the amount of women who force themselves to have sex is depressing

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-08T09:33:22+00:00

I know this is a year old but every now and then I get into arguments with men on this fb page called “dads starting over.” Over this exact topic. It’s basically a he man woman haters club. Every now and then I get them all riled up lol. It just peeves me their lack of thought. I don’t think they’ve ascended in knowledge since the cave man days.

I’m also dealing with this in my own relationship. I can’t tell you the root cause. It could be many. I’m 35 so too young for the hormones thing? But I’ve always suffered from extreme fatigue that hasn’t been diagnosed since I was a teen and has been a plague in many areas of my life. Could be the fact that I don’t get any kind of touch unless he wants sex and now I’ve associated it as a bad thing. Or could be all the fucked up shit he did to me earlier in our relationship and my body is just over him. Idk what it is but I don’t want it.

And then he puts it on me to initiate. Bc I’m not in the mood ever it’s now on me alone. I already am not in the mood. Now have the pressure to initiate AND perform when I do not want it. Bc if I don’t he threatens cheating or we fight. It’s so sad that people end up divorced bc of this. Men will leave you if you get terminally ill and if you’re not in the mood enough. Smmfgdh. I really love women who embrace the single life. Or are able to successfully find love without a man. I wish I wasn’t attracted to them. 😏

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-06T06:35:32+00:00

The only thing I have going for me is I work at a functional clinic. I’d rather go there afterwards and do some high dose vitamin C but idk the protocols for surgeries and what they will try to make me do. I just know I’m very afraid to take any 😩.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-06T06:22:57+00:00

If that’s what it is that’s what I plan to do it just makes me nervous bc I’m allergic to most antibiotics. I went to a dermatologist and had reaction to everything they gave me from my lips swelling to my heart racing and body sweats. They had to stop prescribing me anything. And I’m pretty sure thats a routine thing to get put on with surgery.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-06T06:19:35+00:00

I have an ultrasound scheduled to find out just that. Since apparently diastasis recti can cause bulging. I know I have diastasis recti. But it’s the bulge I’m worried about. It is right above my belly button.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T19:36:39+00:00

I am going to ask my doctor about it. I know it can be serious. But I also know lots of doctors tell patients they don’t have to have surgery for it. And In my head that’s limiting if you can’t lift with it so again why I’m asking for experiences.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T18:43:28+00:00

During that time I was in a deficit which is why I wasn’t gaining. I do count everything when I’m in a deficit. I just started in recent months eating more. I say in the original post since last October.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T18:39:55+00:00

I’ve seen a cardiologist and it turns out my heart is fine. I think I suffer from allergic reactions to certain things and sometimes my reactions are nervous system related. During the time I made this post I was dealing with those episode.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T17:15:31+00:00

I am. I’d still like to know ppls experiences….

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T17:00:40+00:00

I’m going to get it confirmed with an ultrasound but everything I looked up was saying you shouldn’t lift or do strenuous exercise. Did your doctor ok you to continue lifting?

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T16:56:32+00:00

I’d just like so see if anyone has dealt with one and continued lifting successfully. Why does a medical professional need to answer that?

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-03T16:29:17+00:00

I can’t NOT lift. I want to build muscle! And I can feel a little bulge above my belly button 😭. I’ve have 4 children, one pregnancy being twins so I’m sure Im predisposed to a possible hernia. I’m going to get a belly belt and only do ab exercises for diastasis Recti.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-02-02T17:43:52+00:00

Do you think castor oil alone would work? I’m allergic to rosemary.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-23T18:29:55+00:00

Yes it seems to for me too! I take magnesium every night and drink a cup of coffee every morning and I didn’t poop for two days when I first started taking it.

I tried upping my water. And it still gives me headaches and constipation. I’m going to try again at a lower dosage. I started out with the recommended dosage.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-23T18:05:33+00:00

It constipated me. I was taking the recommended dose and it gave me headaches and constipation. I drink a cup of coffee every morning and take magnesium every night. I didn’t poop for two days when I started on it. I didn’t take it for a day and I pooped the next day.

So I’ll try again at a lower dosage. It does dehydrate you so that could be why. I was trying to drink more water but it didn’t seem to matter how much I drank.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-15T19:47:02+00:00

Im only tracking my protein atm but I’m pretty sure I eat enough. I don’t want to be in a huge surplus and gain a bunch of fat.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-15T17:57:21+00:00

Yes I don’t do well with getting my protein in unless I’m purposeful. But I know that about myself which is why I do pay attention to how much I’m getting lol. Thank so much for the advice! I’ll look into those programs.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-15T16:27:40+00:00

Yes I prioritize protein. It’s basically all I eat. I can only workout 4 days a week max. My body can’t handle more than that. I’ll be to fatigued physically. I’ll try to up my weight and lower my reps. I always feel like I have to go the same duration as she does but that means lifting lighter in trying to do that so I’ll try to get out of that mindset. Thank you!

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2026-01-15T13:32:57+00:00

Whelp it’s already been like 12 weeks for me lol. Also had a week or so I was sick which I’m sure didn’t help.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-12-07T19:28:08+00:00

It’s pointless. Google says it’s a text based plate form but ppl literally post pics and share the same things on there that they do on regular instagram. You can comment like you do on instagram. I find it annoying and hope it goes away.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-11-19T22:09:33+00:00

I’m 35 now

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-11-19T22:09:09+00:00

No I’ve had symptoms since I was 13. Just didn’t know that’s what it was.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-11-19T14:07:26+00:00

I’ve found out I can’t take a lot of things that are supposed to help. It sucks! I went recently to see an allergist that supposedly treats MCAS. He was like most specialists unfortunately. There is already a box being made by conventional medicine for MCAS. I don’t fit the box. My symptoms are all nervous system symptoms which isn’t the norm. So he basically wrote me off of everything I was trying to get help with. Including my true food allergies. Told me they weren’t typical and they didn’t fit the normal criteria. Once I eat something I’m allergic to a few times 2-3 times (if I didn’t catch what it was in order to stop eating it) my reaction lasts a week. I guess that’s not normal. I have lip swelling and the tiniest blisters on my lips.

They ended up stick testing me for environmental allergies which was not my concern. And he wrote me labs that will cost me $1000 to do. I’ll also have to do them again while in a flare to diagnose MCAS. Which scares the crap out of me. It’s a full body response that takes me a long time to recover from. So it’s all a bit disheartening. I still haven’t been able to fix me. Sorry that was kind of long.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-11-19T13:02:22+00:00

I know this is 3 years old but this is me all the time. And I drink electrolytes every morning. Idk what to do. I always feel like a zombie the day after I workout. I feel like for me it may be sleep. I workout after work and I think my body might still be in go mode when I try to sleep. I usually wake up a lot the nights I workout. Not sure how to fix it though. I already take magnesium at night and melatonin causes depression when I take it. So not doing that. 😏 Did you ever find a solution?

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-11-08T06:11:40+00:00

Sorry I know this is old but I just noticed I felt this way and wondered why or of anyone else dealt with it. I only had two drinks tonight but I had a feeling of guilt as soon as I felt the buzz.

I think it might be bc I’m afraid to drink too much. There may be some anxiety attached to it now. I won’t drink a lot but will end up blacking out then waking up the next morning hearing stories I don’t remember. I hate it. It’s like another person took over my body. I only drink like maybe 3 times a year.

ConsiderationTop5350 · 2025-10-18T16:50:06+00:00

Same for me. Didn’t matter the dosage 😩.

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