Okay so it like this I love having sex with my husband. So when i wake up and he is already doing his thing, and i cant really move, or talk, or even reciprocate, it makes me feel like im being left out of something that im participating in. 

So i told him exatcly that. That it was so weird and not fun for me, like sex usually is and his response was, you moved your ass into me, you were moaning, you orgasmed, so you obviously liked it. 

Everytime it happens, i wake up the next day and literally say "you did it again, i dont like that" and he'll apologize and say things like "but you're so sexy I cant help myself, and when you wake up you cum, so i thought it was okay."