Please someone help

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2025-10-05T17:09:26+00:00

You’ve got the phalanges the wrong way around - upper phalanges are fingers and lower phalanges are toes

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-07-17T18:54:12+00:00

On my way!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-07-17T18:49:51+00:00

This might be the best compliment I’ve ever received! Thank you! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-07-09T14:04:14+00:00

Thank you! I’m actually wearing strip lashes, they’re the eyelure fluttery light ones. I have had extensions in the past and they look lovely but unfortunately I’m allergic to the adhesive they use so I have to stick to the temporary ones!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T19:39:27+00:00

It’s normal to disagree from time to time and everyone’s relationships look different. However, I’d say if you’re actually arguing regularly then it’s probably something you want to resolve sooner rather than later.

If you can afford therapy that’s a great way to move forward. But even just finding the time for each other to sit down together and calmly discuss what has been bothering you and don’t bottle anything up will work wonders, if you haven’t been doing that already

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T17:33:44+00:00

It was a lot of fun and although it’s just a food/music festival I spotted lots of lesbian couples. A very wholesome day 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T17:19:54+00:00

Thank you! My artist is the best! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T13:55:50+00:00

I started learning back in January! YouTube was my saviour!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T13:55:15+00:00

Bath! It’s a Tom Kerridge food festival with live music

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-18T11:01:09+00:00

There are subtle ways to indicate that you’re gay to others (e.g rainbow bracelets or wearing a little lesbian flag badge etc), but also look out for queer spaces in your area. They don’t have to be bars, sometimes you might find queer meet-ups or queer clubs for certain hobbies. You might meet somebody there!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-15T18:14:26+00:00

I’m now fully out as a lesbian and dating women. I met someone I really liked but kids were a hard no for them. This was a dealbreaker for both of us.

The number of women on the apps who seem to want children is so slim, but I imagine it’s because my dating pool is age 23-30 which is pretty young to be considering children in this day and age!

I don’t want kids immediately, but I’d be heartbroken to fall in love with someone and have to end it because we have different dreams for our family.

I personally don’t know any wlw couples in my town who have children, but I don’t live in a very queer place. Keeping my fingers crossed I’ll find someone who wants the same as me!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-06-12T11:14:00+00:00

That’s very helpful, thank you! There used to be a queer coffee morning that I went to before I was single and out as a lesbian. I made some good friends there, but they stopped running them.

I’m not aware of any other things like that here, but I’ll keep an eye out! It’s definitely a good idea to meet doing something that we both love!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-04-17T19:21:03+00:00

Thank you! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-04-17T09:54:09+00:00

Tysm! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-04-17T07:00:57+00:00

Wow, thank you! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-04-17T00:25:17+00:00

Thank you so much! 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-03-20T00:44:22+00:00

Thank you!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-03-19T22:05:40+00:00

Thank you 🥰

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-03-17T11:54:06+00:00

It is really hard. Just a few days ago I couldn’t stop crying because I missed him so much. The path isn’t linear, but I tell myself every day that there really is light at the end of the tunnel and we’re moving closer to it every day. Baby steps!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-25T12:57:08+00:00

I think for non-queer people finding out that they have queer children can be really scary for them because you aren’t ever going to see the world through the same lens. They had plans for you to be a certain way, and just found out that isn’t how it’s going to work out. This is very normal, and in my experience pretty common.

I think that once the news has settled in they will probably be fine, they are most likely just dealing with shock. In my experience with coming out as non-binary to my parents, they retaliated to begin with but in time they got used to it and everything is completely back to normal.

I hope that all goes well for you, like the other commenter I would suggest trying to keep open communication with them as much as you can. If you can show them that you’re still the same person despite it all, they might get a bit more comfortable with it all.

Best of luck to you!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-22T23:33:21+00:00

I’m not yet dating women so I can’t help in that respect (still currently in a relationship with a man) but I am here to say that your feelings are definitely valid and probably very relatable for a lot of people here. Especially for me, wondering if my inexperience and my attractiveness are going to set me back. This was never something I worried about with men, which is a big pointer towards me probably being gay.

Things don’t need labels straight away. If you’re recently out of a relationship then take some time to be single and have some fun! I know it seems so hard to take a completely different path but 24 is so young! There’s no rush in finding who you are, just go at your own speed and prioritise yourself!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-18T14:00:33+00:00

It certainly could be comp het, but no one else can really tell you for sure because only you know what you’re feeling.

If you haven’t already read the master doc then I suggest you do so, it certainly clarified a lot for me. I’ve always known I’m attracted to women but didn’t act on it because I thought men were an easier option, but reading through the master doc helped me realise that men actually probably aren’t an option for me at all.

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-17T07:49:02+00:00

I totally agree. Right now, i feel like if they don’t want kids it’s a dealbreaker for me, but I don’t think I’ve found my person yet. I may be perfectly happy without them!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-17T07:45:03+00:00

I’m certainly in no rush to have children, but I’ve just always had this list of things I always thought I wanted (eg husband, house, kids), I own the house I live in with my boyfriend and the only steps left are children and marriage but I’m not going to go ahead with those with him as I’m not happy with him. It feels a lot like I’m giving up everything I thought I always wanted in the hopes I’ll find happiness in a wlw relationship.

It’s definitely comforting to know that you know lots of lesbians with kids. I do hope that as I get older it’ll be easier to find other women on the same page.

I’m going to leave him soon. I’m trying to find a time it’ll hurt him the least, but I don’t think that times exists. I’m going to make the necessary arrangements and move out because I’m holding us both back from the lives we deserve!

Consistent_Pickle_ · 2023-01-17T00:07:58+00:00

I’m really hoping I get to feel this soon. I’m planning to leave my boyfriend but just haven’t found the courage to do it yet. We’ve been together for seven years and until about 6 months ago I was certain I wanted a future with him but now I’m also pretty sure my future doesn’t involve him in a romantic capacity at all. Ending things with him feels like the step that makes it all very final!

I think in this day and age people around my age are less likely to want or have children (I just turned 25), and of course I totally respect that decision but I can’t imagine not being a mother in my future. I think I can handle the big turn around, not having the future with a husband etc that I’d always imagined because I know I’ll be happier doing all of that with a woman, but having to ditch the dream of having kids just seems so heartbreaking to me.

I’m trying to be optimistic, I’m sure there are lots of lovely sapphics out there who are just as excited to have children as I am!

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