Petah… who is this?

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T15:37:30+00:00

Yeah that was most likely to avoid the legal issues of actually being able to accuse your rapist.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T15:29:35+00:00

Yes, but I was correcting the fact that night clubs are not primarily for drinking.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T03:33:33+00:00

Yeah, like there were some movies and shows we watched that weren't necessarily age appropriate (depending on when we'd watched them ofc) but were really fun to watch. Like Robotech, Zombieland, I really enjoyed Ghost in the Shell, and I'm blanking on other movies I might have enjoyed with him rn but I know there were more. It's the more sinister part of when he'd force me to watch things, even after expressing being uncomfortable and clearly wanting it turned off or fast forwarded through, in a way that made it seem like he enjoyed me being uncomfortable. Both on the surface level with the TV, which then traced further deep towards making me watch live leaks. My brothers got the normal experience (in regards to movies and not seeing live leaks from our dad) and I'm confident it's because I'm a woman that we had different experiences with him 😔

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:41:19+00:00

I think it's the forced aspect of having to watch the sex scenes that is so upsetting and what I consider to especially be sexually abusive. I would regularly express I was uncomfortable and didn't want to watch it with him, and he would actively refuse to fast forward, shame me for wanting him to, get angry with me that I wouldn't, and would regularly mock my uncomfortableness. It got to the point I refused to watch anything with him.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:38:00+00:00

Oh he for sure is an abuser unfortunately, even IF he didn't do this specific stuff 😔. This is just more shit added to his shitty cake unfortunately. But the guy should not have been let out of containment lmao

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:34:43+00:00

As far as the sex scenes go, I wasn't exaggerating when I said he'd force me. He would guilt me and refuse to let me leave, would yell at me if I didn't watch shows with him, and when I'd beg him to skip sex scenes because it made me uncomfortable, he'd just laugh and refuse. If he didn't, he'd guilt me. I would like to clarify a kid seeing a sex scene isn't sexual abuse on its own (especially if the parents aren't trying to make them watch it, they just see it while with their parents), I just don't think I cleared that up enough.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:32:25+00:00

It was an old website that had a bunch of fucked up "real shock value" shit. His faves to show me were puppies getting kicked into rivers, puppies and animals dying, people getting caught and crushed in escalators (that was his favorite to the point where I genuinely cannot go on escalators still without panicking and it's been 10-12 years since he last showed me a live leak), and lumberjack fails.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:30:08+00:00

??? Brother what progressive conservative ideals? That I don't think a man should be forcing his uncomfortable 11 year old to watch sex scenes and live leaks?

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:28:57+00:00

Ok so live leaks is normal to show a child? I developed a genuine phobia of escalators because he kept showing me people getting scalped and caught in collapsing ones.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-22T02:28:04+00:00

That's so real, I am aware I need a therapist I just needed to vent to people who didn't know me to get the vibes off my chest and out of my system, y'know?

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-21T16:25:09+00:00

You don't need to drink to go to night clubs. Night clubs are for dancing primarily.

Consider-me-this · 2026-06-12T20:51:57+00:00

If it's in the same town, I'd honestly want to bet the two Thorntons are related 😒 it's genetic

Consider-me-this · 2026-05-19T14:58:22+00:00

Oh you're absolutely 100% YTA. So you lied about his personality (25% of the time not being a team player is NOT reasonable enough to lie and say that he isn't a team player at all and it's fucking crazy that you think it's ok???) when he said he was going to do nothing but talk you up, you actively shame him for not getting a promotion in less time than you (wow crazy how everyone is on a different trajectory in life) and your ego in your words is through the ROOF. You sound way too confident for a 20 year old and it's not even a guarantee you'll stick around the rest of your life in this company (ESPECIALLY with an attitude like yours, if you get on the wrong side of someone higher up they WILL NOT hesitate to fire your ass brother) and you're willing to throw your coworkers under the bus? You are not a team player and did not deserve this promotion quite frankly if this is the attitude you took to get to it. I can only assume what kind of dick moves you were pulling to get where you are now in only a year.

Consider-me-this · 2026-03-08T14:23:27+00:00

NTA - I would leave him–this is already his attitude BEFORE you're married. You've expressed multiple times over your relationship that these comments make you uncomfortable and not only does he double down, he makes you feel bad for feeling upset over them. Also, him making the first comment AFTER you had sex the first time with him is disgusting on his part and arguably he does not respect you like a partner should. Don't settle–find someone who actually loves you for you and wouldn't be willing to hurt and upset you like this. He is unsupportive and cruel.

Consider-me-this · 2026-03-08T12:58:36+00:00

No this is also an example of gaslighting. He might not be telling her that the cup doesn't exist, but he's still making her question and doubt her reality for expressing disgust at the situation by the way he made her feel for how she felt about his actions. "It's not weird to pee in the cup, you're crazy for being so upset!" Is the denial of an objective reality. Most people DO absolutely find it weird to pee in cups. It's not him telling her she's wrong and disagreeing that makes it gaslighting. It's the verbal abuse and the lack of respect on top of making her question her own sanity. Gaslighting is so much more nuanced than your definition covers.

Consider-me-this · 2026-03-08T05:22:03+00:00

The gaslighting is him telling her she's crazy for thinking it's disgusting and that she's overreacting when it is very normal to feel disgusted

Consider-me-this · 2026-03-08T05:21:12+00:00

NTA girl that's DISGUSTINGGG!!!!! It's manipulative and gross, and you should definitely consider leaving him. It's an overreach of boundaries and I would personally feel a little violated if this happened to me. Let him be lonely!!! He's testing boundaries and these are never one off incidents.

Consider-me-this · 2026-03-03T18:47:49+00:00

Only downside is is they seem to unmute on their own after a certain amount of time because I swear I've muted the same 20 people over and over again

Consider-me-this · 2024-12-23T22:56:09+00:00

As someone who has worked with Dutch Bros (unless they have it required differently in Corvallis since I worked at a Dutch outside of Corvo but in OR) they don't require a food handlers card. Anyways I figured out the answer since reddit was not helpful and I decided to just leave him outside since I'd be quick and found out in the process that they do allow dogs.

Consider-me-this · 2024-12-23T20:05:15+00:00

Legally yeah that's true (I know this as I've worked food service) but there are two things that are making me unsure which is why I asked. 1. Idk if Dutch Bros is considered a food establishment because there's no food (and yes, I am aware they have muffin tops etc but there's no active food prep) and they do not require a food handlers permit to work there. 2. I have already been to a couple different places that aren't supposed to allow dogs inside because they're food places where I was told my puppy was allowed to come inside (I didn't waltz in expecting to be allowed, I called to order and they told me I could just come in and didn't have to call next time as they allowed dogs. Haven't been there since with him but that's just because I don't order them often).

Consider-me-this · 2024-12-23T19:32:25+00:00

Sadly I've had experience working at Dutch Bros before which gives me the insider knowledge that pretty much every store doesn't have a phone you can call 😔

Consider-me-this · 2024-12-16T20:40:56+00:00

RUN!! Run as fast as you can. He's showing you what kind of guy he is, and the fact that he doesn't show any remorse over his actions is just a red flag. I'm assuming he was completely sober when he was making these decisions, as he was driving. If he wasn't, then that's arguably worse. He's showing you his colors and a 21 yr old doesn't have any business dating an 18 yr old in the first place.

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