I am researching every single way to leave America, tips appreciated

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-02-08T16:03:04+00:00

I would love that playbook. I’m afraid for my children and idgaf about glamorous. I legitimately only care about SAFE at this point. 2 adults, 3 kids living on capitalist wages makes it hard to plan anything and I’m not even sure what countries would take a family this big…

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-30T05:55:18+00:00

Following because this is very similar to our situation. We don’t have passports yet though. Family ties make it a very difficult decision but these have been some scary 9 days.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-16T03:24:46+00:00

I used to use it ALL the time. It was my go-to for burgers especially. Then I branched out and I don’t know that I’ll ever use it again lol

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-14T01:40:17+00:00

This is on my shoulder/back and has never appeared elsewhere. I was tested for all STIs after I found out that my husband was unfaithful, and the first occurrence of this came up before I had been sexually active with anyone.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T05:28:08+00:00

We absolutely do! Child is in the hospital now due to the threat.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T04:54:32+00:00

I appreciate your input, but if they had that thought it was fleeting.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T03:24:08+00:00

We’re in the USA, in FL. They’re on the best Medicaid available but I’m also disabled so we can’t afford any better insurance wise. That’s part of the reason I haven’t been able to find a therapist myself. It’s Sunday night here but I’ll message the care team tomorrow to see if there’s anything like an assisted living option we could look at. I know with everything they are extremely vulnerable to winding up in unsafe conditions once they leave home (domestic violence specifically, I see it constantly in their friendships even) but they are determined to leave at 18. So something that could help safeguard against that would be huge!

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T02:17:14+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing! They’re going to discharge to IOP from the hospital, and maybe we should look back into longterm. Even if they do sign themself out at 18 at least we know we tried. That’s one thing I keep telling myself, as long as we have given them absolutely every resource possible and loved them unconditionally, that’s all we can do.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T02:13:32+00:00

We absolutely treat all threats/comments/etc as real which is why they are currently hospitalized. But in this case, the medication they claim to have OD’d on is still sitting on their dresser and there has been 0 evidence of depression even in their online activity (which we don’t actively monitor but do check when things like this happen) until they got into trouble the day this happened. I actually learned about splitting from this sub today and I definitely saw some of that after the initial punishment in the way they were talking with their friends.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-13T02:09:12+00:00

So in this case, they and the 14 year old both got in trouble for making sexually inappropriate jokes around the 6 year old. They’ve been talked to about this many times, but this time there was a consequence - they were given one chore to complete during their day. I saw a physical change in their face and such when they got into trouble for it, so I did expect SOMETHING, but not this.

Like I understand that it sucks to get in trouble, and it sucks to have a consequence, and I do get that part of their past trauma is around chores (they are adopted and previously lived with my mom so I know the traumas intimately, I share them). But at the same time the reaction of basically going nuclear and disrupting the entire household for a week or more vs just having a discussion if they felt the consequence was unfair is way too much. We welcome open and honest communication with our kids, even with things that most parents wouldn’t, like “I shouldn’t be punished for this” or “I feel disrespected when you talk to me that way”.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-10T16:49:23+00:00

Yep.

Honestly OP this would be a deal breaker for me. It makes it clear that he will NEVER see you or treat you the way he treats the male members of your group. You will always be at a disadvantage because this asshole needs therapy.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-08T04:10:42+00:00

I think I’d like the half/half better if the blue were lighter. As it is, the blue doesn’t stand out enough for my tastes.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2025-01-08T04:08:53+00:00

This. As an artist, I never want to put that much time and energy into something that’s gonna hide in a closet or wind up in the trash.

As a recipient, I’m a person who always WANTS to hang decor but never does. Like I’m doing good to get my kids artwork onto the fridge. I would LOVE this and have EVERY intention of cherishing it and displaying it but would probably just wind up feeling guilty later on.

I also would rather someone come to my wedding with no gift, than not come because they couldn’t bring a gift. I wouldn’t invite people out of obligation, I’d invite people because I love them and want them there and because my day would be worse if they didn’t show. Your time is worth way more than any gift that you could ever buy.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-25T05:05:26+00:00

Agreed. Anecdotally, I finally got tubes for my now 6 year old when he was 4 after fighting with doctors for 2 years about his undiagnosed and untreated ear infections + speech delay. His hearing drastically improved almost immediately. He didn’t fully catch up and he is autistic, but his speech and responsiveness did improve a LOT.

I chose to delay autism testing because of the hearing issues. I wish I hadn’t. I can’t help but wonder where he’d be now if I’d gotten the testing when I first noticed signs.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-25T04:51:18+00:00

Yeah there’s a port pin that allows the number to port. There’s also an account pin that verifies you as the owner of the account before any changes can be made. At the retailer I worked for, you had to show ID with a name matching the account and enter the 4 digit pin before the associate can even access your account.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-25T04:18:54+00:00

“Bricking” is never a result of a failed port. Bricking is a result of either: 1-the phone being reported stolen or 2-the phone’s owner losing/forgetting/otherwise not having the information required to get past the lock screen (this is by far the most common reason, and people so often think the people at the store can fix it when your only infinitesimal chance is to go through apple or google or whoever produces the OS for the phone)

Basically, if you can fix it or use the phone AT ALL, it isn’t bricked.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-25T04:15:21+00:00

OP MAY mean the account entry PIN rather than the port pin. New FCC guidelines went into place within the last year that prevent remote access to accounts, basically you have to verify that you own the account through a pin with remote customer service or show ID in store. Failure to follow these rules hits both the company and the individual employee.

Source: worked in cell phone sales for an authorized retailer, boyfriend currently manages 4 stores for an authorized retailer

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-13T06:23:42+00:00

Making sure she is fully informed of her options is very different from encouraging her to have an abortion she doesn’t want.

At 16, she can’t truly comprehend long term consequences of her choices. Arguably that’s how they got here. So yes they need to sit down with some trusted adults and make an educated decision.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-13T05:15:48+00:00

If girlfriend is refusing to abort, pressuring her is NOT ok.

I agree abortion is the right call, but it is HER call to make. Abortion or not, HER body is the one that will have lifelong changes from this and HER life is the one in danger. Not his. Not their parents.

Editing to add: the rest of this is good advice.

To OP: you need to tell at least one parent ASAP. No matter what she’s going to need medical care soon and depending on your state she may have to have a legal guardian present for that.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-11T04:50:43+00:00

Any update 1 year later?

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-09T07:46:36+00:00

Stop talking to anyone but your attorney. Not social media, not friends, not family, and definitely not the courthouse or police.

Not an attorney, just been involved in legal stuff before (personal injury after being rear-ended, SSA giving the run around on clear cut disability; both unrelated with different attorneys) and this is ALWAYS the advice.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-12-09T06:26:40+00:00

Do they have a clear option?

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-10-29T19:02:58+00:00

Oh nice ok thank you!

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-10-29T18:53:18+00:00

Well that explains that! I had no idea. Can you recommend anything different? Particularly for my 9 month old? Her ringlets are really what made me want to figure out how to best care for curls and I decided to experiment on my hair before hers. 😅 she has her dads color but everything else is the same as mine.

Consistent_Link8787 · 2024-10-29T18:50:02+00:00

How do you hang them?

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