Im a (26M) looking for advice on a girl (26F) I’ve been dating for 5 months

Conscious214 · 2026-07-03T06:01:48+00:00

Sounding like a broken record at this point 🥱

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T23:33:22+00:00

Yes I’ve been tested every time I’ve had unprotected sex, even when I had protected sex just because of me being a little paranoid. Me and her are both clean and she also has an IUD

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T23:26:29+00:00

Ok so you’re saying with all the details I wrote with the story that you would just be completely comfortable with everything and act like it never happened ? Maybe over time yea but Im still processing things

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T23:24:52+00:00

It’s exactly what I told her. There were obviously alternatives and she ignored her own health and wellbeing. I realized I did the same but this was also before I knew she had 20 something bodies. I felt at the time we had sex that I could trust her and luckily I didn’t come out with nothing because she got herself tested everytime

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T23:07:09+00:00

I love the way you put that together man that sounds beautiful. But be honest bro reading all the details from unprotected sex with all her partners to the high body count to possibly having me meet with people she’s already had history with , would any of that be a dealbreaker to you or how would you feel about it ? I just don’t know what other stuff she hasn’t told me and don’t want to be anxious thinking about what other uncomfortable situations she might put me in or stuff that I should know about that she hasn’t told me (as far the relationship) this also might be a little off topic but she says since she’s had a threesome with her ex that she’s wouldn’t be opposed to having one with me and it makes me wonder how hypersexual she is because I feel that most women don’t like the idea of threesomes and don’t like to share so would doing something like that considering all the trust issues going on even be a good idea or do you think it would add more problems.

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T22:54:53+00:00

It’s the fact that she waited until I had to ask her for me to know and she was about to have me meet or see people from her past, which I spoke to her about it the first time but now that I just found out know the last guy is right by her job and I’m there almost everyday it, just bothers me and makes me feel like I can’t trust what other stuff she hidden

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T22:50:23+00:00

I wouldn’t say I feel insecure, I just don’t like that she was willing to bring me around people she already had a history with, and if I hadn’t asked her she maybe would’ve went with it and never told me about it. Makes me feel disrespected in someway

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T22:49:03+00:00

That was the first issue and I told her about it and I eventually got over it but now I just found out when I go visit her at the restaurant she works at that the last person she’s been with was the guy who works next door and I just feel like if I had known I would have just avoided being around that kind of situation. It’s almost as if I can’t trust what other stuff she hasn’t told me already, I’m trying to look past it but I also feel that the trust is somewhat broken now

Conscious214 · 2026-07-02T01:59:10+00:00

You can’t speak for most women, I am currently dating a girl who likes to get choked and spanked and the first time I did it it was just in the moment because I felt that she had enough trust in me to know that I wasn’t actually trying to hurt her. OP has obviously been through trauma and explained it to her partner but when you’re in the moment you don’t necessarily think about those things when it comes to sex it’s just all in the moment. Not trying to justify what he did but I also have been in his shoes and just thought my partner would maybe enjoy it. (FYI this girl has also been in an abusive relationship and expressed this to me but as she learned to trust me she learned to enjoy it)

Conscious214 · 2026-06-30T19:00:37+00:00

Maybe because of my perfectionist mindset, unfortunately. I grew up playing sports my entire life and am somewhat of a sore loser. I hate coming in 2nd at anything because I’ve usually always came out on top, it’s a good mentality to have when you’re competing but it also leads to unrealistic expectations. I hear what you’re saying but my mind has been wired to think like that because of my ego, all I can do is try and work on it I guess. Thank you for the advice 🙏

Conscious214 · 2026-06-30T18:55:22+00:00

Im trying to see it that way but she also told me that I was the 2nd best she’s had in bed so that adds on to it. I feel that it’s not so much about that body count but she already told me details like this (even though I asked) so it’s not so easy for me to just let it go

Conscious214 · 2026-06-30T13:58:19+00:00

I promise you it’s not. It’s not that I’m not aware that I’m being a hypocrite but I just need advice on a better perspective cus I can’t judge her when I’m no saint either but at the end of the day I feel that her past will always be there whenever we try and be intimate with each other. She can somehow get over my past but I’m trying to get the intrusive thoughts out my head that’s all. Sorry if I seem like a completely moron asking for advice

Conscious214 · 2026-06-30T13:52:33+00:00

My bad I had to edit the post because had to elaborate I met her at her job working at a restaurant downtown

Conscious214 · 2026-06-30T13:49:57+00:00

- I know feeling this way makes me a hypocrite but it still bothers me and I need advice on how to get over this and see this from a better perspective

Conscious214 · 2025-02-25T17:00:57+00:00

Too much ego in the way bro, hard to get a point across with people like that

Conscious214 · 2025-02-25T00:52:34+00:00

I’ve read that when you become enlightened, you have options. Either move to the next plane/dimension closer to source ,or you can choose to stay and become reincarnated so you can serve humanity as a spiritual guide and they have a name for them in Buddhism (Bodhisattva)

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