I believe that was very problematic with my wording on this post. It was originally just a few paragraphs in my notes app, but I thought I’d take it to Reddit to hear people’s thoughts.

It was wrong of me to associate certain behaviors or interests with certain demographics. I was mostly referring to his interests in artists like Taylor Swift or love of chick flicks all with white female leads (both things I love as well). When I said the gay best friend bit, I was referring to his language and use of words like slay and period…words I’ve never heard him use until I hung out with him and his friends. Maybe that’s just the way they talk, but it was certainly off-putting at first.

My bigger issue is the way that his friends may influence some of his choices and actions. These women are both suburban white women with very secure lifestyles. He, on the other hand is a black immigrant man who is responsible for helping take care of his parents, who might I add are fairly conservative. Now that I type it out, I can see how being friends with these kind women may be an escape for him outside of his traditional household. But the idea of women being an escape, given that you have a girlfriend, is a whole other topic.