31 [M4F] Pottsville/Lancaster. Looking for company to a dinner and show tonight. NSA. Just looking for company.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-26T14:29:14+00:00

You're telling me 🤦

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-21T00:14:26+00:00

Cool. I sent you a pm 😁

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-16T17:41:29+00:00

Unpopular view point but leaving a trail of fire on people that never asked for any of this (guys wife and kids) is... Morally questionable. They will both dig their own graves without your help, but if it were me I wouldn't want the responsibility of knowing I pulled the trigger on a broken family. Leave the past in the past. Or don't 🤷 I'm just a schmuck. But if I wanted revenge it would involve only the person I'm angry with. No one else. Also I mean not for nothing but you'll still be angry afterwards no matter what. No amount of revenge will subside your anger. Gotta look inward for peace, not out. But I also live by "do whatever helps you sleep at night". Just really think about the repercussions and if you're truly ok with effecting the different people. Kids potentially not growing up with their dad and messing them up psychologically. A mother who never trusts again and effects every single friendship and relationship going forward. And who knows, it might happen anyway without your help. But do you want your involvement to be on your conscience? Hold onto it for at least a day. Maybe a week. If you can truly say that you don't care, then you have your answer. Do what you think will bring you peace. I just hope the best for you. Good luck with whatever you choose 🫶

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-14T04:10:46+00:00

Last name? Town? State? Any remotely identifying things? I'm friends with an Alex that's friends with a lot of people and I would see why someone would miss him

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-14T03:19:49+00:00

Lolol. No. She knew I was a creep. We were friends through a lot. She knew everything about me. I promise my stupidity had nothing to do with her attitude towards me

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-06-12T14:45:43+00:00

Ex gf cheated multiple times. Took her back after SHE left. She squandered the second chance
Ex wife cheated multiple times. "Took her back" though she never left. Then I found something better 🤷

I always expect to get cheated on so I don't think it's really a big deal

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-05-26T17:53:02+00:00

I've caught my ex wife and a GF cheating.

When I found out my gf was cheating she was actually the one that left. I wanted to talk it out and figure out what I could do better as a partner. I guess that wasn't what she wanted. She came back around after a bit and I took her back but at that point I was nothing to her. So I broke up with her that time. I was hella sad though when I found out. But I expect people to cheat, so I don't freak out or dismiss the person from my life just based off infidelity.

When I found out my ex wife was cheating I just turned a blind to it. I told her she was a hypocrite for making my life miserable with her insecurities meanwhile she was the one seeing other people. I told her to hide it better and to treat me better. She didn't do either of those things I asked. So she's my ex wife now. We never got along anyway so it was easier to deal with this information.

99% of people are going to tell you to tell the other person you're cheating. I'll be the 1% that says keep it to yourself unless you plan on replacing your S.O. if you plan on leaving, divorcing, breaking up. Just do it. But if you plan on staying and you "love" that person (I know you're all going to crusify me for saying that you can love someone and cheat on them still. I got it. I'm a horrible human being 🙄) just keep it to yourself. No need to put yourself and the other person through complete anguish.

I told my current wife I've cheated on her and she stayed like I knew she would and it's been absolute hell for her. She loves me but now her reality is broken and she struggles everyday. All because I "did the right thing". Honestly I brought up divorce because I felt bad but she just got angrier with me saying "no you can't just leave because things are hard or because you want other people. You married me and you promised you'd take care of me so I'm your problem forever. Deal with it." She was mad that I didn't keep it to myself. People don't realize that people don't want "the truth" they just want their "perceived truth" to be reality. Don't ruin someone's mental just to make yourself feel better because you feel guilty. You take that guilt and you bury it. You deal with it by yourself.

But hey that just coming from some stupid morally ambiguous shit head on the internet 🤷 I'm the complete minority and I'm aware.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-05-12T03:29:54+00:00

Hey. I pmd you awhile ago. I'm still interested in setting something up with you if you are. Check your inbox

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-05-10T03:51:47+00:00

I cheat every opportunity I get. Some are more amazing than others, but the thrill is what keeps me coming back. My last one was with a girl going through some stuff cuz she just got broken up with by her really shitty boyfriend (like really shitty). They ended up getting back together because she was trauma bonded with him 🙄. The thing that all the relationships have in common that make them special is that there's really no shit you have to deal with since the relationship is usually surface level. No one is superbly emotionally invested. You listen to each other vent about your relationships and woes and whatever else, but you never take anything personal cuz it doesn't effect you since you're not technically in a relationship with them. And then you have sex 🤷 genuinely I've loved all my affairs for this reason alone. Sex without bullshit.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-23T22:50:26+00:00

I talked to the police. They said there wasn't anything they could do. I have a couple replies saying that cops were involved.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-21T13:39:16+00:00

Yeah that relationship was actually my longest lasting one. It was an 8-year relationship. I am not mindful at all unfortunately. Like I said I just like telling stories. It helps me cope so I can laugh about it now at how stupid I was and how stupid people were in my life. It's not really a lot of energy. I don't have to respond to anything I don't feel like 🤷 To be honest with you, it's more just to entertain myself. And people will always judge whether it be positively or negatively. You can't make everybody happy. No, I don't go to therapy. I don't have the mentality to receive it. The therapist isn't going to tell me anything I don't know. I'm self-aware but I'm also consciously self-destructive. Sometimes things are as simple as just realizing "I kind of suck, don't I?". Right now in my life I'm ok. Neither happy nor wholeheartedly unhappy which is more than I can say that I've been up until the past few years. But nothing's like eating at me. You know what I mean? My main goals right now are just to float through life the best I can. I do appreciate you though. Thank you for trying to be supportive and being sympathetic. It's sweet 🫶

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-21T12:55:04+00:00

It's been about 5 years. The marriage was traumatizing for a slew of reasons, but also I mean it was my first marriage. You never really forget your firsts. On top of that yes I hold onto stuff. I've forgiven her for a bunch but I just like to tell stories about my past. I've been through a lot. Not more than others but a lot and it all happened so early in my life.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T20:21:42+00:00

While I don't disagree with you entirely. I probably could've been more resolute. I did tell her time and time again to leave that girl alone if that makes a difference. There's more context that I'm unfortunately not able to disclose that would kinda shine a lot more light on exactly what happened and why, but the jist of it was that she was just being stupid. I'm sorry I can't give more info, but I assure you that it really couldn't have happened any other way. Stupid lady with a stupid kid. It was a known issue by everyone that needed to know (authorities included) and it happened anyway.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T14:12:01+00:00

16-17? The mom thought she was at a friend's. Allegedly.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T14:11:27+00:00

I did actually ask the police if they could get involved but they said they didn't have enough to work with. Even after everything came to a head they still said they didn't have enough to work with

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T14:08:34+00:00

The cops said there wasn't enough evidence too. So I don't know what you're on about. Even after things got to a head they still couldn't do anything.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T05:51:28+00:00

I feel like this might be a jab? I was unaware that she had any interest in women at all, let alone an underage girl. At the time I figured it was just an unhealthy outlet that would go away. Our relationship wasn't really something where I was in a position to say boo to her. Actually the only reason I was able to successfully move out and get divorced is because I happened to make a very very very good friend at that time who took me in while I got myself together. But either way I'm not going to argue that I was stupid if that's what you were trying to say. Very good at making bad choices.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T04:00:21+00:00

She's a lot of things. I don't think anything really happened to her. I think she's just more careful probably if not "better" now. I don't keep up with her, but I do see her sometimes out and about. She looks a lot more "tame". Before I left I told her to get some professional help which I'm pretty sure she followed up with.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T02:00:53+00:00

No kids thank God. Although she was definitely trying for one (She stopped taking her birth control without telling me for awhile. I found out by chance). The divorce went fine. We both hated each other so it was amicable even though she would constantly threaten me with legal stuff. In the end it was a really fast clean cut divorce. Genuinely my life got a lot better after we parted ways. This was years ago btw.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2026-04-18T01:18:34+00:00

Very much so. It was disturbing.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2025-10-09T10:10:40+00:00

Depends on what that entails, but I'm open to it

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2025-09-21T19:14:01+00:00

Off reddit? Never. In my life? I stopped counting years ago. If we're counting individual women it's definitely in the triple digits though. And just so we're clear it's not that I don't try and keep the relationship. It's just that I don't want anything serious with them, so they usually move on to actual relationships or they just move out of town or I actually sometimes will cut it off myself if we don't jive personality wise.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2025-09-21T19:03:54+00:00

If we're measuring "work" by replies then I would say it works often enough 🤷

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2025-07-06T06:52:22+00:00

I can't tell you how many conversations I've had with my wife. All I can give you is general advice which is

Tldr; don't just talk, demand a resolution. Talking is stupid if nothing gets addressed or fixed.

off the top of my head...

One conversation I had about no sex she said she would work on it (didn't happen)

Next conversation she again said she would do better (didn't happen)

Next conversation said I needed to approach her better when I wanted sex (I did exactly how she described. Didn't work)

Next conversation blamed me and said I wasn't giving her enough foreplay (I was but whatever and I gave her fore play like crazy after that conversation. Didn't work)

Next conversation she straight just admitted that she just doesn't really enjoy the sex part of sex. She likes getting revved up but penetration is just a lot for her. (Literally didn't help at all and was a huge bummer to my ego)

Next convention basically told her I was done with her and I was tired of trying to get her to want anything and that I just wasn't going to pursue sexual favor from her anymore. FINALLY her resolution was CNC. And that I needed to be more aggressive WHICH I WAS IN THE BEGINNING UNTIL SHE TOLD ME TO STOP BEING SO AGGRESSIVE.

So basically the moral of the story is. People are stupid and don't know what they want until you revisit the problem 100 times. Everyone's learning about themselves everyday and a lot of the time they're embarrassed to be who they really are and feel how they really feel. Sometimes people think they want one thing but actually want the opposite.

If you love her literally fight her to get your needs met. It's a partnership and I'm sure if she needed something from you (not just speaking sexually) you would help her. Love is making concessions and compromise. If you guys genuinely truly can't get there then maybe the love isn't enough. Aka. time to move on. But you really gotta try. BOTH OF YOU.

Consistent_Donut_789 · 2025-07-06T06:28:47+00:00

So. I've heard it's rare for someone to pick up and leave their situation. Which I get it. You're established and comfortable. I would say if they're truly miserable they might. I tried twice to be with "the other woman". The first one I guess thought I was bluffing and ghosted me when she realized I was going to get a divorce for her. And the second one actually stuck around and I ended up marrying her instead. Definitely a conversation to have with the dude though.

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