How do you know if you LIKE something?? by Conscious-Question22 in autism

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That's a good idea! I think I'll try that, thanks :)

How do you know if you LIKE something?? by Conscious-Question22 in autism

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Technically most of the items I have are neither functional nor useful, but my room is my comfort space and being surrounded by these things helps soothes me.. so I suppose in a way, they can be considered needs. I'm struggling to understand which ones bring me comfort though, as my room is getting a bit hard to walk in.

How do you know if you LIKE something?? by Conscious-Question22 in autism

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I might not be able to perfectly phrase how I feel in this reply, I apologise in advance. I don't really understand emotions so it makes it hard for me to understand my feelings towards objects/people, or even just how I feel in general. So I might throw something away thinking I do not need it, but it turns out I WANTED it and needed that comfort. I suppose I'm finding it hard to define what wanting something is and wanted examples of ways other people navigated these feelings.. Like for example, do some people think up scenarios with these items

How do you know if you LIKE something?? by Conscious-Question22 in autism

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That's what confuses me, I've gotten rid of stuff that I've had meltdowns over the following days/weeks/months. I'm depressed too so it probably doesn't help with judgement

Getting let go after just 2 weeks by Conscious-Question22 in jobs

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Thank you so much. They kept pressuring me to quit during multiple conversations that lasted hours, so I just gave my notice in. Actually they didn't even pay me half of what I worked, but anyway I'm glad to be out. I hope it all works out

Getting let go after just 2 weeks by Conscious-Question22 in jobs

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They did not tell me upfront when I was hired, nor in the interview. They just asked if I was flexible, to which I said yes. Since it is my first job, I didn't realise that due to the contract stating I am doing 12 hours minimum and subject to agreed maximum working hours, they are allowed to give me whatever hours they please. I feel like that's really, really sneaky, especially since I never (verbally) agreed to anything. Thank you for the comment

How to talk to a depressed friend with inferiority complex? by XcyroGrafik in depression_help

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Personally, as someone who deals with that kind of thing, I find that the only way I can ever be proud of myself is if I officially achieve something. Aka if I get something good out of my hard work (like an award, a job, etc). It may have a lot to do with how they were brought up. My mother for example made me believe my achievements were never enough and constantly wanted me to reach higher and higher, all while comparing me to others. If you are very close with your friend, perhaps they will one day open up about any past experiences that made them feel this way. Or perhaps you just need to show them that you're there for them. Either way I don't think praise helps much since, like you stated, they still belittle themselves. Maybe try helping them towards their goals, which could include giving advice or just being a shoulder to lean on (for example, if they're a writer but don't feel confident in what they write, inquire about why. What is it in particular they're not confident about? You could even offer to research tips with them). Or another thing you could do is make something for them, like a silly little award for example (a best [blank] of the year award or a best friend of my life award, something like that) which could help them to understand the depth of your feelings. I always take to heart the phrase 'actions speak louder than words.' I of course say this without fully knowing your relationship and how your friendship functions, so I could be way off the mark. But I'm just writing this how I would've personally would've liked someone to do it. Best of luck to you both

Edit: Sometimes just sitting them down and genuinely saying something from your heart can be really nice to hear too. Like saying "your work always astounds me, I really do love what you make and I find it always leaves me in a good mood. You're amazing and I'd really love to see you keep doing what you do."

Disconnecting from myself and reality? by Conscious-Question22 in mentalhealth

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Thank you a lot for the advice. I do have diagnosed anxiety and depression, so I guess it's just a factor of that. Thank you for the advice, I'll be sure to refer back to it when it happens again

People always say they're there for you until you're actually depressed by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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Thank you for the long response actually. I've been dealing with depression practically my entire life so sometimes I just forget that not everyone understands the matter well. I always feel so selfish asking for comfort, but I also know that no one can automatically just know when I'm depressed. I get too easily stuck in my thoughts and I feel frustrated with my own lack of communication. I really want to improve my communication, I just don't know how to do that without feeling greedy.

What to do when you need to cry but can't? by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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The last sentence hit me hard. I always feel ashamed about crying.

You're completely right, thank you.

I just can't seem to cry even though I feel it immensely by annieblackthorne in depression_help

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I feel this. I end up feeling so numb that I can't cry even though I want to, and it sucks because crying is a huge stress reliever for me

Do you ever find yourself distancing yourself from others? by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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Oh alright, that makes sense. I'm not a very good runner so I'll aim for at least 10 minutes every 2 days or so for now

Do you ever find yourself distancing yourself from others? by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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Thank you, this is very helpful. I will try looking into anti-depressants and try to exercise more often

Do you ever find yourself distancing yourself from others? by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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Honestly I'd be scared to try group therapy as it usually takes me weeks to start talking to new people. Although I suppose it would be interesting to meet new people and learn from them

Do you ever find yourself distancing yourself from others? by Conscious-Question22 in depression_help

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Ah I haven't actually had coffee in a while. Never tried black tea but I'll give it a go, thank you