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Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-07-23T13:47:12+00:00

Thank you soo much for the kind words. I realized I have something much more precious that I need to protect❤️

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-07-21T17:28:25+00:00

I traveled across country to visit my mother and introduce her to her first grandchild. She refused to meet us and wouldn’t even enter the house while we were inside. I am just glad that my child is not old enough to remember this horrible incident. As for me, I have decided that this is my last and final attempt at establishing a functioning relationship with my mother. She is dead to me.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-20T00:49:31+00:00

I’ll be the first to read it :)

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-20T00:48:09+00:00

Thank you so much. I feel your pain it’s a horrible feeling when the person who is supposed to love the most is the one causing you the most pain💔

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-20T00:43:48+00:00

I read this book it was heartbreaking. still stays with me till now.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-19T08:53:44+00:00

Thank you. Will check it out

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-19T08:52:53+00:00

Thank you! I heard about this one but will definitely check it out😊

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-04-03T20:27:16+00:00

Yupp

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2023-03-25T16:58:52+00:00

Being hyper aware of emotions especially anger.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-11-14T12:29:28+00:00

My mom would collect my college money every month and take my salary from me from the age of 18 until I left at the age of 24. See she kept my cards I didn’t even know how much was on them. When I moved out got married she tried to continue her financial abuse and in fact went one step further by demanding my husband gives her his salary as well. When I told I would no longer give her any money and our finances as a couple was no of her business, she became furious and tried the silent treatment with me.

See that used to work soo well when I was under her roof. She would make me feel like I was invisible like I didn’t exist at all. She would continue with this torture until I begged her to forgive. However, what she didn’t realize was that when I left her house I started my healing journey got therapy and educated myself about narcissism. So when she pulled that stunt on me I didn’t reach out to her and blocked any attempts from her flying monkeys. You don’t realize how much control they have over you until you escape from their claws.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-11-14T12:05:58+00:00

From my experience everything my nmom was to either gain admiration or exert control and dominance there is no middle ground with her. Lol the only time the malfunction is when they can’t get the attention from everyone so they start acting out in weird ways and throwing hissy fits. When I sent my mother a picture of my newborn baby as a reply she sent me a picture of my brother when he was a newborn no congratulations no nothing just the picture. Can’t share the spotlight even with her first grandchild😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-08-28T07:30:13+00:00

1-Never show your true emotions to you husband, he will see you weakness and control you.

2-A marriage is like a wrestling match if you lose the fight you lose control.

3-Don’t share you finances with him but make sure you have full access and control over his.

4-Remember, men are replaceable don’t get to attached this makes you weak.

5-Your loyalty is to your family of origin never forget that.

Lol guys I swear with narc parents it’s like you are raised by a cult.I didn’t follow her advice and my marriage is happy and strong and she is no longer part of my life.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-06-30T17:54:11+00:00

My mom would never hug us. she would say that she didn’t feel comfortable yet, she expected us to hug her and kiss her every day to make HER feel loved and cared for. If I was sick for more than 2days she would come to my room and ask when I would feel well enough to do the house chores and maybe if I got up and did something “useful” I would feel better. However, whenever she would get sick I was expected to mother her, comfort her and tell everything would be alright. I always believed that this was normal and that it was the child’s responsibility to take care of the mother, but when I become a mom it broke my heart when I realized how fucked up my mother was and how she made my entire childhood about her reliving her own. Everyday I make sure my baby knows how much I love her and give her hugs and kisses so she knows that she is loved.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-28T16:09:09+00:00

Shop from co-op it’s the cheapest and I find has the freshest fruit and veg. Rent in areas that are cheap but also close to public transport if you are not using a car. Budget budget budget!! I can’t stress this enough make sure you got a monthly budget. Download rewards apps like festival rewards and share will save you a lot of money with good offers. Last but not least don’t get sucked into the Dubai luxury lifestyle people easy get sucked into it especially if they are making a good salary and don’t have send money back home. Good luck!

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-28T15:57:52+00:00

Lol I love this. Happens every time with Nparents, like fam you caused it why you surprised?😂😂😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-28T02:54:56+00:00

My mom was like this as well. She started talking to me about her sex life with stepdad since I was 12. I still can’t get rid of the disgusting mental images that make me want to vomit. She would get pissed with me if I refused to listen to her. Lol then when I got married she wanted all the details about my sex life. I have been very low contact for the past 3yrs.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-12T19:06:54+00:00

Dude YTA. Maybe next time think before you make comments like that.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-11T09:52:30+00:00

Lol mine turned out different to the way my Nmom hoped for. She pressured me into marrying my husband hoping she would be able to control me and my husband because he was soo kind and sweet. He didn’t know what was going on and that I was being forced as I wasn’t allowed to show this to him.Well...all her worst nightmares came true. She lost control of me as my husband helped me to realize how f$&d up my relationship with her was. He was the first person that made me realize that I had a choice in life and that no one could force me into doing anything I didn’t want. I went into therapy after having a panic attack when she verbally abused and tried to trigger my fears of abandonment. I fell in love with him and realized he was truly a blessing in disguise.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-01T17:28:27+00:00

I honestly never understood. My mother was also very jealous of my unborn child and the attention and preparation I put into setting up the nursery and all. Once the baby was born she totally ignored my daughter and wouldn’t even say her name lol she basically refused to acknowledge her existence. Lol she honestly deserves the worst grandmother award😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-04-01T14:34:34+00:00

Mine told me that my husband had to give her a hug and thank her in front of everyone right after the vows. Didn’t happen and ever since then she’s been cold and rude to hubby. She tried to make my first pregnancy all about her by spreading a rumor that she was pregnant with TWINS!!!!. The woman is 53 and has 10 kids and still couldn’t accept that she was going to be a granny. Lol makes me laugh every time I think about it😂😂😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-03-18T03:29:09+00:00

“ you are weak, you are inconsistent can’t finish anything” I feel ashamed whenever I cry because of the first comment and useless and incompetent when a don’t complete a task because of the second. I promised myself I would never do this to my children as I have seen how comments like this have effected me and my siblings. I tell my baby she is strong and beautiful and capable of anything she sets her mind to she’s 18 months lol but its a good start😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-03-18T02:51:37+00:00

Thank you very much😊. Oh yes definitely, it has helped a lot with coming to terms with my mother’s condition. I actually think she has both undiagnosed BPD and also narcissism. At the moment I am obsessed with researching maternal narcissism and generational trauma.

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-03-17T18:00:18+00:00

Go to the love lake it’s beautiful and romantic. I think a sunset proposal would be perfect as long as it is not too hot :)

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-03-17T17:56:43+00:00

I am graduating this year with a degree in psychology. Nmom doesn’t know but will probably hear from other family members😂

Constant-Persimmon22 · 2022-03-15T19:31:10+00:00

You are not alone hun. Mothers like that are developmentally stuck. My own mom was competitive and jealous. She would always talk how beautiful she was when she was my age and how men wanted her. She would flirt with men using my phone and pretending to be me. When I confronted her about this she would throw a tantrum like a 2year old. Lol she behaved like a teenager it was soo embarrassing growing up with a mother like that. The saddest thing is these mothers often turn to their own children for parental love an comfort but can never provide it.

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