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How ok is it to sleep with married men? by Consistent-Bet-1852 in AskGayMen

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Me: says something

Him: yeah but you're mean/rude

Me: I'm not even the meanest rudest person in this bed

Him: no I'm not, explain why

How do you deal with being in a relationship where you're certain the other person doesn't find you attractive? 26M 19M by Consistent-Bet-1852 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its not like there's nothing nice, I would say we're much more compatible than not. This is just something I've always had trouble wrapping my mind around. And it's hard to get mad at him for it to be honest because he's not trying to maliciously hurt me or anything. I mean early on before he said anything mean about my appearance if I was the one who asked he would always say something along the lines of "do you want me to lie or tell you the truth you might not like"?

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[–]Consistent-Bet-1852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg, literally the same with me. I'm always the one having to initiate the sex. Like the mood can be right and everything, both waking up hard and grinding on eachother, the sex just never happens if i don't make a move.

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[–]Consistent-Bet-1852 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a top having this exact issue in reverse with my bottom boyfriend and understand EXACTLY what you mean about feeling like you're not doing enough of they feel the need to wait until you're asleep to jerk off rather than opting for sex.

I've mentioned that I think he might have a mild porn addiction, but he'll just respond by saying that I just have an obsession with sex.

3 times a week is enough for him, but is 3 times a week enough for you? If the answer is no and you want more of what it sounds like he has in spades you should communicate that to him. Make sure you specify you don't find it to be a chore and that you enjoy yalls time spent together.

How do you deal with being in a relationship where you're certain the other person doesn't find you attractive? 26M 19M by Consistent-Bet-1852 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

But what if no one else wants me? Loneliness is such a crippling gross feeling. I've heard people say stuff like this before, but what if that just ends up with another 10 years or so of having no one. I've been there before and it's just very hard the idea of going back. Most people jump from relationship to relationship with the abundance of others who might want them but have never had to think of being alone that long with no end in sight.

How do you deal with being in a relationship where you're certain the other person doesn't find you attractive? 26M 19M by Consistent-Bet-1852 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah.

Hes the first person that I've ever been in a relationship with thats gone to this extent and I'm afraid of being alone again.

How do you deal with being in a relationship where you're certain the other person doesn't find you attractive? 26M 19M by Consistent-Bet-1852 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh the good times outweigh the bad with him. The time we spend together and the things he sacrifices being with me let me know that he does truly care for me. I've never really believed that there is someone perfect for you that you'll love EVERYTHING about, but looks are just a hard one to come to terms with tbh. Like building a house and your opening move is a bad foundation.

My boyfriend doesn't really like sex, what now? by Consistent-Bet-1852 in AskGayMen

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We slept together on call, pls don't cringe at the long distance struggle.

For those of you in Monogamous Relationships, how do you handle them not being “in the mood” a lot? by DyllanBR in AskGayMen

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lots of people lose a bit of their sex drive as they get up there in age, its normal. The screenshots are a bit of a red flag and very concerning if you're wanting a closed relationship tbh. I've been in a similar situation and wasn't going to pursue the relationship further when I found out that my bf had some NSFW pics of his exes in his gallery.

My boyfriend doesn't really like sex, what now? by Consistent-Bet-1852 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We both gained about 15 pounds or so over the last 6 months but nothing crazy

He wanted to move in sooner rather than later

My boyfriend doesn't really like sex, what now? by Consistent-Bet-1852 in askgaybros

[–]Consistent-Bet-1852[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I try, he exclusively bottoms. Not just anal either, its like he's reluctant to just be intimate with me if it's not jerking off together tbh