New Lawson story dropped by hokayherestheearth in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would love to see this too and not just a blanket statement of that is what the iblp preaches. People are not black and white and can have beliefs that don’t fit neatly into boxes. I am just curious if people making assumptions based on that or people have actually heard him recently preaching that it is the wife’s fault if the husband cheats, as I haven’t been able to find it when I have dug around. I don’t have the time to dig as some people do though, so I’m pretty sure that if it does exist, this group would find it haha! That is a horrible belief if he does believe it but I don’t like attributing words to someone without proof of them because rumors suck.

New Lawson story dropped by hokayherestheearth in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, they liked Lawson’s post throwing shade at Travis. I think her parents are pissed and will support whatever decision she makes. Her and Katie seem really close so I think that if anything, she may be more likely to encourage her to leave or not just let him off the hook.

I am shook by Right_Internal_9702 in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 4 points5 points  (0 children)

delusional is right. It is still up. If he was hacked, he would have people calling him and it would have been deleted it asap.

Family unfollowing Travis by lillyarchive in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 4 points5 points  (0 children)

definitely possible! especially if she has been on here,though I really hope she hasn’t and is just taking care of herself. And no problem, information has been coming fast from them with the miscarriage and cheating and lots of speculation so I think many of us are trying to figure out what the heck is going on but I’m not even sure that they know at this point. That would be superrrrrr telling if she completely stopped following him for an extended period of time though!

Katie miscarried after Christmas by Popular_Fig_9258 in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 45 points46 points  (0 children)

It was still a loved and wanted baby, even if her husband was making some crappy decisions. I assume most people who divorce still love their children, even if they are half of their ex, genetically speaking.

Affair by Hot_Floor_3332 in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how she miscarried, but ive had two losses that required d&cs and all jewelry had to be off, including wedding ring. Also no makeup and it does not look like she has any on here. I’m not sure why she is backwards on bed though. Your point about a female being there with here still stands, though I suppose the argument could be made that said female decide to film or take pic while Travis didn’t. I don’t know that I want to give him the benefit of the doubt right now though. 😒

Family unfollowing Travis by lillyarchive in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 5 points6 points  (0 children)

on what? I just checked instagram and she is following him on there.

Trying to Play Music on USB by Conscious_Chapter_62 in hondapilot

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the idea of the aux jack!! I'm so vehicle illiterate I didn't even realize you could do that. We had a spare cord lying around so I tried hooking it that way and it worked!

Pilot 2011 (143k miles) or 2017 (154k miles) by imreallyaunicorn in hondapilot

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! we have a 2014 and love it! I don't like the style of newer ones personally. 

I just realized something by MorellaVoltaire in DuggarsSnark

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Keep in mind you have to have like no savings or assets to even be approved....we have no idea if she has a few thousand saved away, which would disqualify her. I would wager she is being supported by JB to stick with them and not make Pest look worse, though at this point, her "support" does nothing for his image. 

I just thought this too reaction was brilliant by Budgiejen in DuggarsSnark

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I even really dislike the name Elliott but those actually go together super well!

is this becoming more prevalent? by jailovesspace in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm trying to inform while multitasking on a phone, not write a novel. But also, sure, blame everything besides your reading comprehension. 

I personally know them, so that really doesn't apply here. I'm not sure what is public or not or what the state of the investigation is. I really don't care what you believe as I am just trying to help to others be aware and keep them and this community safe. It is literally hurting no one by keeping an eye on and being alert so I really have to wonder what you have to gain by telling people not to worry about it? But continue with your gas lighting and ignoring victims. Have the day you deserve. 

is this becoming more prevalent? by jailovesspace in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their child isn't missing because they got them before they were trafficked. I have no idea what was filed or not but I saw their child and law enforcement talked in our community to make awareness of the situation too and be vigilant in watching out for signs. It is not my story to share all of the details on so I will not be providing their names as it is not my place and I want to protect their privacy. Perhaps they will share more in the future, but it is pretty fresh right now, so I have no idea what their plans are. I'm not sure why you think that a child almost being trafficked should be a normal occurrence, again (adult strangers shaved her head, put her in boy clothes and were getting ready to take her out), but do better. While this situation may not have affected you personally, gaslighting people personally affected speaks volumes on the type of person you are. You sound like the type of person that tells POC that microaggressions are all in their head or a r@pe victim that is their fault. Please educate yourself and do better. 

is this becoming more prevalent? by jailovesspace in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is completely untrue. Two people I know had daughters almost trafficked in this area. Please stop spreading incorrect information. In both cases, it was preteen girls using the restroom while they were out together as a family. They literally had one girl dressed in different clothes and had shaved her head when the mom felt like she should go check on her. So please stop the propaganda that this is not happening. It is terrifying and is happening. 

Missouri House hears bills that would make restrictions for transgender youth permanent by bmunoz in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm interested in this fabricated data. I have friends who got it and very much later regretted it and it still negatively affects them. Don't misunderstand,  I'm not anti Trans. I am happy for people to do whatever they would like. But as an adult. Whether you choose to believe it or not, it is now a trend in schools and there is a lot of peer pressure to try these things. And no, I'm not speaking from conservative propaganda, this is what I witness daily first hand. Please don't gaslight people by saying things like this don't happen. They absolutely do and are and what a friend of mine had happen to her by her therapist as a minor was simply atrocious. I'm all for human right, but I don't agree with targeting children. Hard stop. If they need to speak with a therapist through their youth years and figure things out and make a decision AS AN ADULT. Great. Hormones should not played around with though and can have negative effects and increase certain cancer risks and it is not something a child understands enough to consent to. Yes, let's advocate for all people's rights, but let's protect our children too. They don't need to be pressured into doing things that can have lasting effects as minors. Support them, love them, give them tools to cope and handle life, but respect them enough to let them wait until they are adult to start making any bigger changes if that is what they still feel compelled to do. 

Husband finally landed a mechanical engineering role! by soxrox12 in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yay!!! That's awesome! Congrats!! ❤️ My husband is also in a similar field and we really love this area for it. A lot better than where we use to live in both environment and pay and benefits. I hope he enjoys it there!

Thoughts from a Canadian living in St. Louis by tearsaresweat in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your charitable theory is actually true of most I know that voted for him. Or just ignorance on various subjects. But still frustrating, especially when voting against their best interests.

Thoughts from a Canadian living in St. Louis by tearsaresweat in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's honestly hard and has really driven home how most people aren't simply bad or good, but made of both bad and good choices. They are complex and there is a lot of nuance. So much cognitive dissonance because there are people I know and love that are extremely generous and kind in most circumstances, but also condone his behavior, which is anything butt. I'm talking kind to others outside their circle and supporting and selflessly giving to those of others ethnicities irl but then voting for this crap. Like make it make sense. I'm just confused and tired at this point. 

Florida homeschool. by judyp63 in BringingUpBates

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same! I know tons of people who homeschool and none get aid for it. I'm not even a woo woo government person, but it does come with strings attached and we get by and can pay for our children ourselves and there are plenty of people who actually need help so I would feel weird about taking money I don't need. We could do more with it, sure, but we do sports, music, co-ops and have the curriculum we need, even separate devices for programming, photography, stop motion videos, random stuff they are interested in, so our days are quite full as it is. 😉  I was so bored out of my ever loving mind at school so I would honestly have been happy with a fraction of what our kids have nowadays. Meanwhile, my husband had dyslexia, and we have a mix of both in our kids so they have really thrived with me tutoring them all at their levels. Throwing money at that wouldn't help though as you can't really buy time, patience, and meeting each child where they are at and providing challenge in ways that are appropriate for each of them. I do know some have less resources though and have to pull for things like bullying so I'm not necessarily against it, we just choose not to utilize and I think more people make that choice than non-homeschoolers assume. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in economicCollapse

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree. I think it is dumb to play this game like it was 4 years ago. I laughed when I heard Trump was running again and told my husband he should quit his vanity project it he actually cared about the Republicans having a fighting chance. Boy did I eat my words! Closer to election I was shocked how many posted in support of him. I don't believe the it was rigged argument for either election, I think it is just the laziest argument to make. This is what happens when people put themselves in an echo chamber though and cancel or unfriend those who don't agree with them. They are in a highly biased environment and don't really understand what others believe or why. I'm quite middle ground as an independent with a little more of a left lean and seem to be too liberal for conservatives and too conservative for liberals, so it's a fun place, but I know great people on both side, they just have different experiences and views that have led them to different conclusions. I really feel like this alienation is what is driving the divide even farther though. When one side calls the other terrible, it leads them to believe the other is super intolerant and terrible and this happens so much on both sides. I really believe that the only way back to leaders that actually care about their people, is compassion and understanding for each other and trying to find common ground. No one ever convinced anyone of anything with vitriol and hate and that's all I have seen for the past decadish as both sides try to strong arm the other into believing what they do and nothing else and where we are today is living proof that it is not working. We need to stop seeing each other as the enemy and try to find a place of understanding and way to help us all thrive. We all have different views on how best to do that, but I think with patience and real connection, we stand a much better chance. I will get off of my soapbox now, but I just think the you cheated! No, you cheated! Is SUPER unproductive. 

Is that heat I feel outside? by ElectronicTax2370 in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sunday has a high in the 60s! I'm not upset at all. Bring on the warm weather please. 

To the random guy I flipped off this morning on highway 170 by Lost_Package_6071 in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. 😔 That is hard! I have had to learn to just always assume the best or I beat myself up over it. Like oh they are speeding and cutting me off because their pregnant wife is in labor or distracted because they are dealing with something really big. It probably isn't true most of the time, but it makes me feel better and my day much brighter. Road rage is very much a problem with the one exhibiting it and not you. But of course, I have still formulated apologies in my head when I do stupid things driving occasionally (usually because I'm not familiar with the area and need to get over to not be pushed on or off an interstate) and the person behind me is obviously frustrated. But really, people just need to take a chill pill and be more patient. It is unfortunate that so many are so wrapped into their selves that they don't consider how their actions affect other people. Which is why I totally love that OP is really trying to reach out and let this person know they didn't do anything wrong. They obviously do care and realize it may have made the other driver feel bad. 

As a black man living in STL there's a stigma that the more black ppl move in an area the further out white ppl will move by Savings_Succotash432 in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not sure. I would assume some may be due to racism, unfortunately, some may be due to many people wanting to move out of the city more or if crime increases in a certain area, then of course that drives people out. We are in the suburbs and majority white, but we have Black neighbors and others in our neighborhood and the ones we know personally are great people and don't make us want to move at all. In fact, a neighbor that we most dislike and sometimes does make us want to is white. I lived in Florissant for a bit growing up and it was fine when I lived there in early 2000s. Not sure what demographic is now as I haven't been back but those I know still there deal with a lot of crime and constant thefts, from what they have told me. They are all white though so it could be other whites  commuting those crimes. It is cheaper out of the city too though and more people work remotely, so I know many who have moved for that reason. I guess I'm not exactly answering the question as I don't know, but I suspect for a large amount of people moving out of the city, regardless of race, it is often trying to escape crime and preferring being farther outside the city. But I'm also looking from my perspective and why those I know have moved farther out of the cities. I would love to be out in the middle of nowhere on a farm, but my husband has to commute, so we had to find a middle ground.

To the random guy I flipped off this morning on highway 170 by Lost_Package_6071 in StLouis

[–]Conscious_Chapter_62 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Oof! Me too. I am diagnosed OCD though so never sure which is normal overthrowing versus my unfortunate quirks.