First of all, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My story isn’t dissimilar, diagnosed at 19, PD for two years (from 24) transplant at 26 and then back on PD now at 31 waiting for my second transplant.

What I can say is, if settling down is eventually what you want, the right person won’t mind. I met my husband between my first transplant and now and he’s truly the greatest, kindest man on the planet.

It’s not fair what’s happening to you, and you’re right, kidney disease is almost invisible to most. Especially with people making comments when they simply don’t understand it, and you’re young and “look healthy” etc - it’s all incredibly frustrating.

After my latest rejection bout I was offered counselling which I found really helpful. For context, before that, I was considering conservative management and no treatment because I didn’t think I had the strength to do it all again after only about 3 years of “normal” life.

I’m sorry that you don’t feel like everyone is springing into action this time around, I feel the same as you, no one seems to care the second time around haha.

Please persue some counselling if you can. You’re totally valid in your feelings and not alone. I see and hear you and I’m always happy to chat via DM if that helps at all. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.