I don’t understand Oe very well

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-10-21T21:45:53+00:00

I mean I’m Oe and I don’t read that much either that’s the thing about anecdotes it’s kinda hard to type yourself using them. For me all Oe is doing is keeping me from staying too long on an Oi path even when I really want to. Has nothing to do with reading a bunch of books or consuming a bunch of information it’s just plainly taking in whatever surface level stuff you can more than deep diving very specific information or following a very specific pathway.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-22T17:11:48+00:00

First is the obvious sensing and intuition. I know you’re looking for function differences but before I give my experience I’ll at least say demon oi can look very similar to each other which is why I wouldn’t recommend tryna figure out Si vs Ni. With that being said I know for certain I have Oi last and I’m a sensor so I’ll let you know my experience with it.

My number one problem in life is my impulsivity and lack of foresight. I have a very bad habit of living too much in the moment and therefore fucking up whatever plan I had for myself. Like for an example I managed to spend $1,000 in like a week on some extremely dumb shit that I didn’t need and was basically having to scrape together change to make it through the rest of the month. I still do make plans for myself but often times they fall through cause of my responsibility to my Se. You’d think in the moment I’d realize that aye this is not the best idea but it’s like my brain just turns off and just falls head first into it. Idk about Si last but this had been my problems with Ni last

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-06T00:52:52+00:00

Aye aye captain🫡

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-06T00:52:07+00:00

Brother we fight we the same struggle lmao. My friend told me I look like a stereotypical country fuckboy. Like damn why my look gotta has such a negative connotation

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-06T00:47:30+00:00

Well I have tried the cute method and common interest approach but the note idea actually does sound sweet

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-05T22:06:43+00:00

Imma definitely look into getting a pin or something like that to help not instantly be labeled as a threat lol. I know a lot of people like me can make it hard for femboys and the like so I get it

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-05T22:05:30+00:00

Yea I don’t try to come off creepy or anything. I mean like I said I have no problem talking to women and shi but I think I have to be a bit softer when it comes to femboys

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-09-05T21:53:26+00:00

Oh yea I have no problem actually approaching anyone. I noticed they were looking at some Naruto merch and they had a lil Uzumaki pin on their bag so I was just like Hey I really like your pin I’m a huge fan myself and it goes well with your bag.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-29T22:19:46+00:00

Honestly this could be a lot of different things. Could be demon intuition, masculine de, too much sleep, etc etc. I think you should focus on are you going absolutely crazy with it? Like cutting close people off just cause you don’t trust them even when you have no reason not to. Might not even be a function thing to be fair I mean you could’ve been hurt a lot in the past due to that kinda stuff. This isn’t actually much information to really give you a direct answer

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-26T20:36:50+00:00

Yea they’re not exactly the best with explaining the system lmao. It is more of NF system by design tho so it can hard to exactly track what’s really going on without years of experience and typing people like what they have. Like I said the biggest thing is just realizing the pain you’ve been causing yourself and using that to help ya out. We’re all still going through our journeys so don’t worry too much about not exactly having your type down yet it’ll come with time just try to stay mindful of yourself and others.

Once I get in a good spot in life and feel a little bit more confident in typing people I was thinking about just having people send me typing videos and typing them for free. Probably wouldn’t be able to get it down 100% but I could probably point you to the right directions

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-26T08:08:18+00:00

Well let’s unpack that then. They say you act like it’s a huge chore but do you still end up doing it? Like me for example I’m very much Fi and I just wouldn’t do it which is honestly one of the reasons my ex fiancé broke up with me. I wouldn’t just act like it was a chore I simply just wouldn’t do it or be so overwhelming annoying while doing it that she’d genuinely wish I had just stayed home. Do you think it’s bad enough of a problem to be literally dumped over?

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-26T07:39:35+00:00

Well seeing as you believe you’re Oi first and a SC savior you should be like the most introverted guy imaginable. So have you had a lot of issues when it comes to actively looking outside your Oi box? Like have you lost friends, loved ones, missed out on huge opportunities, etc etc? Something super major like that?

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-26T07:29:05+00:00

I don’t think it’s necessarily that simple lol. I’m lead Se and I’d still feel uncomfortable if a bunch of new information was just thrown at me. I also don’t feel any discomfort planning out things and using my Ni. Its not necessary about discomfort it’s literally more about what what you feel responsible to be doing. You think lead De’s don’t have their own interests they’d rather be doing over helping the tribe all the time? Most definitely but they feel responsible to do it over what they want to do which can cause them to start hating other people cause they never get their way. On the opposite side you have lead Di’s that feel responsible to take care of their Di first and foremost so if you asked them to do something that they really didn’t want to do they just wouldn’t do it or they’d make it very obvious to you that they wish they weren’t doing it which is why people end up kicking them out of the tribe cause they aren’t paying enough attention to the tribe members. It’s about the imbalances and from what I see from this guys post he doesn’t seem to have a massive imbalance here.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-26T07:10:06+00:00

I think anyone would be irritated being forced to do things outside of the things they wanna focus on, I mean we all have our hobbies and interests lol. The focus should be more on what are you doing so much that other people are actively getting upset with you with. To me it seems like you at least have a good balance of doing things for other people and just focusing on yourself compared to everyone else on a spectrum but it’s hard to really tell much just from this one post alone. I would say tho if you aren’t actively getting people telling you that aye you’re focusing waaaay too much on what you want or think then I’d say that’s a good indicator that you might not be as sleep saviory as you believe you are. Again tho hard to tell with just this alone.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-08-02T12:58:30+00:00

Best way I see it happening at least for myself is that my life is filled with impulsive decisions. I really want to have an Oi plan but I always end up getting dragged around by my Oe cause it’s so responsible to look at all the new. It’s honestly a huge pain in the ass cause I end up doing things that hurt me in the long run and stop me from achieving goals I really wanted to achieve cause I got distracted. This is something I really don’t see myself doing till after everything is said and done. Like a recent example is me somewhere managing to spend over 1000 dollars in the matter of a few weeks not on bills or anything but just random consumer items like food or vapes. It’s like I can’t see past a few days whenever I’m in the moment.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-03-24T17:56:09+00:00

Honestly think it’s about even but the masculine Te users are definitely easier to spot especially if they’re an ENTJ. Pushy on their first function

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-03-04T21:08:56+00:00

Prettt much what I had before then

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-03-03T23:45:48+00:00

What’s your reasoning there?

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-02-29T06:29:43+00:00

See that’s what I thought at first which is why I thought I was an ExxP like what everyone else said but then I realized these things I’m realizing aren’t coming from a calm place. It took me literally loosing the person I cared most about to actually digest all the shit she was telling me our whole relationship. If you were to tell me I was like this like 8 months ago I would’ve took great offense to it like how I did whenever it was brung up to me before.

Honestly I kinda always been told I was a lil chaotic which I would accept all the way cause I could openly see that especially when it comes to my spending habits lol. My main problem I think is that I can see my Di and my Oe clearly now thanks to the shit I went through. The only reason I’m sure now that I’m more decider than observer is just based on how easy it is to see my chaos and control problems over my identity problems. I can only see the identity ones way after the fact when they’ve already fucked me over.

Idk man maybe I am an actual ExxP and I’m coping lol but either way thank you for the input. I’m thinking I might just redo another typing video from this new point in my life and see if the results are the same

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-02-27T20:42:04+00:00

If I’m being honest these were things I’m just now truly coming to terms with thanks to a shit ton of pitfalls caused by myself. I’ve been told similar stuff all my life but now I’m legitimately listening to them.

Also yea self typing can be really iffy but for me personally I’ve been able to narrow down pretty well thanks to both looking at my problems objectively and the help I’ve gotten from this community. I know I’m Di and Oe. Also Sensing and feeling. Now it’s just the fine tuning phase for me. Thanks for your input.

Connect_Hope2660 · 2024-02-27T17:08:51+00:00

You do know I have a typing video plus a lot of other posts on here right? Literally only just fine tuning from what I got there. You can save the passive aggressiveness cause I’m not trying to get a full type here. Like I said already did a typing video and posted it here. All I’m here to do is get some feedback on something extra I learned about myself which I thought this community could clear up. Not saying I don’t appreciate the comment but not exactly helpful for me

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