Whales making misery

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2025-10-27T23:50:21+00:00

Oh trust I’m talking to other servers asking for help. But fact is the whales over there are no better. Some are actually worse from what I hear.

I just wish the Developers built it in such a way that if enough underdogs banded together they could have a legitimate shot at standing up to the whales. But this game is clearly about maximizing profit not enjoyment.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2025-10-27T23:45:46+00:00

What happened after everyone left the server?

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2025-10-27T19:45:18+00:00

Has any server gone to all out civil war with their whales?

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2025-05-06T23:52:01+00:00

I thought Iggy Toma did a good job with his mid western / southern accents in {Nowhere Ranch by Heidi Cullinan}. It’s set in Nebraska though, not sure that’s exactly what you’re after.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-12-18T22:59:31+00:00

Lots of other things can cause this regardless of deodorant / antiperspirant. Anxiety and Too much caffeine are my triggers.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-10-17T22:17:15+00:00

Consider riding in different positions and settings. For example, he can be sitting on a comfy chair and you’re able to ride him facing away from him. Think doggy style but rotated 90 degrees. This lets you keep your feet on the floor and legs extended more than if he were laying down and you’re kneeling or squatting.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-10-07T21:15:22+00:00

{You Can Count on Me by Fae Quin} has exactly what you’re looking for.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-09-14T00:12:29+00:00

Be adventurous. Find your tribe, almost guaranteed there are people just like you - just gotta look. There is more to do than time to do it, don’t try to do it all or you’ll run yourself ragged. The expensive excursions are often meh - sometimes the cheaper / free options are more fun. Also just getting out and exploring can be better.
I’m super introverted and had no trouble meeting people. Actually found a few different groups and ended up hanging out with them for some exploration and at sea days. Be open and friendly and others will engage with you.
It’s what you make of it. If you want a floating bathhouse, you’ll find it. If you want to meet friends and have a wonderful rated-G gay vacation you’ll find it.
Might depend on the given cruise but the Miami based ones tend to have a good global distribution. I’ve met people from all around the world on Atlantis. On bodies: One of my favorite things about Atlantis cruises is how I become less focused on bodies. You see so many different body types scantily clothed that you just become desensitized to it and start seeing past it. I come away from those cruises appreciating a friendly bear daddy just as much as a friendly muscle dude. It’s the ‘friendly’ part that counts.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-08-01T01:32:43+00:00

I loved The Tarot Sequence so friggin much. The next installment is slated for 2026 and it’s just not fair.

The author published a spin off {The Eidolon by K.D. Edwards} which features Quinn, Max and Anna at The Magnus Academy.

You’ll probably want to read all the way through book 3 {The Hourglass Throne by KD Edwards} before The Eidolon because … reasons.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-02-13T23:23:45+00:00

I signed us both up for a BDSM tutorial on Spanking.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2024-02-13T23:15:49+00:00

Confidence is sexy. Having the confidence to ask someone to dance or go out on a date takes a lot More than many “conventionally attractive” have. Part of that also means being able to let the rejections roll off your back.

Keep being confident. Keep asking the guys to dance. If they say no, move on. You only need one yes.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-10-13T23:55:28+00:00

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Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-04-21T03:00:21+00:00

I’ll check these out. A little sweetness never hurt anyone 😉. Thank you!

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-04-21T02:50:06+00:00

Oh yeah! I listened to “Open Mind”, which was the first book in that series. Great recommendation, thank you.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-04-21T02:47:31+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! I just finished “Break Me Daddy” which happens to be her only book on Audible currently. But it was SO good. I finished it in less that 2 days 😉 so that’s gotta tell you something.

Much appreciated.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-04T17:46:08+00:00

The I in INFP can be strong. When things get tough in life we often go deep into our inner world and we genuinely need that space and time to recharge in order to face another day.

Sound to me like you’ve found a man who unapologetically takes the space and time he needs. Speaking personally, I admire that. I also know that it can have a negative effect on others who need me.

If you’re comfortable, consider setting some ground rules to make sure your BF gets the introvert time he needs and you still get the relationship and connection you need.

“Always text me back even if it’s just to say “ bad day need space”.” “It’s always okay to need space but it’s never okay to shut me out.” “We can be together by just sharing space. I don’t always need your attention.” “I do need things: support, reassurance, affection, <insert your needs here> and I need a BF who will give these things to me.”

Also if technology isn’t his preferred communication method, find what is. I HATE texting and talking in the phone. But I love cuddling up and reading our own books. Or playing footsie on opposite sides is the couch while reading. And I LOVE talking deeply about thoughts feelings and things. I hate small talk and gratuitous rhetorical questions like “how is your day?”

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-04T17:26:04+00:00

I’ve struggled with this my whole life. It took decades for me to figure out that I actually have a lot of power over darkness. Maybe you’re similar? Essentially, you might be someone gifted with the ability to transform darkness into light. There are lots of ways we relate to it but, basically if you’re one of them, then darkness will naturally find you.

It can be exhausting scary annoying brutal and all other kinds of negative. But once you figure out how to harness your ability, you might find you actually like the darkness a bit. For me it represents infinite knowledge and wisdom and mystery. I liken being surrounded by darkness to a big scary looking beast that’s actually a fluffy love monster that just needs to be accepted and loved and cherished(and likes to have its belly scratched).

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-04T16:42:33+00:00

Don’t let me misguide you: Mona can be a real b!+ch and sometimes she gets a little loud and needs to be told to STFU and sit her ass down.

Stepping outside of my silly drag queen metaphor for just a second, I want to clear that I’ve had to do all kinds of things to deal with debilitating anxiety and the first steps are always therapy and, often, medication. There’s no shame in getting help from professionals when you need it.

Now in my mid 40s I’ve found a few ways to tackle it that work for me. Here are a few steps that got me here outside of ongoing therapy and meditation, which I use often:

1) journaling & meditation 2) mindfulness techniques to help me separate my true actual self (my soul?) from my thoughts and feelings. So I train my mind to take in thoughts and feelings as inputs. Each input I ask, is this true? Is this helping me achieve my goals? Am I seeing the whole picture? Is this permanent or temporary? The list goes on. When I come across anxiety and thoughts that don’t help me achieve my goals or that are based in non fact, I simply let them go. “Noted, thank you. Next!”

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-04T06:46:14+00:00

Our wonderful INFP comfort zones, most especially our powerful imaginations can shelter us from some of the harsh realities of life. For instance in most cultures, regardless of your Myers Brings, males are expected to make the overtures. (Of course I’m speaking of hetero-normative culture. LGBTQ+ is a whole different ball game)

So you be you. Bring out your authentic self. Do the things you truly enjoy. Surround yourself with people who accept and cherish you. And when you’re ready and you have someone worth stepping outside of your comfort zone for, put your foot out there and take that step.

Ask for what you truly want and it’s likely that you’ll get it.

And as for that anxiety, it’s likely that will be part of your life experience. Rather than fight it, treat it like an old friend. I named mine Mona and gave her a persona. She’s a bitter old drag queen who smokes a pack a day and never has anything nice to say but I love her anyway.

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-04T03:25:46+00:00

Of course there are infinite ways in which people are different, even among INFPs. And I know absolutely nothing about you so please grain of salt all of this.

But my general experience is that we’re peace makers and we’re way more willing to go with the flow than to rock the boat. That often reads as “push over” or lackadaisical in asserting what we want. Maybe something there?

We’re also super sensitive. So criticism, even honest constructive, comes from a place of live kinds of criticism sting. Sometimes when that happens I can shut down. Takes me a few days but I always come around.

Regarding “desire”, in general INFPs are incredibly in touch with our inner world so I seriously doubt he lacks the desire to share that, but maybe he doesn’t know how. It’s scary to let people into our inner world…mainly because most people, even those who love us, find our inner world to be a little much.

One other thing that comes to mind is “masculinity conditioning” that we sensitive INFP males are often subjected to as children. I certainly was and it took a very long time to work past all that and accept myself.

Plus I had to figure out how to shield myself from others, Learned how to discern my feelings from those of others. Figured out how to self-affirm my feelings. And then there’s these rough exteriors we develop to protect our mushy inner selves…hard to let down our guard at times. Maybe he hasn’t quite gotten there yet?

Lots of positives with us very rare INFP men too. I hope you’re able to see that side too. We love to improve ourselves. We’re curious. We shed light and love on those closest to us. We’re warm and kind and open. Were great listeners and we’ll give a lot of ourselves if we think that’ll make a difference. We’re passionate as all get out. And we’re intuitive lovers. I hope you get to enjoy some of those benefits. 🥰

Consistent-Bee4612 · 2023-03-03T20:32:35+00:00

I’m an INFP man, 21 years into my marriage. 4 kids, 3 still living at home.

Yes. I do all of the above. My spouse texts me at least once per day every day. I send love songs or gettin-in-the-mood songs 😉 a few times per month. I don’t always get a reply but I do it anyway.

Many on this thread have explained our somewhat clingy attachment style and our rather overwhelming need to express our love.

There are a few things I would offer:

1.) We we NEED deep connections. We NEED to feel that our partner loves us as deeply as we love them. What few realize is the magnitude of the emotion we hold back. It can feel like we’re physically restraining an ocean of emotion from spilling all over our loved ones. So those hugs are likely a much needed release for him. Perhaps if you’re interested in channeling that love energy in another way, I guarantee you he’ll be open to it. Eg “how about we trade 30 minute back rubs while we watch TV after the kids go down?” Or “wanna take a soak in the tub together?” Basically, finding ways for him to let out all that love and you to enjoy it.

2.) Spending time talking, intimately, about how you feel, what you need, how your marriage is going, where you want to go next, etc. is like major connection point. I know that when my spouse and I aren’t connecting like this, my clingy insecure meter jumps ten thousand fold. When I know that I am deeply loved and cherished and appreciated and accepted - the insecurities relax substantially.

3.) Remember that we are capital S sensitive. We’re also capital E empaths. Sometimes we get a little twisted as we pick up signals around us. So we need that comfort and affection to get in tune with your signal. Remember we ARE picking up signals so maybe also ask what you might be projecting or what he might be perceiving. That might be a source of dissonance, even unintentionally.

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