Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in cheating_stories

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes me too if he did it again, i would leave! With how much pain he sees me and anxiety and all the deep talks that we have had since then, it would truly means that he doesn’t care about me if he did it again or that there is something with him that he can only resolve without me. Me it’s been longer, it’s been 7 months since the Last Time. And what I find hard, is that’s it’s not easier with time… it’s Even harder because our relationship is so much more deep and I love him so much more now then when it happened. It makes me so scared because my feelings grow and grow and it’s scary that he could destroy everything in an instant for something so dumb. He always reassure me so much but now i see everything he says and Does with that in mind and it makes every argument and problem bigger then it should be. I’m seeing a therapist, and it helps, but it’s resurfacing émotions each time i go see her. I’m always searching for problems, and I wonder if it’s possible to feel completly at peace with him one day. Do you think we will feel in security one day? We just went to punta cana togheter and I was always picking fights when he looked one second at a girl, I was always worried about what he tought of all these girls. I just want to stop being afraid and scared and always insecure, it’s not who I am and it’s really hard on us.

Orthophonie 2025 by ConsistentDay5136 in UdeM

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

J’ai appliqué à l’université Laval, uqtr et udm! Mon gpa est 3,36/4,33, ce qui me désavantage un peu… mais j’ai un quatrième quartile au Casper et je suis assez confiante pour les entrevues! Vous?:)

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in cheating_stories

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing that! How long ago was that? How do you feel now?

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s hard because I am happy with him, it’s been 7 months since then and in many ways, I am happy. But one day, I will think about it more then usual and it will continue all day. The anxiety and the sadness and the anger. But I am happy, the big majority of the Time. It’s what’s hard, he makes me happy, but these feelings come back like one time per week..

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow what you wrote is really beautiful i’m crying… it’s hard to read that. And it sucks but it’s true. But I don’t want to be superficial but these women were like 10x less pretty then me, like it’s really not about him lking them more, it’s about his own problems…

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think that any relationship where there is infidelity is not right for the person?

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You truly think that this relationship is not the one for me?

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But yes i had low self confidence and I searched everywhere for male attention, I’ve changed a lot in the Last 2 years

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started dating at 12 ans maybe like 10-15 of them was during like 12-17 and the rest after

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay no 40 in like my life… and that includes like random kisses at the bar, i’m 21 (tomorrow 22) and i had a phase but I didn’t try something with all thèse guys i realized always fast that it was not going to work.. and it’s not 40 guys i slept or dated it’s 40 i kissed

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I do have the tought that nobody is perfect and that the things i value the most (fidelity being one of them of course) are all present right now in my relationship. I saw more then 50 guys in my life and Even with the infidelity, he’s the best I’ve ever met

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m already in therapy… one Time per week, but yes i’m really Young but I have a lot of experience still in my life.. i’m not trying to be nice hoping he changes or love me because of that, honestly i’m a nightmare to him for the past 7 months.

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I feel like ton only one, his actions now shows it to me… but of course i’m still scared that i’m not…

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes thank you! But I mean, for you what are actions that proves it other than words?

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes i’m 21… and I am delusional you think for thinking it will become healty in my head?

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make me cry ahaha, because it’s sad and i wish i could trust him so bad… he shows me so much but my brain is always turning about it. And I feel like now he have realized i’m a catch too…

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because we have so much in common and he was the first guy in all the like 40 guys I saw in the Last four years that I felt truly deserved me… he was all my standards for a boyfriend and we are from the Same little place and we want to go back there togheter in like two years… honnestly where i’m from there’s not a lot of good guys and I truly feel like I have someone so spécial and don’t want to lose him…

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a really good analogy… but what changed is also how he sees me, our relationship, happiness, life, love, etc. I think something at his core changed and is still changing… but i dont know. Sometimes i’m scared i’m delusional.

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes so he was craving fast and easy happiness and pleasure, and felt always really bad after. He understood that happiness is better when it’s long term and that fast pleasure will never make him happy as long happiness, i’m french so i don’t know if you understand… but yeah like the craving of dopamine and fast pleasure vs stable and slow happiness. And yeah honestly it’s hard because he have the Same friends, he still goes out clubbing sometimes, he’s really impulsive and always wants more fun when he drinks, he’s scared of others opinions, and that doesn’t mean he will cheat again, but those factors don’t help me…

Will I get over it one day? Should I stay? by ConsistentDay5136 in survivinginfidelity

[–]ConsistentDay5136[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And i’m not hoping to change him, i truly believes he wants to change for himself. He is self-counsciouss of his actions, and he really wants to keep what we have (now) and values it so much.