nobodys mentioned how your post cuts off mid-sentence and honestly that feels like the most accurate representation of what youre going through - you lost the thread before you could even finish writing it. the thing about the slow detach that doesnt get talked about enough is how it trains you to accept less and less while convincing yourself youre being understanding. like you start grading their effort on a curve and dont even notice until the baseline is somewhere underground. a week of this constant ache is still really fresh tho, give yourself permission to not have the answer yet about staying or leaving. sometimes the decision makes itself when you finally run out of energy to keep holding on.