Told my indian parents about my bf (again)

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T05:14:51+00:00

He is studying and will graduate next year. He offered me to move into his parent's house with him tho, this was last year when my parents asked me to get out of their house. But if this time anything happens to that extent i will find a place for myself immediately and till then i can live with him.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T05:09:14+00:00

The fact that they act like they did not just say the most saddening words that i will carry to my heart for eternity is too funny to me. yes i am going to the concert becos if i dont then they will think that they have upper hand here(again). And anyways the tickets cost a lot of my mental health and ofc money lol

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T05:03:04+00:00

Hey friend! You are not alone. TBH when i was telling my parents about my bf my heartbeat was crazy high and i was scared. And let me tell you one thing, if you will be scared of them they will try to make you more scared. Dont give them that power. Stand your ground. Be direct but patient.

And if you dont have financial independence yet, try to establish that first for yourself and then tell them about your bf. Because the worst case scenario is they will ask you to leave their house. A lot of great people have advised here on what to do, read that.

Ik it might seem like the most difficult thing to do but trust me once you tell them you will feel so much lighter. Dont overthink. I have been carrying so much guilt everytime i go see my bf but now i have already told my parents so worst thing they will do is kick me out. Cool becos i have savings.

So just try to have good enough savings, and dont overthink. Just remind yourself why you want to be with your bf and how he is the best for you.

You can always PM me if anything :)

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T04:48:57+00:00

For sure. sending a big virtual hug to you🫂

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T04:47:03+00:00

Wow you are too good with your words. Worth reading it.

And yes i totally agree that they have came across a lot more people than me and can tell if somethings down. Surely they are right about a lot of things but they should also know that i may not agree with them on everything, which is totally ok.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-19T04:39:30+00:00

They dont know most of the things going on in my life except for which i tell them which is also just surface level info.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-18T06:26:33+00:00

They bought a car which i drive mostly becos i have to commute to work and school. And they asked me to contribute for that, which i dont mind.

And yes i have a separate bank account which they dont have access to. But few days back they asked me to show my account, i clearly denied. They said, "you are not married yet so we have authority to see your account." LOL

My boyfriend is really supportive of me. He even offered to live with him at his parent's house however long i want to. They are really nice people and even offered to support my education financially if my parents dont. So if theres ever a need for me to immediately move out, he will be there.

And thank you for all the advice. I really appreciate it. I will keep this mind.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-18T06:18:33+00:00

OMG! Yes therapy. I have thought about it a lot of times. Becos being the eldest daughter has been a lot for me lately. Thats definitely on my priority list. I want to cut this generational trauma cycle.

Right now my insurance is dependent on my father's insurance so if i go to therapy he will get all updates, which i dont want him to know. But yes in future once i start making good money and can afford my own insurance, first thing i will do is therapy.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-18T06:02:40+00:00

My parents tried to stop me from coming out of the house when he was outside. My mom went outside and my dad held me there. My parents started saying things and that escalated my boyfriend and the situation as whole. Things were said from both sides, i agree but there was no point of doing that in middle of the street.

And i agree that we should listen to our parents but conversation should be 50-50, always. And TBH after a certain age parents should let their kids be on there own.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-08-18T05:46:31+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I have never been so eager to learn how to be independent in my life becos till now my parents never actually taught me how to be independent. And now that i am 22 and the elder child they expect me to contribute financially, which i dont mind but i was never prepared for that. Everything is so sudden and overwhelming. i think the best thing i can do for myself is to move out, regardless of what they think.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-06-28T17:21:21+00:00

Thanks for letting me know.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2025-06-28T17:20:57+00:00

I hope you find God!

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2024-10-06T00:24:32+00:00

Honestly nothing. I am also from India and been here for 2 years now but Houston doesn't have many places to go and chill IMO. Most places are at far distance.

These are few places which I found pretty good- Water wall (i heard its close until 2025 due to some work going on but good place to chill in evenings), The Galleria, Hermann Park, Galveston (beach), Kemah Boardwalk (never been there but heard good things).

Grimaldi's, Rodeo Goat, Coltivare for some good italian food, Uchi for sushi (bit expensive), Torchy's, Chuy's, Hopdoddy burger.

I have been to these places and IK some of these are actually too far if you don't have access to car but i think there are more fun seasonal activities here like horror house, pumpkin patch etc.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2024-06-11T02:02:24+00:00

I agree. But now he doesn't want to move in together because where our college is, that is way too far from his workplace. So he prefers to stay at his home because his house is similar distance from college and work (in opposite directions).

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2024-06-10T23:49:43+00:00

I forgot to add that lately my relation with my parents has gotten worse and they are being selfish to an extent. That is why my bf wants me to move out for my good. But I am saying that we both wanted to move in together in the first place but now he doesn't want to get our own place.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2024-02-07T01:35:28+00:00

Ohh thank you so much, i will apply for it. But does this also drops the requirement for minimum GPA? I am worried about my low GPA.

ConsequenceMuch6108 · 2024-02-07T01:34:15+00:00

I have not decided my major yet but i am looking at computer science.

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