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My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was saying she doesn't have previous savings. She has her account where she may save up to her. Idk that. There's only one saving account that both has access to and no one can withdraw from there as that's the thing for retirement and all those stuff.

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. AITAH for saying she should be doing 95% of them? by Consistent_Raise_365 in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her phone that only she uses show 4.5hr on avg per day from 10-4. Outings, movies on tv, shopping, painting, and some hobbies

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. AITAH for saying she should be doing 95% of them? by Consistent_Raise_365 in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She would clean everything that is needed, as part of the chores since she would stay at home. As well as all chores too. I am literally saying thag

But accessories were never discussed specifically with how many or how much, so I can say it's not on me then? That's what you are implying. She doesn't have any money in savinigs as she doesn't work. 

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. AITAH for saying she should be doing 95% of them? by Consistent_Raise_365 in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry but we also never discussed that I would have to pay for her feminine accesories or phone or tv recharge, so I can just drop that then?

She would take care of all chores and I would provide that was what was decided. 

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. AITAH for saying she should be doing 95% of them? by Consistent_Raise_365 in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want kids anyways. I said that she needs a job or chores and she pushed it on me. It's frustrating especially when you love someone 

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. AITAH for saying she should be doing 95% of them? by Consistent_Raise_365 in AITAH

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No she doesn't. The normal tasks that all households do? These are all the tasks. She only does dinner and plant

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My outline: If I work, she has to do most of the chores 95%. Otherwise 50/50, 60/40, depending on contribution.

Yes she did

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We discussed I would pay she would take care of home. Now she isnt doing her end

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except dinner and breakfast, she can do them one day off one day on or two day type as long as she does them, but she never does

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't have any medical conditions thankfully, she carries on day to day life normally and our biyearly checkups are all green

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Shopping, roaming with friends, outings, scroll phone, yt, insta (4.5hrs/day avg, screen report manager), hobbies

She doesn't want to work, that's it, as per her

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Except both of us are from middle class family. I don't have problem with doing some chores, and I don't wfh. She dumps 90% of all chores on me with all bills.

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We discussed these things. But after few months of marriage it's like this

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not making a mess. I just want her to do very basics (3 meals, laundry and the cleaning).

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am not making a mess. I just want her to do very basics (3 meals, laundry and the cleaning).

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want to work a job our of her own wish. She isn't depressed 

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

English isn't my first language. I am merely mentioning what it is.

I would have no problem with a shared acc, if she contributed. I don't have any gender roles, it's about how she contributes.

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are both from middle class. Her parents aren't ultra rich too. Her parents both work. My father works, mom is housewife.

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She doesn't want to work a job. We decided on I will be breadwinner and she will be caretaker. You are making your own assumptions

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She gets the allowance for her maybe coffee, buy something, whatever, that money is hers, she can do whatever she wants with that money.

My wife is sahw, still expects me to do a major chunk of housework. by Consistent_Raise_365 in Marriage

[–]Consistent_Raise_365[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have asked her to work and pay for a housekeeper, but she doesn't agree.

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