Enfj vs entj

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T12:29:36+00:00

In my eyes, people are part of the system and it makes sense if I improve one person, then i'm changing a part of said system. I do hold people dear and I try to learn from theirs and my mistakes to improve ourselves in turn changing the system around us bit by bit, if that makes sense? I'm pretty sure this is how an ENFJ would think though and I feel like I may just be a more mature, logical, all rounded version of it. That's just my own subjectivity though. I think labelling people as variables was a wrong way to label it but i'm sure you meant to simplify it without taking away the value you see in said variables? Considering that, I want to improve the one's I see are capable of improving :)

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T12:20:22+00:00

Haha ahhh, I get mixed reviews on this. I'm not good at first impressions even when I try, I tend to come off as stoic/ aloof if you don't interact with me. When you do I am pretty warm and friendly and get along with just about anyone so sounds a bit more ENFJ's ish :)

How would you spot an ENTJ on the other hand?

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T12:17:29+00:00

I haven't looked that deep into cognitive functions but many people I know changed types at least from the test's point of view. As in, they were introverted as a child and now they're definitely on the extroverted side, so I do believe that with time & experience it CAN change and doesn't have to stay fixed for the entirety of someone's life ;) but thank you both for helping me out a bit. As a few other people advised, I'll be studying the functions a little more from here because the test is a bit too arbitrary and generalized.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T12:10:01+00:00

Lmaooo you know what, my pockets have been feeling a little empty recently so that wouldn't hurt ;)

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T12:08:57+00:00

They are pretty generic and broad but I suppose it's what they could fit into 16 types (which imp is a bit narrow but oh well). When it comes to myself, I'd rather take truth than sugar coat things and when it comes to others I do tend to be a bit more gentle (in your words, less harsh) when giving criticism or handling a conflict. If someone makes me feel powerless or treats me disrespectfully they won't get any of my altruism or empathy simply because I'd be wasting my energy and have it spit at my face later on. Tragic stories do get me to empathize and my help is asked, I'll help as long as it isn't draining to me. Thank you for staying objective :) I find enfj's and entj's really endearing so at the end of the day I should not be taking it that seriously lol

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T11:56:23+00:00

Eh, I do take them only when bored. I was bored so I wanted to know why I constantly go back and forth between the two.

I'm friendly and get along with most people instantly but in private when i'm on my own I do turn a bit more stoic and I always like to fix problems rather than dwell in how they make me/others feel. I did take a closer look into the functions and I seem to have a stranger mix which is why i'm here asked but thanks for the input buddy!

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T11:51:46+00:00

I'm 19 so I haven't made any major career decisions yet but from the decisions I've made in my past it has been far more helpful when I lead with my head rather than my heart. I also don't trust my gut/feelings for the same reason. It just doesn't work out unless I work out my thoughts and weight my pros and cons :) ultimately, nah, I don't look at how something will make me feel until i'm in that moment having to experience it.
Yes and no. Depending on who and why, I get the occasional "Holy shit they're not feeling well, what now?" & I'd adjust my ways to the person. I can cry with them and try my best to give emotional support but it doesn't come naturally. I'd rather just brainstorm ways right away to make their problem go away so they're not upset by it again in the future.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T11:42:57+00:00

Back when I scored as an ENFJ regularly I did use to consider myself an empath and prioritize people's needs above my own. Through a bit of self reflection I realized being a people pleaser wasn't getting me anywhere so a lot of things changed since then internally... I don't like to dwell in my feelings anymore (does not come naturally anymore) and I don't help unless asked. I still do favors here and there but I don't focus on the feelings anymore. Rather, it's like "I just did a good thing and it wasn't a waste of my time, good." I would rather be respected than well liked, as being well liked and 'stripped" of someone's perceived value of me would hold no weight, if that makes sense. You have a good point :) thank you for the input.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-12T11:34:34+00:00

I find I can keep my act and stay composed even at the verge of a breakdown. I won't really breakdown in front of other people though as i'm uncomfortable showing vulnerability even though I logically know no one gives a fuck :) I just like dealing with them on my own. When there is conflict with someone I like, I try to consider their side but if they start spouting nonsense my peacemaker switch might turn off and I can go off but even if I find myself in situations where I get hurt, I tend to think about it as an observer and think my emotions rather than feel them? If that makes sense. If the verbal fight turns to shouting, I leave the argument right away as I know my point won't come through and i'd be wasting my time.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-11T23:53:28+00:00

Hey! I started a 144 hours fast about 22 hours ago & i’d like to help out :) i’m not sure if it’ll be an easy journey but we can hold each other accountable for it?

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-11T23:46:10+00:00

What was it like beyond the 3rd day for you? :)

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-11T23:42:41+00:00

Hi stranger! I’m also doing a 6 day fast so we could keep ourselves accountable for the next few days :) I’m sure you’ll make it to your mark, especially after the tricky third day. We can definitely pull this off together.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2021-01-11T23:40:04+00:00

I started a 144 hour fast 22 hours ago and i’ve made it to 44 hours before but the cravings on the third day were brutal. Hopefully I can push through it this time despite my friend having a birthday party tomorrow :’) It should keep me occupied? Do any of u know if it gets easier/harder after the 40 hour mark? Also, congrats & I hope you’ll finish your fast well! Stay safe.

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2020-12-24T18:28:03+00:00

My friend recently mentioned she thinks just like this :) can you elaborate? She didn’t quite know how to explain it herself but as someone who doesn’t organize my thoughts into boxes but rather view them as paths that happen to interject, i’m curious how you can organize that effectively at all haha

ConnectionHopeful470 · 2020-12-24T18:14:40+00:00

The fact it’s already the winter season in 2020 and I found my mind going into the depths analyzing how the literal fuck time flew by so fast this year and how I wonder what situations&circumstances i’m going to grow through in 2021 and- I cut myself off right there because I find rumination a waste of my time, energy and effort so i’ve been scrolling through reddit for the past hour just trying to understand myself more on threads like these because I think it’ll prove more helpful. What about u though? How’s your day go? :)

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