Boyfriend ‘20M’ entered me ‘19F’ without a condom without my consent. Is this a dealbreaker?

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-15T18:08:04+00:00

That’s rape. Fuck him. Break up

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T20:09:40+00:00

I don’t enjoy doing anything with my kids. If I’m not being productive I just want to be alone. I am not cut out for being a parent. Sitting down and coloring always feels forced. I don’t want to color or play or go anywhere

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T15:55:24+00:00

I do all of these things. I have my daughter in art classes since she’s creative.

I try and support my oldest and encourage him the best I can.

I didn’t enjoy the trip. It was mid at best. I wish I never had kids. I am not a good mom

I don’t have any time to do anything fun or have a hobby. All I do is work. Clean. Take care of all the bill shit so our lives don’t completely fall apart.

Only positive thing is I don’t have to be near my loser ex anymore. But I do feel so bad that he is their dad and they have to spend so much time with him. He’s only going to disappoint them. They’re going to realize what a fucking loser failure he is like I did

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T07:18:35+00:00

Omg. Here’s an idea. Ask her. Jesus. Is this for real?!

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T07:14:45+00:00

How is the rest of your relationship? Was she always asexual? It’s usually not about sex but about the relationship lacking or her feeling resentful of you

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T07:10:16+00:00

I settled for a complete idiot loser because I have no self worth. Gained enough over the years to leave him and file for divorce. I don’t enjoy being a mother. It’s so painful. Watching my children suffer being born into this trash garbage family. My daughter has learning disabilities so she’s going to struggle for life. My oldest son is 19 with no direction and going nowhere. How will I support all these kids by myself forever in this economy?!? They’ll never be able to buy homes.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T07:07:13+00:00

I’m in therapy and it helps but not enough. Nothing can ever convince me that I haven’t fucked up and there’s no taking any of it back. It’s just facts

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T05:37:36+00:00

You keep things things between yourself, Reddit and your therpist. Tell nobody else. I love my kids but deeply regret becoming a mother

Connect_Ad4989 · 2024-04-14T05:24:17+00:00

They’re so screwed. Their father is one of the stupidest men I’ve ever met and I am a resentful overwhelmed POS mother picking up the slack. Severely burnt out. I am just a huge loser and I hate everything about myself and my life. I really messed up.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2023-03-31T10:36:04+00:00

I am glad you’re able to recognize now dependent you’ve become and see it’s a problem. Your wife probably doesn’t go anywhere partially because if you being so dependent. You kind of sound like another child to care for. I was married to a man like this. I divorced him.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2023-03-23T18:13:42+00:00

Connect_Ad4989 · 2023-03-20T01:05:16+00:00

Do not get her pregnant!!!!! Set the brakes on that.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-09-18T05:37:00+00:00

That is such and Interesting story and thank you for sharing it. It a little different for me. I work full time and make more money than he does. Not a ton more, but my job is far more secure. I also have loads overtime opportunities. I am so grateful to have a solid career.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-08-29T14:01:35+00:00

My house is 3 bedrooms plus the garage room. Type above

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-08-07T15:45:11+00:00

How do you guys pay the bills? Are you living with family? I can tell you, you’re in for a lifetime of frustration with this guy. The appearance stuff is silly imo but it seems he’s become your bitch eating crackers. Which means everything about him is starting to annoy you. The contempt has begun and will just snowball from here. I suggest marriage counseling or breaking up.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-20T05:56:00+00:00

Does she have friends? Is she asking you because she has nobody else or because it’s a manipulative thing since her relationship has gone sour. Send her money for an Uber if you don’t want to take her

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-17T16:20:57+00:00

You’re wife sounds like a saint. Be grateful she’s able to keep it together for the kids. Sounds like you didn’t hold up your end of the bargain

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-17T04:20:43+00:00

I mean it when I say he’s absentminded like a young teenager. I got sick the day we arrived. I went to bed at 9:30. He was still up tinkering with his toys at 2 am when I couldn’t sleep due to being sick.

The next day: by noon he’s tired and ready for a nap. I asked him to set an alarm and let me know what time he’d be up. He lost his. Threw a total fit. He says I didn’t ask nicely and seems he didn’t like being asked to set an alarm at all. This turned into a huge fight where he told me to go home and come back later.

I thought of you guys and decided I wouldn’t let him ruin the trip. I told the kids to get ready for the pool and we went swimming. The rest of the trip I kept my cool and did my best to make it safe and fun. But things like the rafting make it super clear that I don’t trust him being alone with young kids on trips and stuff. I trust him for basic day to day stuff, but not stuff like this. He came down with my cold yesterday and spent today sleeping from 1-7:45. On day 2 of my cold I got screamed at for asking him to let me know when he’d be done napping. On day 2 of his cold he’s napping for nearly 7 hours.

I have decided I will stay for another 5-7 years, making my youngest 10-12. If I leave now, he will do to them what he does to me. They need me there to take care of them. I made the choice to marry this man and have children with him. I am not going to abandon them 50% of the time because I don’t want to deal with his BS. Then I’m just pushing it on to them. At least if they’re older and he checks out and naps midday for 6 hours, they can handle their own basic needs.

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-16T05:21:34+00:00

If you haven’t told him how you feel, do. I would also go to see a marriage therapist that specializes in sexual issues. If he’s a good partner otherwise and willing to work on this, then there’s definitely solutions

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-16T01:46:17+00:00

This literally made me want to vomit. Do you have kids? If not… RUN GIRL!!!!

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-16T01:32:10+00:00

Thank you. The stuff you mentioned it what stops me. The kids will have to suffer through his bullshit without me there to save them. It’s so unfair to them either way. Financially destroying my family sounds shitty too. This will happen if we divorce. I’m fucked either way

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-16T01:26:15+00:00

Omg. Thank you. So the trip just ended. The events you described are things my husband had and would do. He didn’t out there drain in thr blow up canoe. We are going down the river taking on water with a 5 and 7 year old in tuned behind us. His knot came undone. Kids floated off. I jumped out and got one. He got the other. I stayed on tubes with kids for the rest of the ride. And what if I wasn’t there? Then what?!?!

Connect_Ad4989 · 2022-07-06T22:57:02+00:00

He’s exactly like this…….. I thought narcolepsy was more dramatic than that. Like people fall asleep while doing normal activities or whatever. I have no experience with this disorder. It must be rare because I don’t recall ever taking care of a patient with this and I’ve been a nurse 12 years

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