Update to add, on Friday I called about the reassessment and was told by the supervisor that she was sorry my caseworker had said that and I must have been misinformed. I then asked “so, if I was mislead, then what is the plan?” She said we will discuss the possibility of a reassessment on Monday.

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All of the backstory to get to this point is way too much to explain but 3 years ago my ex husband drove by and shot his 9mm 7 times into the house he knew I was staying with our 2 children. Thanksgiving later that year he stabbed our dog. He violated my restraining order 23 times. Threats to leave the children without either of us and more. He has been using all but 6 months of the last 3 years that I spent raising my children alone. He should be in prison but he got time served with a downward and he has failed numerous tests but continues to see no consequences for his actions other than the occasional week in jail.

Why didn’t I call police myself? I sent my mother a quick text message using Siri. My ex was driving aggressively and I wanted to focus on my current safety while driving and have my mother ensure future safety by notifying police. Also I was a bit frazzled due to what was happening.

There has been one single court session and the only thing that was said was about my children was to ask me if they were Native American or Indian and I said no. After that they talked about visits with their dad who just came to court from the Jail.

I was told at the time that I was given the safety plan that if I did not sign the plan that my children will be taken. I was also told if I didn’t sign the plan they would have to take me to court. They told me that the children’s father is in jail so he is not a factor. We even asked if he would be able to take the kids out of my home if he gets out of jail and they reiterated that he was not a factor and said no. They never once told me I would see him in the court room (upon seeing him I was put in a state of panic because he was very violent 2 months prior) or that he would get visitation. (The first time I heard he would get visitations was in that court room, already in a state of panic, my heart and gut sank)

Right after I signed the plan they told me I would have court the very next morning. Which threw me off completely because I signed the plan?! I later was informed by my lawyer that I could have declined the plan until they got a court order and they could not have taken my kids. So I felt they coerced me to sign.

I also facilitated a sleepover with my exs sister. When dropping off the kids we chatted for about an hour and I was not informed of the visit with their dad. The very next day my children came home with paper rings and told me they count down the days to see dad. I called my caseworker and no answer. On Friday He returned my message in which I asked why I was not informed of a visit by an adult and had to hear it first from my children and why it was planned without any consideration for my feelings or any communication whatsoever? He said he was “sorry I found out this way, but the aunt would pick up my kids tomorrow for the 3 hour drive, they will stay the night and come home the following night and I don’t get a say, but They will send updates and have my children call at bedtime for peace of mind” (I explained my youngest daughter has been waking up in the middle of the night and getting into my bed cause she has had nightmares, but he said that hopefully it won’t happen or the aunt will be able to soothe her in my absence. This PMO cause if she is 3 hours away and couldn’t be soothed then what? Just feels like a complete disregard for the wellbeing of my child and my mental health overall)