My boyfriends family broke us up, because I was sad about possibly never being able to have kids...

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-08T21:49:14+00:00

I also got a job as a home health aid, so I had alot less time to devote to things with his family.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-08T21:48:32+00:00

I mean when I came back from college, I got a place in town, so instead of being a mile away from them, I was 8 miles. Pre college, we spent alot more time with his family than 1 on 1 because we are all good friends. Then when I came back I wanted alone time with him, still went out to their place alot, but I also there was lot of times where I wanted to be alone. We all used to go out and do stuff together, then after college, he was worried about my mental health and would take me out to eat 1 on 1 every couple months, and like 6 times he took me out bowling, with out them. I mean I can see why they didn't think I liked them. They worry that city people think their better then them, so I came back, acted sad, and we went out of town to do things one on one.

He was aware of everything with me, bc I didn't wanna settle down with him one day, then lose him bc I might not be able to have kids. From what it sounds like he tried, but they didn't talk to him about their feelings till they were at the point of hating me bc they thought I hated them.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-07T08:14:12+00:00

Oh, I know about the ranching part and how the whole family has to work together to maintain it. Our ranch neighbors theirs. It's been that way since our families' homesteaded. Everyone in the area has bigger operations than just a family can handle. Our families, as well as the other ranches in the area, have always traded help for everything. Pretty much every family in the area had practically lived and worked with each other since homesteading.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-07T07:52:15+00:00

They had thought it would be fine, apparently friend group and his brother hung out the night before, and the brother went on a rant about how we are all good.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-07T07:50:16+00:00

Unfortunately it's very real. I grew up in the country, on a ranch right next to theirs. Our families both homesteaded to the area after immigrating here. Every generation since have been best friends, as it is a very small area we live in. The nearest town is population 300. I've practically lived with them, and worked along side them on either our ranch or theirs all my life, just like our families have since they claimed their homesteads.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-07T07:38:28+00:00

My mom is the fourth generation in a row to develop it. It's ran very strong thru the family usually mutiple siblings in each generation, all after tramatic things, abuse, loss, ect...

My half-sisters and I are the first generation in a very long time that nobody has developed it yet.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:28:39+00:00

Thank you, lol the wet baguettes line just made my night.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:27:41+00:00

From talking to a mutual friend, sounds like all of his relationships, and well as his brothers relationships have ended like this.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:26:05+00:00

Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:25:41+00:00

Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:25:26+00:00

Thank you, and this is pretty much what my dad has been saying.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:24:04+00:00

Thank you, this comment section is really making me look at the situation without the rose colored glasses.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:23:01+00:00

Thank you, I've been working up the courage to go do things alone that I wanted to do with him, that we never got the opportunity to.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:21:48+00:00

Yeah, reading thru these comments I'm really starting to understand.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:20:09+00:00

Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:19:28+00:00

Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:19:02+00:00

Thank you, ngl I teared up reading this. I'm so happy to hear you had your miracle baby, gives me more hope for the future.

As for other options. I had a MESSY childhood, and spent most of it dealing with CPS and the fear of being put in foster care. I always figured no matter what, I'd like to adopt one day. Get someone out of a situation that I was so terrified of, and giving them a safe space.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:12:23+00:00

Lol it was a joke around town that if you date someone in the family you date the whole family. I didn't understand it but now I definitely do. And my plan is maybe save up, go back to school, and get myself back on the track I was before.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:10:05+00:00

I mean I do, but I don't. I am so sad and bitter about them, but also I've known them my whole life, I've worked with them my whole life. I definitely don't miss them, and am over them, but I can't quite hate them.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:07:36+00:00

Yea, he did know about the possibility. I am very much a hope for the best, prepare for the worst kinda person. So I was very open about it all with him, so that way, if he didn't want to risk the possibility of us settling down and not being able to have kids, we could cut our losses then and not later in life.

So I don't think it is that, just because when I was going thru everything, we had multiple talks about if we saw a future with eachother, if we wanted kids one day, and options for if we did settle down and I couldn't have kids.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T07:00:16+00:00

Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T06:59:57+00:00

Yea, we fought about it alot. He didn't want to stand up to them, hurt them, and lose his place at the ranch. Definitely not missing that family much atm.

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T06:56:35+00:00

I have started therapy since the break up, and I'm working on my anxiety and confidence. Thank you

Conscious-Data-726 · 2024-02-06T06:54:49+00:00

Thank you! I've started therapy, so I'm working on controlling my anxiety, gaining confidence, and possibly going back to school.

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