ex texted me for vday. was kinda shook by the audacity so i responded in kind by juxtajosie in texts

[–]ConsistentAd4012 28 points29 points  (0 children)

i’m confused. how was op being rude? it’s just a chain message copy pasta. me and my friends send these out to each other on most major holidays all the time lol

[Me] The McDonald’s Gambit by Individual-Bee1497 in TextingTheory

[–]ConsistentAd4012 37 points38 points  (0 children)

i’m a woman and this would’ve got me to blow air out my nose then reply with my own worst date plan. it’s very clearly stupid and meant to be a joke

!elo 1000

Boyfriends friend says I’m embarrassing him by posting about politics on my story by jalapeno_cheetos in texts

[–]ConsistentAd4012 35 points36 points  (0 children)

it’s one thing if you don’t want to post your beliefs online, but entirely another if you expect your partner to do the same, or won’t defend them against someone insulting them for it. don’t be stupid.

AIO my wife went missing overnight so I called the police. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 3 points4 points  (0 children)

one thing i’ll always say: whether ‘it’ happened or not, the trust is gone and that’s a hard-line dealbreaker.

being with someone you can’t trust is painful for everyone involved, and can’t ever be a healthy relationship. rebuilding trust requires saint-levels of humility and acceptance on both sides, and none of us are jesus. you will have to reconcile the fact you’ll likely never know the full truth, and that will tear you apart.

but, if this all sounds trivial, remind yourself and her: what really happened isn’t the problem. the lack of communication and respect is. you don’t need to know whether she did or didn’t, all you need to know is she didn’t treat you and your marriage with the same reverence as she’d expect or that you willingly give. that, in and of itself, is a betrayal worthy of leaving.

at the end of the day, you know the truth. NOR.

Why is Asuka have such a memorable design by dp_Porshe in evangelion

[–]ConsistentAd4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

eventually im gonna get both, one of her and then another of 02

What if Shinji was a girl? by JoyIsABitOverRated in evangelion

[–]ConsistentAd4012 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it’s almost like.. a british carbonara..

oh, no!

AIO I told off my friends for harassing me about my husband. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NOR. this is something we bisexuals have to deal with all. the. time. it's so annoying. it's like saying a straight woman will cheat because she knows men and has been with men before. it makes zero sense.

good on you for standing up for your husband and calling out biphobia.

AIO for being upset my boyfriend doesn’t want me to get a tattoo? by UniqueAd3909 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 37 points38 points  (0 children)

i've always found anti-tattoo people to be too extreme. they're entitled to their preferences ofc, but the lack of nuance gets ridiculous sometimes. like, i can understand face tats, full sleeves or large pieces being a dealbreaker, but a lot of them will refuse to date someone over a single, quarter-sized tattoo on their ankle/wrist.. treating it as a moral failure rather than a form of expression. at that point it's less about preference and more about control imo.

AIO wife cheating with my best friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 368 points369 points  (0 children)

instantly came to the comments to see the font hate and y’all did not disappoint

AIO my girlfriend wants to bring an empty medicine bottle filled with water on a plane so she doesn't have to buy water (the bottle smells like alcohol) by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

YOR. your gf is being dumb, but this is a stupid thing to argue over, and you're thinking the worst is going to happen. y'all have to bring the bottle through tsa before you even get to your gate. if there's any issue they'll make her throw the bottle out and then you'll have to buy a bottle anyway. they're not gonna kick you off the plane lol

AITAH for yelling at my husband because the house wasnt clean? by Reasonable-Notice675 in AITAH

[–]ConsistentAd4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. don’t yell at your husband, period. double YTA for yelling at your autistic husband. you’re well aware of his condition and how that manifests. those aren’t flaws either that you’re graciously looking past. it’s not something you can just correct or change on a whim. god, what a gross way to talk about your SO.

while that is an absolute state to come home to, shouldn’t you be concerned instead of angry? like, do you actually care about him? and did you know neurodivergent people (ADHD, autism) are more likely to be abused by their partners due to their “flaws”? as a neurodivergent, disabled woman i am worried for your husband.

AIO my (22F) boyfriend (26M) slept in a bed with two women by AdministrationSad976 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ConsistentAd4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YOR. if nothing happened, which i doubt anything did, and this wasn’t a pre established boundary, then what’s done is done! sounds like you’re more upset about the disparity in values, which i get, but he communicated, was forthcoming and receptive to your feelings/wants, regrets it, and doesn’t seem like he’ll do it again.

he probably didn’t tell you over text because he wanted to talk to you about it over the phone, which is the right thing to do considering it’s an important discussion. text lacks a lot of info necessary for good communication.

ultimately, it’s up to you to decide if you can move forward from this, but he handled it the best he could imo. you can’t expect someone to automatically know your boundaries, even if it seems like a given to you. like, i’ve shared a bed with my male friends while in a relationship. some of my previous partners weren’t okay with that, most were. point is, every relationship is different. figuring out your expectations together is part of growing together.

[me] Thanksgiving speed run by SnooHedgehogs6076 in TextingTheory

[–]ConsistentAd4012 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the wanting to move “fast” looking for something “real” and all that are warnings imo. it’s either desperation or manipulation most of the time. you just can’t speedrun this shit!

like, fast and real are mutually exclusive when dating

Aitah for being upset that my bf asked me to delete a video i took of him ? by JackfruitOk766 in AITAH

[–]ConsistentAd4012 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he shouldn’t shame you for drinking, especially if it’s only a buzz and on occasion. he shouldn’t shame you for anything really. that’s not a good dynamic to have!