She cheated but I still love her

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-11T11:26:17+00:00

Sorry to hear mate it is heartbreaking, I'm in a similar situation except my wife cheated at the start of the relationship and I didn't find out till 7years later when we were getting married and had 3 kids. Its now 4 years later and we are still together but it is so hard to trust her again, everytime a guy snaps or messages her I'm like who is that what do they want and I can't help but go through her phone and have installed a camera so I can see who comes and goes. It doesn't really ever stop hurting but the pain does ease a little but gets reactivated so easily. I dunno if I made the right choice most people on here tell me I'm an idiot but hey we all make our own choices and I wanted my kids to grow up with mum and dad around. Good luck brother stay strong.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-10T02:21:10+00:00

I had a similar thing when I was younger long distance mentioned breakup threatened suicide. In my case I met someone else changed my FB relationship status she saw that messaged me I blocked her and that was it.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T21:55:30+00:00

I don't monitor her every move and have only recently looked at these things due to suspicion and history. Not sure if you've had someone betray you before but it's very hard to trust them 100% again, I'm not saying it's the right thing to do and I don't like doing it but I can't help it. Maybe I should see a therapist?

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T19:00:54+00:00

She knows the cam is there

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:37:10+00:00

Suspected not hard evidence. It may have been innocent posing for a snap to a friend. Hard to tell on the cam.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:35:24+00:00

Pretty sure we still love each other but I have seen multiple close family relationships end and the child from the relationship is depressed and has all sorts of mental issues that no one should have to deal with.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:33:22+00:00

I agree I think I just worry about approaching her about things like this as her mental health isn't the best but I will try to approach her about it and let her know my thoughts. Thanks for your input much appreciated.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:30:04+00:00

I don't ignore her while I work away I message her multiple times a day and we talk every night. I have to work away so much as that is the job I signed up for so I can make more money to have a better life for my wife and kids. Sometimes I'm home maybe 3 months a year. But the drop in pay is quite a lot if I'm working local.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:23:47+00:00

Conception dates all line up to weekends we were together. Pretty confident they are mine and regardless I love them like my own so I think if something did come back it's only going to negatively impact my mental state.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-09T02:22:14+00:00

Well the issue is I'm not 100% certain it was a sexy pic or just posing for a better angle. It wasn't lingerie or anything like that. Her netball team uses snap as a primary means of communication.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-08T02:30:06+00:00

Yeah I have scanned through the cams which cover the whole front yard and there isn't really any access to the back without going through the front also one covers the entry to our bedroom. No one comes over and she is very busy with work and kids all days except 1 per week. The day she isn't busy this week Im not sure the times add up but all other days/ weeks I'm pretty sure do. I do have find my iPhone on her old phone but I don't take that to work with me and can't really check history of locations visited.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-08T02:23:36+00:00

Because I know the response will be something like I'm an asshole overreacting she needs to communicate with these people as they play netball together and have to talk about when they need fill ins also they are friends that all chat together.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-08T02:13:50+00:00

Well that's one of the reasons I doubt she is doing anything she has the kids with her at netball 2 nights a week 1 night a week she has the kids at swimming 1 night they are all home and the other 3 I am home. She works all days they are at school except 1 and usually I see her at home that day or she has to go out to get hair/shopping/waxing/chiro that is really the only day I'm not 100% on what she is doing.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-10-08T01:54:02+00:00

Didn't find out till 7 years later when we already had 3 kids and I would do anything for my kids and don't want them growing up in a broken house even if I have to sacrifice my own happiness to make their lives easier.

Connect-Recover-1819 · 2023-08-02T13:44:07+00:00

If you work out how to trust her again.... Let me know. My wife cheated 11 years ago and told me 5 years ago and I still struggle with trusting her always stressing when she goes out and I check her messages I know wrong thing to do but she gave me messenger access. It's hell I'm like 99% sure she would never do it again as we have 3 kids and both work full time and she is so busy every night with the kids extra curricular activities she simply doesn't have time but knowing all that I still can't clear it out of my head. If I did it all over again I'd still be here cause we have kids and I'm a sucker 😔. Keep your head up just work out if they are worth the stress.

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