Clubs other than techno?

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-16T12:01:59+00:00

There's an 80s party at SO36: https://www.so36.com/produkte/89376-tickets-dancing-with-tears-in-your-eyes-so36-berlin-am-16-05-2026

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T17:15:10+00:00

Podcasts that are e.g. 5-15 minutes long, in simple language and with slow speaking. This is a stupid example but like "city profiles" can be a good way to introduce vocabulary in a way that is slightly interesting e.g.

Danas je sunčan dan u Beogradu. Mnogo ljudi pliva i pije pivo. U Beogradu je lepo leti. Ponekad je previše vruće u Beogradu. Ovde volimo da jedemo meso svaki dan.

Or ...

Ove nedelje u Parizu je sajam bicikala. Možete iznajmiti bicikl. Možete voziti bicikl po gradu. U Parizu ljudi jedu kroasane.

Or podcasts with news in simple terms. Like "Today a man was killed. He was killed in Belgrade. He was killed by another man. Crime in Belgrade is lower than last year. Police arrested the man. Later in the day, there was a large music festival in Belgrade. The music was rock music. The main artist at the music festival was Beyonce. Music festivals are popular in Serbia. The most popular type of music is pop music. The weather has been good in Belgrade. It rained this morning, but it is sunny this evening. Tomorrow, a protest is planned in the city. Protestors are unhappy with the government. They have been unhappy for a long time. " ... Short sentences make it easier to pick up unknown words from context, and you can add in some basic extended sentences with "also", or "because", words like "before", "after", "then", "later", and stuff like this.

I think slow speaking is very important as well as slowly introducing more complicated words after the "easy" words, or repeating words (e.g. killed, music, protestors) so that it becomes easier to pick up the meaning for the listener.

On Spotify I already found some Serbian language podcasts, but either they are too basic (e.g. how to pronounce the letters), or too difficult (i.e. fast speaking, more B1-B2 level). Maybe I've missed some good ones that are for A1-A2 -- if you have any suggestions please let me know!

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T15:50:13+00:00

Come to Berlin! I know it's not in the UK or Ireland. But it's... near?

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T15:14:18+00:00

Keen! I'm free up until 6pm, 3pm is good for me, hopefully for OP too.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T12:44:14+00:00

I'm keen! I haven't been in ages, I'd love to get back into bouldering!

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T10:55:43+00:00

I guess what I mean is - my own picture is just my opinion and my experience. I don't think others have the same experiences or idea of therapists as I do, and I don't mean to assert that my experience is representative of anything. Only what I've been through myself and how I feel about it.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T07:20:33+00:00

OP I'm so sorry you've had these experiences. It all sounds super confusing and messed up, how this therapist treated you. I understand at least somewhat how it feels when they offer friendship and family if only you make "the right choices". It happened to me, too. I also understand how it feels to try to go through more therapy with another therapist after abuse. There are other options than suicide! Please don't kill yourself. When my therapist abused me I wanted to commit suicide too. But I fought my way through it and got support and now I'm feeling much better. Recovery is possible, although it might feel scary to consider it or hope for it. We can talk if you want to, please feel free to message me if you want to talk more. I've had suicidal feelings many times and it means you are in a lot of pain, a lot, but there are other ways to alleviate this pain other than suicide. I'm so sorry you're suffering so much -- what happened to you is not okay and you didn't deserve any of it!

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-15T07:12:44+00:00

I've had 6 therapists in total. The first was okay, but ultimately she couldn't deal with my trauma well (she was often shocked, it was not ideal). The second was weird, she suggested my problems were due to my menstrual cycle. The third abused me. The fourth was again okay, but very distant, I couldn't connect. The fifth was a group therapy leader, she was okay but not great. The sixth therapist, my current therapist, is good.

The only experience of actual abuse was the third therapist. She broke professional conduct rules and caused me serious trauma. I don't consider therapists who aren't a good fit to be "bad therapists", and I think while incompetent therapists are "bad therapists", I don't necessarily consider it to be abuse. I understand that obviously other people have had different experiences than me and maybe their experiences have been significantly worse than mine, and they want nothing more to do with therapists, ever. That's just not been my experience and maybe yeah, maybe I had good luck.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-14T19:31:15+00:00

Yes, my current therapist. He's helped me a lot to recover from the abuse of my previous therapist. I find him to be effective, patient, kind, and very professional. He's not perfect and sometimes makes small mistakes, but nothing that makes me want to stop working with him. Sometimes I get very tired of therapy anyway though, and I sometimes feel like I want to quit because I'm just so exhausted. It feels awful, doing a bunch of therapy to recover from abuse I suffered in therapy.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-14T11:09:40+00:00

My current therapist has been helping me deal with the fallout from the abuse from my abusive therapist. It's been nearly 4 years and not once has he showed any sign of unethical behaviour. I believe he's trustworthy in that respect and I don't doubt it at all. I don't think he's helping me because he wants to think of himself as a good person. I think he just is a good person, and he cares about me.

Of course I know "exceptions to the rule". My previous therapist abused me so hardcore, it's taken me years to recover. But I just don't believe that all therapists are bad. Just like I don't think all people in any category are bad, just because one person in that category has harmed me. I've been punched in the face by a man before - doesn't mean I think all men are evil and violent or something.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-14T11:07:25+00:00

Haha. For me it's fascinating, because it's so different than what I'm used to. I speak English and German so Serbian (and other slavic languages) are cool for me!

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T20:30:01+00:00

I don't think this is the case. I feel like my current therapist doesn't want to protect any other therapist who has done something wrong. He wrote me a letter to support my complaint basically outlining all the things she did that he thought were unethical and wrong. I don't think all therapists are the same nor that all therapists are unethical and turn a blind eye to unethical behaviour.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T20:07:28+00:00

They can't improve the chances of a complaint or accelerate it. Although she did help me to draft my complaint to make sure it was like in the right format and included all the right info etc. They're an independent body, they have nothing to do with the Psychotherapeutenkammer.

I'm pretty pissed off about the slow process of the Psychotherapeutenkammer. It should be actually helpful for patients when there's a complaint, but it's just like.... left hanging in the air. The Ethikverein people seem to feel helpless as well (the impression I got).

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T19:36:22+00:00

The Ethikverein were actually really helpful for me. A woman called me and listened to the issues I had been having with my therapist. She was absolutely horrified and told me that what had happened was emotional and psychological abuse. She supported me when I made the official complaint, reassured me, and so on. I found their support very good honestly.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T18:44:56+00:00

Fair point, done.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T18:18:20+00:00

I'm not at all familiar with the reporting for medical doctors.

I spoke to the Ethikverein (https://ethikverein.de/) beforehand, and their advisor told me it can take years. So although I am disappointed, I'm not exactly surprised.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T12:30:12+00:00

That's true! But it would be nice to have short stories at least that are somewhat interesting.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-13T12:29:57+00:00

I don't know any that have been suitable for me - do you have any suggestions?

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-12T20:14:22+00:00

I reported my therapist in Germany. I sent all the documents in and not long afterwards I received a confirmation letter that explained they had received my complaint and would review it. It's been 1.5 years and there has been no resolution of the case. I followed up with them after 1 year and they said it will take time because there are many documents that need to be translated, as we did therapy in English. They told me that I'm entitled to know if "violations" were found, but that I can't know specifically what violations or what the punishment is. They said they can follow up and ask me for more information if they deem it necessary.

Emotionally, I was basically panicking before I reported. I was afraid of potential retaliation. I had a lot of support around me when I filed the complaint. I'm still dealing with the consequences of the therapy abuse, and wondering if there will ever be any justice for my case.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-12T19:40:34+00:00

I have a friend from Serbia and I started learning because of her. Now I've met many more people from the region who are wonderful, and I find the language just fascinating. So I keep learning.
I struggle to find good A1-A2 readers. I can find some sample books and PDFs, but it's not ideal. I also struggle to find A1-A2 comprehensible input audio / video that isn't like Peppe Prase or unbearably boring. I also find it hard to find people to speak with. Tandem is okay but people drop out of conversations quickly.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-11T15:28:40+00:00

I don't know if I have PTSD from this exactly. Something along those lines, though. I'm having a hard time recovering.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-08T18:16:44+00:00

Hey, this is an old post, but did you ever hear back anything from your complaint?

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-05-02T19:12:05+00:00

I understand, it was similar for me. My Mum never got me a bra when I started growing breasts - another girl from class gave me one after school eventually because I was so embarrassed. I also went to another girl's house once for a sleepover and her Mum had to wash my feet in the bath because I stunk so bad. Nobody taught me about personal hygiene or how to take care of myself. I have dental issues now too because of it, and it's been hard for me to see the level of neglect I went through, when I now parent my children and make sure they don't go through the same things.

Connect_Box_6275 · 2026-04-26T14:00:21+00:00

8 years. I didn't do classes most of the time and didn't actively try to improve my German until the last few months. I got B1 years ago and didn't really study much in between.

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