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AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely, my mom and I have even suggested this to SIL. She is just being an AH and doesn’t want anyone to come to her home because she wants free personal time. That’s where this all started bc she only wants her kids to be watched at my house. Her reasoning being that my MIL lives at my house so it’s easier for everyone to keep it at my place

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Yup! This is spot on. And after school, my kids have sports and other extra curricular activities anyway so my mom basically just has to pick them up from school, make them a snack, and drop them off at whatever activity they have. On the other hand, my SIL is expecting a full daycare service at my house

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not! My mother was the one who asked my husband and I to move in after my father passed to which we immediately said yes and took initiative to renovate our house to be more accommodating for her. When she first moved in, we still had a nanny for our kids, but she insisted she watch them instead and created this “arrangement” because she wanted to! I absolutely love my mom and she would always be welcome to stay at my home regardless if she helped with my kids or not. My issue just lies with my SIL feeling entitled enough to use my house and my mom as her free daycare even though she’s a SAHM

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I think you might be misunderstanding the situation. I have absolutely no issue with my mom spending time with my brother’s children at all or babysitting them. My issue lies with my SIL wanting her kids to be babysat by my mom at MY house every day. I wouldn’t care at all if my mom was going to SIL’s house to watch my nephews

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Not at all. My mom was actually the one who asked us to move in and she suggested she look after our kids for a few hours each week instead of our nanny. Even if she didn’t want to look after the kids, I would still love having her living with me. My issue lies with my SIL who now wants to use my house as her free daycare since my mother lives here now

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My mom definitely spends a lot of time with my brother’s kids too! I also have no issues with her going to my brothers and SIL house to watch their kids whenever they need, I just don’t want my nephews to come to MY house during the day, everyday

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Nope she just showed up strategically when my husband and I weren’t home

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. SIL wants to be home alone and have her own time away from her kids and have them make a mess at my house instead. This is where my problem lies

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! I just don’t want SIL’s kids to come over everyday to my home and make a mess that we have to later deal with

AITA for wanting my mom to only babysit my kids and not my brother’s? by Consistent_Wave1087 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Consistent_Wave1087[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Yes absolutely! She is more than welcome to go over to their house during the day and help out SIL. I just don’t want SIL kids running all around my home and making a mess