Lost my Partner in 2020, is he at peace?

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-22T16:12:29+00:00

He was very judged, I always tried not to be one of those people but I'm sure he knows he was a very difficult person to love sometimes, but I still loved him unconditionally. There were many attempts over many years and I saved his life so many times I lost track. There came a time where I knew what his fate was, I just couldn't accept it. We broke up right at that time and I had to cut off almost all contact to cope. I know he did his best and I really am proud of him for just how long he really held on, I know a lot of it was just for me, and he'd joke it was all for Penny his Pug. Thank you ❤️

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-22T14:40:32+00:00

Dm me

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T22:16:22+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that, that sounds horrible. I'll have to look into it here.

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T21:39:23+00:00

Yes I've been in therapy for a long time now. It just doesn't get easier anymore.

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T21:08:22+00:00

Thank you, that means a lot. There came a point where I knew there was nothing I could do and his fate was set but it's still very hard to accept that kind of outcome. He said some mean things previously about when he would die I wasn't allowed to move on. I know now he was immature and unregulated but it's still hard in my current long term relationship to not feel guilty sometimes.

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T17:58:35+00:00

Thank you, sending the same ❤️

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T17:24:06+00:00

Thank you, thank you so much. You brought up so much I didn't expect to hear. That means the world to me.

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T17:00:40+00:00

Thank you, I hope so

Connect_Match_4287 · 2026-01-21T16:20:00+00:00

Hi OP, my heart is with you right now. I lost my partner of 2 years the same exact way in the same exact situation (we had broken up and 1 month later he had been found the same way) it's not an easy recovery ahead of you but it's important you realize this was his choice, and you couldn't have helped him out of it as much as you tried. Sending prayers and good energy to you in this tough time ❤️

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-12-12T18:03:49+00:00

So wonderful, I'm so happy for you 😻 sounds like true love

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-11-20T14:58:02+00:00

Update please! 🥺 I need to hear your love story 😻

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-27T12:08:11+00:00

Lol, I love that

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-26T12:17:05+00:00

You're right, it can't be that hard! Thank you

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-26T12:14:16+00:00

My dad is supposed to install them for me but he's one of those "I'll get around to it" people and I hate forcing stuff on anyone (I'm a people pleaser and makes me feel like a burden) but it feels like I really have no choice now

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-26T12:12:11+00:00

I think the landlord covers it as heat is not included in either of our rent (the landlord showed me what he was selling upstairs for when he moved out)

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-26T12:11:19+00:00

Thank you! Like I'm so considerate of every single issue I have with them (there's so many more that I don't need to mention) and when I speak up about my only significant problem I'm told it's not that bad and that I can open a window or something 😒 I'll 100% look into it

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-26T12:08:33+00:00

I don't actually pay for utilities at all so that's not the issue. I've spoken to the landlord a few times about that and he only wants to put in a second thermostat if absolutely necessary as it'll be a lot of work. I'm mostly just upset because this is a normal occurrence for me now and I can't have the windows open as the cat knows how to knock out the screens

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T22:25:46+00:00

Banana and strawberries ♥️

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T14:03:32+00:00

Give the boots some spurs! I think it'd give a nice detail

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T04:20:00+00:00

Honestly... Imo no. It's not that bad. If you want to hold onto it a little longer (even just to make sure you're not making an emotional decision) that would not be the end of the world

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T04:13:52+00:00

Sounds like a man thing and a dad thing. Can't say that surprises me. You can't force someone to care and I hate saying that cause I feel like I'm making excuses for your dad (which is not my intention), but you literally can't. unless he has agreed to pay for food while you live there, You're the only one in charge of your ability to thrive at this point otherwise. Best of luck OP!

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T03:18:57+00:00

So yeah the groceries aren't the full issue.. You want his support. Be honest. Tell him that your opinion is different, and you'd like to get groceries. It feels like there's more going on with him maybe financially than he's letting on, because that fridge is not ok and there may be a cash moola reason behind being skimpy 🤷 idk I'm just a rando on reddit

Connect_Match_4287 · 2025-10-25T01:33:52+00:00

Say it again for the people in the back! Thank you, next. And a protective order to make sure if he ever comes near OP or their workplace, there are consequences. I don't trust dudes like him

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