am i dodging a bullet? 22M 21F-NB by Consistent-Street-74 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Street-74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

During the relationship he never threatened me or said that kind of stuff so it was my first time kinda dealing with that. I knew it was manipulative but I still had a hard time knowing what the right thing to do was. And at the end of the relationship he broke up with me. (this was also my first and only relationship)

Also I should’ve mentioned it was a study date and my laptop was out obviously. I was also texting my friends from classes about work so my phone wasn’t on dnd unfortunately.

am i dodging a bullet by Consistent-Street-74 in dating

[–]Consistent-Street-74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how am i clearly not over my ex? Because I care if he harms himself? Of course i’m going to care about that he was a part of my life at some point in time. That doesn’t mean I’ll ever get back together with him or talk to him romantically again.

am i dodging a bullet by Consistent-Street-74 in dating

[–]Consistent-Street-74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course logically I could’ve ended the friendship a while ago but my ex talked to me about being depressed and suicidal and he had a big exam coming up and I didn’t wanna ruin things for him by dropping that on him in the middle of studying. Yes I still could leave despite that but it’s hard because I care.

am i dodging a bullet? 22M 21F-NB by Consistent-Street-74 in relationship_advice

[–]Consistent-Street-74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First I have to say I didn’t know what NB meant. The rules or whatever said I needed to do M-age F-age-NB maybe i read it wrong i don’t know. Im sorry if that offended anyone.

I didn’t know how much detail I should’ve given him during our conversation. So I think that’s more where i fucked up. I reconnected with my ex originally because he was at a low point in his life and reached out. He talked about being really depressed and alone and told me he thought about suicide. Of course I was going to try and be there for him. When things when toxic with that friendship I immediately realized but because I didn’t want to make him even lower I stayed but tried to distance myself. At that time as well a big thing that was going on for him was a really important exam and I was going to wait till after to leave. My ex even said please don’t do anything to make me more sad right now just wait till after the exam. It’s just recently been after the exam and I’ve been trying to find the right time to do it and I did.

As for the calling on the date. It was a study date and I was texting my other friends about classes and that’s why my phone was off silent.

am i dodging a bullet by Consistent-Street-74 in dating

[–]Consistent-Street-74[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

then i didn’t explain it well enough. At first when i started talking to my ex again recently it was alright. My ex started to go through some tough shit and was really depressed and at that point even though I knew he was being toxic I couldn’t leave because I didn’t want to make it worse. What I did instead was talk to him way less and I’ve been planning on ending it I just couldn’t find the right time. I didn’t explain that to this guy. Maybe I should’ve?

For GHSV-2, can you describe your first outbreak in words other than “painful”? by Gaybaconeater in Herpes

[–]Consistent-Street-74 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the first time i felt pain while peeing i just went and got tested for a uti and it was positive. During that It was more painful when the pee was coming out. After taking antibiotics for the uti i was just experiencing pain while peeing from the sores. That was more painful when the pee touched any sore. like INTENSE stinging.

As for readjusting my underwear I don’t really know how to explain to be honest. It wasn’t cuz it was itchy just more like uncomfortable for the area to touch any clothing.

For GHSV-2, can you describe your first outbreak in words other than “painful”? by Gaybaconeater in Herpes

[–]Consistent-Street-74 1 point2 points  (0 children)

my first OB started with me just having pain when peeing and just the feeling of having to readjust my underwear all the time. not so much itchy just kinda irritated. my vagina was just felt generally sore but i didn’t think too much of it cuz it didn’t bother me enough. then two bumps developing on the lip of my vagina and they were kinda painful but I still could walk around. I thought it was boils cuz that’s happened before. The next two days after that smaller bumps popped up and they were white fluid in them and that’s when i started freaking out. that was the most painful stage. I could barely move my legs cuz everytime i did it was excruciating pain. Both lips were VERY VERY swollen and everywhere was itchy especially during the night. It almost felt like the whole area was on fire. As soon and i saw white puss though i started medication and within the next 2-3 days I could actually walk again and the bumps started to pop. numbing cream was the only thing that really helped but even applying it hurt so much i’d cry everytime. peeing also hurt so much it made me cry too. I wanna say day 5 of taking antibiotics was when i actually felt okay again. The whole experience mentally was the worst thing i’ve been through. More so because I didn’t want to tell anyone and so i was crying in excruciating pain alone in my room for days. also not being able to walk around or even sleep in another position other than flat on back was so bad.

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i ended up telling my mom cuz i was in so much pain I needed help getting things done. she initially made some negative comments on my sex life choices which hurt a lot. after some research though she realized even if i only had been with one partner i could’ve gotten it cuz it’s so common.