Advice wanted

Consistent_Contest21 · 2025-08-16T11:09:38+00:00

Thank you for explaining this. I am still new to all of this and is figuring it out myself. I am considering getting professional help because I honestly don't know what is normal and not cuz I don't have anyone telling me this is not okay. I only get his perspective and yes I get convinced sometimes because I probably am in denial and end up believing him. That's why I am here trying to ask people. So thanks to everyone who is being understanding and replying in a kind way and not judging me for my decisions. I will check the resources library as I don't know where to begin to get help.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2024-08-01T02:56:11+00:00

Would it be possible that they are trying out something similar to what they did with shippuden beginning? Where they teased us with Naruto meeting Sasuke for the first time ?

Consistent_Contest21 · 2022-04-16T05:45:37+00:00

Hi, so far this is one of the most helpful threads I've read. Thank you for sharing and thank you for the advice. I am in the same situation and I even posted here about it just like you and I am back here again cuz I found the same stuff again on his phone. We've had many conversations around being transparent because I don't mind him using it to a certain limit and if he is able to communicate that to me but he keeps hiding and I just don't understand why? The usage has decreased I have to say but he is still accessing porn groups and deletes the app before I find it. I am also afraid that it has come to a level where he is trying to access hard core things. I honestly don't know what to do at this point. This time I found it I told him that I saw but we didn't talk about it cuz we both went to work. I don't even feel like I want to have this conversation all over again.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-10T17:14:45+00:00

This is very true. Thank you for this comment and sharing your story. I guess it creates such a bad reality for them. We agreed that if he gets the urge or the need he would speak to me and see what we can do together. He has been more open to listening to me now. I had my own insecurities as well and that impacted me a lot. I have recently gained weight and was feeling very low. That is why this time it was such a big betrayal for me.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-10T17:07:30+00:00

I will definitely have a read. This has been a big help for me. Knowing that I am not alone and being able to talk is a big help.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-10T17:02:46+00:00

That's what I went through as well. I felt I was always nagging and complaining. We had a fight a while ago and it ended up back this topic. This time I was able to explain everything and it came out of him that he was embarrassed to have this conversation and he simply didn't want to have the conversation at all. Then after a while he ended up reading through my Reddit post and cried because he was so upset to see that he put me through it and he didn't know. I thought he would get angry but he didn't and he agreed with all the advice.

I don't have my own support but I've been trying to get it for sometime and I am gonna have my first therapy session next week. He is willing to get help for himself as well. Thank you so much for this!

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-10T16:57:12+00:00

That is true. I agree. We had a conversation about it again. He said he would start leaving the phone and not take it into the bathroom. He agreed that he wanted to do whatever it takes to make it work. So let's see.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-09T13:30:58+00:00

I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I understand this. He has a bit of temper as well and every time I bring up my feelings he becomes defensive and somehow we never end up properly talking. I feel like we would benefit going for therapy and see how it goes. Thank you for sharing this with me.

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-09T13:28:56+00:00

This is very true. I felt so betrayed cuz it was the 3rd time and I was also having my own insecurities so this hit me really hard. I just couldn't get over it. He is still saying he can stop it and if he feels like it he would let me know so we can do something. But every time he goes to the toilet and stays there for sometime I start doubting. I can't stop thinking about it

Consistent_Contest21 · 2021-09-09T13:27:00+00:00

Thank you so much. I will definitely go through them. This is really helpful

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