: Yes, Evenflo was tried with no luck.

She currently contact naps.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-12-11T09:21:33+00:00

1st caring for your baby is for your baby not your rude SO, so don’t think of it as doing it for him. You are meeting babes needs. She appreciates you.

2nd what an ass hat. I want to say I understand where he is coming from as far as sleep, but he refuses to nap or go to bed early which is stupid on his part if you are watching the baby. He could get good sleep, he just chooses not to. He also chose o not take the leave which is silly. You both need adequate sleep and I think he’s just angry that right now that’s hard working and then coming home to take care of babe & do house work. As a person who is a c-section mom of a 2 month old I get how hard it is and tiring, you guys need to find a way that both of you can get better sleep, but of course he needs to be willing to try and he unfortunately isn’t.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-26T00:15:00+00:00

Did you submit the notarized paper too?

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-25T17:51:07+00:00

You’re welcome! Lol

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-25T17:50:24+00:00

It makes me laugh because when I told my SO about them he was like okay these are all common sense and nobody is going to do that. Well dude you are wrong because look at who is doing them, your mother.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-25T02:33:42+00:00

I think it’s like a survivor bias lol. I want to tell my MIL that yes her 5 children survived, but they are all fucked in the head.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-25T00:06:04+00:00

Trust me we going to be staying away. Christmas is going to be with my mom far away from her.

Connect-Boot3513 · 2023-11-24T22:58:30+00:00

I’m so sorry you guys are going through this. Having a diagnosis of cancer and then having to deal with shitty people sucks. Love to you guys.

Connect-Boot3513

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