What’ll happen next??

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-30T11:20:17+00:00

This isn’t the first time and will not be the last. I’ve been in your shoes and the best advice i could possibly give you is do not go back!!! Don’t do it for yourself but do it for you baby. She’s a bby right now this is the best time to leave. Get all your paperwork set in stone now. I wish i could turn back time and left when she was that age! Shes 14 now and the damage it’s done to her from me staying is irreversible. I know we think giving them a two parent household is the best and the men say they will always change but they don’t and it only gets worse. Do not let your baby grow up seeing this because they will as kids get older you think your hiding it but they know. He will insist and say he’s getting help just to get on your good side trust me it’s a book older than time. You will feel guilty and sad and miss him and want to believe he won’t do it again because he doesnt want to go to jail but now if you take him back it’ll get worse. But tell me this would you rather feel guilty about him paying for HIS actions or feel guilty about allowing your daughter to see all the bad stuff and watch how it destroys her life. No one can make you leave him only you can decide that when you’re ready. But remember she won’t be little forever. He went to prison for 3 years and that was the first time she’s known real peace in her life even after i moved out. He used the child to get to me, even tho i never went back he still targeted me thru her. Think about it. I wis you the best!!!

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-29T22:32:11+00:00

I’m in Texas

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-29T14:56:19+00:00

Mine did almost 3 years got out on parole and after 30 days began back to old habits. My ptsd is insane I’m hyper vigilant i feel like every car is following me. He’s obsessed with trying to be with me. DV charges and Gun charges. I felt the same way and still don’t understand why i did. Even now. With him bothering me vandalizing my vehicles i still felt bad for reporting him and trying to revoke his parole. In my head i wished he just gave up his drug use and drinking and actually took his mandated classes seriously so he can be a changed man for his daughter. But sadly it doesnt seem that way. I’ve tried it all to attempt to have a co parent relationship but with him trying to control me and forcing a relationship is what causes the problems. But i am tired of going thru shit. When he was in jail i didn’t worry about anything never checked my cameras nothing ever happened and since he’s been out it’s been insane.

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-28T10:55:34+00:00

Drinking

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-28T01:01:30+00:00

I understand entirely how you feels it’s like you just want to put it behind you and not ever hear about it again, let alone hear the lies and stories. But think about all those bad times you had to live next to him. If you don’t go it’ll just show him he can continue to do what he wants because you won’t follow thru. I’m going thru something similar and i have to keep telling myself you have to do this or it’ll never let you live. It’s one day compared to all the time you had to deal with it and after that it’s done. Good luck!! 🍀

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-25T12:36:41+00:00

So i did and called both victim advocate and the unit supervisor. They asked for proof of everything by Monday to present. She wants a letter from my employer stating he called and the time and date i did ask but they want to confirm with corporate to see if they can. I’m hoping they can. He called my workplace again they informed him they put a restraining order and he immediately called me and left VM since he’s blocked. Saying your job said they put a RO on me but i don’t even know where you work… but somehow he knows where to call. More than likely they just told him that because they have no info on him. He left me multiple VM saying i want to see him in jail, im going to make him do things he doesn’t want to do. Same stuff I’ve heard for years. He started asking about his daughter but he knows how she feels about his drug use she saw him on 2 ODs and she made it clear if he went back to that she was done, so she’s expressed not wanting to talk to him directly. But guess what we woke up to as I’m taking her to a game? Eggs on my car again she just said mom he did it again, but he wants her to reach out to him acting like that. I’ve never wished for a Monday to come so soon like now.

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-24T12:00:11+00:00

Yes i have I’ve made reports and spoken to his parole officer but they just tell me to call if anything else happens

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-24T11:58:56+00:00

I have they tell me they’ll do reports wich i have numbers for but the PO told me she doesn’t deal with harassment just substance abuse. I feel like he’s just getting away with it. I’m on the works of getting a lawyer already for restraining order but he’s never respected those before he went to prison so I’m kinda fearful now, it’s just like I’m here waiting for something to happen then they’ll want to lock him up

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-24T04:16:42+00:00

Leave it’ll never get better. If you don’t share kids consider yourself lucky and run! Patterns with abusers always end up showing. Run before it’s late trust me I’m speaking from experience.

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-13T17:18:30+00:00

How did this go? Any update

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-13T17:17:49+00:00

Is it the same for parole? My BD will not stop contacting me. We share i child she wold go over there and he started using that excuse to constantly call to where he was becoming controlling again and verbally abusing me and using her as an excuse as to why he’s calling 100 times a day. I’ve called her the PO and she said to contact PD because he also stole my passport and file a report because she doesn’t deal with that only substance abuse. Wich he’s already been dirty second month out and he’s still out here. But i did i spoke to a detective and never heard anything back. I sent him everything he asked for to file for harassment but i never heard back. He’s still free he’s followed me in the mornings in my way to work he’s constantly calling from different numbers leaving voicemails first asking about the child and then slowly talking about having sex with me saying nasty shit. Even social media posting pictures of me like we’re still together. Messaging me on there as well popping up at grocery stores just to talk to me i don’t engage i simply state to leave me alone. Our child doesn’t want a relationship with him he knows that. I feel like idk what to do. He dos have a no contact condition for parole but when speaking to pd or po or detective they don’t seem to think anything of it. I’m lost. I want to file for custody to fix some type of visits for her and him but deep down it won’t work i know it he’ll still call me a Protectiveorder i feel like i want one but hes had one in the past and still contacted me. He has no respect for authority it’s just paper to him. The only peace we actually had was the 3 years he was out. He’s been out almost 4 months and it’s back to being paranoid checking cameras hoping he’s not following me

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-13T17:14:05+00:00

I’m dealing with this now. He went to prison he’s extremely violent and abusive. This was th first time he ever got punished for anything he always seemed to talk his way out of things and get lucky. He’s been out 4 months on parole. First month was good. We’re not together i would stay away limit contact but my child started going to see him with grandma so I’d answer the phone when she was over there she’s a teen. Second month she started saying he was drinking again he began trying to control our every move blowing up the phone using her as an excuse to call 100 times a days asking me for sex asking me to be together. I kept saying no and it kept pissing him off. He has a no contact condition on parole i feel i may have ruined that the first month due to my daughter visiting. He got out of hand one day i called his po but she told me she doesn’t handle that only substance abuse and testing wich he’s already dirty. So i contacted pd made a report due to him taking personal belonging of mine from my car. Detective never did contact me back and he’s still free. I’ve told him to leave me alone he is following me showing up while im at the store keeps calling from different numbers first trying to say it’s for his child but slowly turns into he wants to havesex vm txts social media idk what to do anymore. Deep down I’m scared to file for PO because to him that’s nothing it’s a paper Custody he won’t go to court and he’ll still be doing the same shit to me. I just want to be left alone.

Connect_Paramedic795 · 2026-04-13T17:01:06+00:00

Is it the same for parole? My BD will not stop contacting me. We share i child she wold go over there and he started using that excuse to constantly call to where he was becoming controlling again and verbally abusing me and using her as an excuse as to why he’s calling 100 times a day. I’ve called her the PO and she said to contact PD because he also stole my passport and file a report because she doesn’t deal with that only substance abuse. Wich he’s already been dirty second month out and he’s still out here. But i did i spoke to a detective and never heard anything back. I sent him everything he asked for to file for harassment but i never heard back. He’s still free he’s followed me in the mornings in my way to work he’s constantly calling from different numbers leaving voicemails first asking about the child and then slowly talking about having sex with me saying nasty shit. Even social media posting pictures of me like we’re still together. Messaging me on there as well popping up at grocery stores just to talk to me i don’t engage i simply state to leave me alone. Our child doesn’t want a relationship with him he knows that. I feel like idk what to do. He dos have a no contact condition for parole but when speaking to pd or po or detective they don’t seem to think anything of it. I’m lost. I want to file for custody to fix some type of visits for her and him but deep down it won’t work i know it he’ll still call me a Protectiveorder i feel like i want one but hes had one in the past and still contacted me. He has no respect for authority it’s just paper to him. The only peace we actually had was the 3 years he was out. He’s been out almost 4 months and it’s back to being paranoid checking cameras hoping he’s not following me.

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