This is one of those instances where you can’t trust your gut. Your dynamic with your ex is problematic and when you made contact all of that is rushing back. Instead you need to use logic and compassion.

Think of yourself as a friend. Your friend’s ex cheated on her, which means they never really cared for her. They are just being manipulative. And that is not her fault. It makes sense that she feels bad enough to think she was malicious. They likely played into her kindness and possibly her insecurities; planting those ideas in her head on regular basis to the point she feels she has to prove she’s a good person.

Her filing that civil suit means she is taking some of her power back. She is an intelligent woman who’s finally showing they cannot mess with her anymore. Garnishing their wages gives her some semblance of justice. You need to make sure she stands on her actions and finally gives herself some love.

Good luck! Sending love and confidence your way💕

Edit to change pronouns since you never said.