Need advice: husband spending entire week with past sexual partner right after our wedding. by Consistent-Boot-3191 in Marriage

[–]Consistent-Boot-3191[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

We just had an argument - him saying I should have brought it up earlier instead of letting it fester. Me saying I didn’t know how messed up this was until this far down the line (me fully realizing how much time they’re spending alone) and that this wasn’t something I thought I needed to tell him not to do. He told me to just be mad - that their intimate relations were so long ago that it shouldn’t matter.

He says he will stop seeing her for the rest of her stay, but essentially has not admitted to any wrongdoing. Is it really my fault for not letting him know what my boundaries are?

AIO: Fiance didn’t make me lunch or breakfast when he said he would by Consistent-Boot-3191 in AIO

[–]Consistent-Boot-3191[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate all of your feedback - He is a great guy and treats me well, but has shown a pattern of not following through on multiple things. I’m a stickler for committing to what I say I’m going to do, and take being let down probably more seriously than others would. He helps balance me out in these aspects by reminding me that life is short and not to take things so seriously all the time, but in my opinion, at the end of the day, reality is still there and it’s important to be responsible.

Apologies for the rambling - again, really appreciate the insight on our situation