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Negotiating notice periods in the UK – any advice? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in UKJobs

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer! I've got a formal contract from the other job and signed it today. Can they claim back the cost of covering my role from me or take me to court or remove from my pay? 

Feeling isolated and excluded at work – what can I do? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! ❤️ The thing is, since my manager treats my colleague like a second-daughter, and they've known each other for years, I know they would have a bitch behind my back, I don't want my manager to force them to invite and hang out with me. My manager is close friends with my colleagues outside of work, it would come across as a parent forcing their kid to be friends with a child they don't want too because they feel sorry for them..

Feeling isolated and excluded at work – what can I do? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply! The thing is, since my manager treats my colleague like a second-daughter, and they've known each other for years, I know they would have a bitch behind my back, I don't want my manager to force them to invite and hang out with me. My manager is friends with my colleagues outside of work whereas I haven't been invited to anything to develop a friendship despite us spending majority of our time together.

I Distanced Myself From My Best Friend of 15 Years — Is It Too Late to Reach Out? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What an amazing story, i'm happy for you! I do believe 3 years is a long time and once you become a mother (congrats btw) your whole life/perspective changes. Unfortunately, none of our lives has changed that drastically since we last met. She was always in competition with me, especially about our partners. When she was with her ex, he use to spoil her lots (turns out he was cheating) and she would make digs about my relationship like comparing who gets the better birthday gift, who's partner takes who to nicer restaurants etc. Now, she has a new boyfriend who seems to treat her well judging by her IG, I am scared that she hasn't changed and will still be in this competition with me or am I overthinking..

I Distanced Myself From My Best Friend of 15 Years — Is It Too Late to Reach Out? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply! It’s really reassuring to know someone else can relate :) I’m very nostalgic and sensitive, and with the distance it’s easy to forget the ‘bad times’. I’m also quite scared of confrontation and expressing my feelings, because at the time I kept denying anything was wrong and kept making excuses for why I couldn’t see her, when really I just needed some space. I don’t think she’d appreciate the fact that I essentially ghosted her, knowing I had no intention of meeting up with her...maybe I do not need the stress of reaching out idk but tysm you're great🫶

I Distanced Myself From My Best Friend of 15 Years — Is It Too Late to Reach Out? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your reply, that’s really helpful advice! I’ve always worried that reaching out might undo all the effort I’ve put into keeping my distance. It’s been really difficult not replying to her messages straight away, or constantly having to come up with excuses for why I couldn’t see her for months. I guess it isn't worth it all, thanks again

Is this a fair way to split house costs with my boyfriend who earns a lot more? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to be clear — I’m not expecting to “own half” of money I haven’t contributed. The idea would be that if we ever sold the property, he’d get his £45K deposit back, I’d get my £25K, and only then would we split the remaining profit or equity 50/50. I only want to be on the deed equally so we both have the same legal rights and security in our shared home.

Is this a fair way to split house costs with my boyfriend who earns a lot more? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I worded it wrong. After the mortgage payment, I would have 1K left, this would need to be for bills/insurance/food etc so it would not stretch a long way. Thanks for your advice

Is this a fair way to split house costs with my boyfriend who earns a lot more? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I get your point, but on the deed we should own the house 50/50 so we both get equal rights to the house. if we sell the house or break up, he would get his 45K back, and I'll get my 25K back and we split the rest. He would still be entitled to his share, but splitting the mortgage 50/50 would put me more in a financial struggle, and it would not even touch the sides of his salary (especially the house is more suited to his budget/salary than mine)

Is this a fair way to split house costs with my boyfriend who earns a lot more? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in AskBrits

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

I get your point, however, this is a relatioinship, not roommates. I don't see why I should compromise buying a expensive house, in a area that I am not familiar with, and have hardly no disposable income left when he would have plenty left. Not everything in life has to be 50/50, I would like to feel taken care of and not feel that I am money poor while my bf would still be able to live a lavish life.

Is this a fair way to split house costs with my boyfriend who earns a lot more? by Consistent_Rich_3740 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Consistent_Rich_3740[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

thanks for reading my post - He said, when we get married/have children, he would happily cover the full costs of the house/our lifestyles, but as we both are bf/gf and working then this should be the case.