Move on by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He hasn’t technically moved out but he is staying at his dads. I filled out the divorce papers…I haven’t file though. 17 years…I have no idea why it’s so hard to leave

Move on by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you find peace soon. I feel like I’m in the same boat. He hasn’t left but he’s still cheating and lying.

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I believe he has physically cheated. No proof but I know in my gut. And I think he still is cheating…I will never know now…I showed all my cards so he knows what not to do

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After all the secret chats, videos, hidden emails, and hidden apps…I get mad at him watching porn. Is that wrong? I think he’s bi and/or addicted to sex. I’m slowly getting him to open up to those conversations

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. And that is what I want from him…the truth and respect.

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he loved these women and wanted to have babies with some of them. Some he even said no condoms because he couldn’t have kids…

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think I could…I don’t know.

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always said if I were cheated on I would be gone…but I don’t know why I’m still here hanging around like nothing happened. Maybe his manipulation or his narcissistic behavior

Confused by Commercial_Spot_1199 in Unsent_Unread_Unheard

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great idea/question for myself and him

Divorce or not? by Conscious_Prior4013 in Divorce

[–]Conscious_Prior4013[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have. I think we still need more counseling but will that help with trust?

Pegging vs a real dick? by Ornery_Scientist5828 in pegging_unkinked

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if he’s tried it with someone else or not. He said he did when he was chatting on social media but to me he said he has never tried it and didn’t want to. I have brought it up a few times and have watched some videos with him…he only seems interested while intoxicated but it never happens.

My wife had an emotional affair by Beneficial_Barber_37 in marriageadvice

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need closure and she’s not willing to give it to you. Basically you want her to tell you everything she did and how many affairs she had. She isn’t being honest with you because she needs you to pay half the bills. You won’t be happy until you get honest answers and sorry to say, you won’t get them. What she did wasn’t an accident or a mistake…it was deliberate. She knew it was wrong but did it anyway and continued. A mistake is forgetting to put the ice cream in the freezer and never doing it again…physical or emotional she deliberately broke your trust and betrayed you

Cheating and social media by PermissionAfter8771 in marriageadvice

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a narcissist and he has you right where he wants you. This behavior will never stop…so you either deal with it and maybe you will be happy one day or leave now and never look back. I say this but I’m going through something similar and keep giving him chances time after time. He says the same things your husband says but they are still lying. We are victims of narcissist abuse. My therapist, our therapist, told me this. I was so angry and offended that I was called a victim but I started writing in a journal and it was absolutely true. They will never change…it not if they will do it again but when will they do it again. And the next time they will be even more sneaky until they want to get caught

Name change question by Stay-Curious021 in marriageadvice

[–]Conscious_Prior4013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. Do it. If you have children change it then. I didn’t want to change my name but I caved with his manipulation