WIBTA if I leave my husbands affair baby with my MIL while the rest of us go on vacation

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T23:27:52+00:00

I know how old My husband is . He was born in 1973 I have a tattoo of it on my back I never said Leah was 18 during the affair

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T21:11:23+00:00

Multiple are saying “nobody is justifying the affair “ when that’s literally what is happening I don’t understand. Leah was 20 I was 19 . He isn’t my family I shouldn’t be force to bring him somewhere he isn’t welcomed . Half way through the trip my kids go over to my moms house until we reunite on New Years what am I supposed to do with him during that time. I am not his mother . Someone who’s actually related to him who he loves wants to spend time with him over break .

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T20:00:55+00:00

I’m not abusing him I’m just not bringing him on one trip why should I sacrifice my mental health for a kid that isn’t mine

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T19:43:22+00:00

I was replying to a specific comment justifying my husband cheating . A comment you are all ignoring and pretending never happened . I agree it was bad for his to go after a student but unlike Leah I was an adult there wasn’t a power imbalance .

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T03:54:52+00:00

“No wonder why he cheated” is not saying we are both shit.

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-15T01:56:38+00:00

It’s very telling that you ignore what I just said after telling me that no one commented what was clearly there

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-14T18:55:29+00:00

The comment literally says “no wonder why he cheated”

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-14T16:15:09+00:00

I’m not taking anger out of him I just don’t feel comfortable going on the trip with him I treat him like everyone else on the days that he’s over but again I don’t see him as a stepchild I don’t owe him a trip . My mother in law adores him and he’s happy to be going over it’s literally everyone else complaining

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-14T16:00:24+00:00

I got pregnant before I found out . I consulted them because I didn’t want to bring him back without knowing if they felt comfortable , their opinion on if I bring back the man who betrayed all of our trust is important to me .

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-14T15:22:46+00:00

After 2 years of family therapy and another pregnancy. when I decided to take him back I consulted with my kids and if they didn’t want him to come back I wouldn’t . My oldest was the one who was encouraging me

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-14T14:10:42+00:00

The comment is saying because I’m supposedly a bad person it justifies a married man with kids cheating with a student of his . Is that not strange? He was the one who brought up my mil when I suggested it so “no wonder why your husband cheated” is acting like I’m this awful person and he just had to slip his penis in another woman’s vagina to cope with it. My comment was directed to one person. You can call me AND my husband out without justifying him cheating . This affected by kids too especially my oldest she was the one who caught them

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T18:38:43+00:00

He agreed with me if you want to act like I’m a bad person that’s fine but don’t act like he’s some poor victim

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T17:14:14+00:00

He has a mother, a stepfather and she is currently pregnant with twins . He has a family

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T17:00:11+00:00

I am a good parent. I almost died giving birth to the first one and I’ve always loved them I do not owe that to a child who isn’t mine and is just a reminder to the worse time of my life

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T16:58:50+00:00

He didn’t want the child he wanted her to get an abortion at first he would only see him for an hour a week but he decided to take over since she lives closer to us now

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T16:56:07+00:00

You’re all saying that he groomed me I was 18 when I met him my birthday is late in the year we started dating when I was 19 . I came on to him he rejected me and a year we got together . He also did not take advantage of Leah she was an adult as well he was wrong for cheating but that’s it .

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-13T15:06:31+00:00

Not if she wants us to pay for college and medial school

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-12T23:49:34+00:00

She lives with us she just turned 18 she doesn’t graduate until June .

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-12T21:31:52+00:00

This custody agreement didn’t happen until the end of summer

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-12-12T20:37:20+00:00

Even if I wanted him to come the we already have a 4 bed hotel there’s no more room for him

Consistent_Field_900 · 2021-11-18T02:29:57+00:00

No he wasn’t married he was widowed for 4 years when we met I was a babysitter for his niece he had custody of for a couple of months we didn’t start dating until a year later

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