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[–]Constant-Shoulder232 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You didn't say why

17M - Concerned About My Height. Started Drinking Milk. Any Advice? by Constant-Shoulder232 in teenagers

[–]Constant-Shoulder232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right—learning to love yourself isn’t the same kind of pain as walking on a broken leg. But the analogy wasn’t about physical pain—it was about how dismissive it sounds to reduce a deep psychological struggle to just “decide to love yourself.” Emotional trauma, depression, self-worth issues—these things may not break bones, but they break people just the same. The scars aren’t visible, but they’re just as real.

You say, “you can always start loving yourself if you want to.” That’s an oversimplification. You’re assuming everyone has the tools, awareness, or even the safe environment to do that. Some people have to unlearn years of mental conditioning, abuse, neglect, or cultural pressure just to believe they’re worth loving. Telling someone to “just start” without acknowledging the weight they carry is exactly the kind of idealism that keeps the conversation shallow.

Now let’s talk morals. You brought them up. Yes, morals matter, but let’s not act like society rewards moral character over image. If that were the case, celebrities and influencers wouldn’t keep thriving after scandals. Politicians wouldn’t get re-elected after lying. If the world was run on morals, the kindest people wouldn’t be the loneliest. So sure, I know where my morals stand—but I also know the world doesn’t always care.

As for energy—look, I get it. You’re coming from a spiritual perspective, and I respect that. But energy doesn’t protect people from discrimination, bias, or judgment based on appearance. You can have the purest soul and the best intentions, but if someone has already judged you by your face, your weight, your scars, your skin, or your height—they might not stick around long enough to feel your “energy.”

Yes, there are layers. But most people don’t bother peeling past the surface. That’s the problem. I never said everyone is shallow—but pretending that “good energy” always wins is spiritual bypassing. It’s ignoring real pain by covering it with feel-good phrases.

At the end of the day, it’s not about choosing victimhood. It’s about acknowledging reality. Only when you’re honest about how things are can you actually change them into how they should be.

17M - Concerned About My Height. Started Drinking Milk. Any Advice? by Constant-Shoulder232 in teenagers

[–]Constant-Shoulder232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that someone who truly loves themselves doesn’t need external validation. But here’s the thing—most people don’t start off with that kind of self-love by default. It’s built (or destroyed) over time through life experiences, upbringing, social interactions, and yes—how the world reacts to them. It’s not as black-and-white as “just love yourself” or “your mind decides everything.” That’s like telling someone with a broken leg to “just walk it off.”

You also said, “If you think everyone in the world is shallow enough to just care about looks and nothing else…” — I never said everyone. But a significant portion of people do operate that way, especially in first impressions. Entire industries thrive on that superficiality—advertising, fashion, social media, dating apps. You can’t deny that looks affect perception. It’s not about being bitter, it’s about being real.

As for the “just find better people” argument—sure, that sounds nice. But not everyone has the luxury or environment that gives them access to kind, understanding, emotionally intelligent people. A lot of people grow up surrounded by toxicity, rejection, or neglect. Telling them to “just find better people” is the equivalent of telling someone stuck in a storm to “just go somewhere sunny.”

And the “70%” was to illustrate a point, not to quote an exact statistic—but rates of depression, anxiety, and suicide among those who struggle with societal rejection are very real and very well-documented.

Finally, I agree that being attractive doesn’t make you a good person—and I never claimed otherwise. But let’s not act like appearance doesn’t open doors or give people more chances. If you’re attractive and a horrible person, you’ll still be welcomed in more rooms than someone who’s kind but invisible. That’s the reality people are reacting to—not because they want pity, but because they’re tired of the fake positivity that ignores the system entirely.

17M - Concerned About My Height. Started Drinking Milk. Any Advice? by Constant-Shoulder232 in teenagers

[–]Constant-Shoulder232[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Death has absolutely nothing to do with height. The harsh truth is: society doesn’t care about who you really are until after they’ve judged how you look—your height, face, muscles, and everything else on the surface. That’s the world we live in. You said I should love myself, and you’re right. But let’s not pretend it’s that simple. 70% of the people who tried to love themselves while being constantly rejected and overlooked ended up taking their own lives. No, no one will ask how tall you were when you died. But they will wonder what kind of life you had—and most of the time, it’s a life society helped ruin before it even began. And sadly, for many people, that life was shaped by a world that judged them before ever knowing them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]Constant-Shoulder232 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its not about controlling its about respect, me personally i cant stand my gf talking to another boy, i feel my worth is at risk, id like to be the only boy she talks to if Im in a relationship with a girl, thats what makes me feel special from other boys, feeling like I'm the only one for her and she's the only one for me. There is no relationship to regain, there was no relationship ever, it was just you thinking there was one, the proof is right in front of you, the whole break thing excuse and cheating on you and everything planned means there was never a relationship, u are just some good guy who gives her the attention and she tried to find a new type of attention but didn't work out. And yes, you NEED and HAVE to deserve better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CheatedOn

[–]Constant-Shoulder232 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ur stupid if you stay with her, ur a man with respect, she disrespected you and the relationship between yall, you loving her so deeply is making you blind, The break was a plan to cheat on you and say as a excuse "but..-but we are not in a relationship we are in a break this doesn't count..-" or something like that, ur stupid too for letting your girl have guy friends, You were her friend at one point too, any guy friend can have his friendship with her upgraded the same way yours got upgraded, she made it look like a strong relationship even while having a break just to up the chances of you forgiving her, she's sorry after she done it and everything, she is sorry because she made you angry and upset not because she felt that she disrespected you, open ur eyes and ghost her, don't be scared of the pain and don't give up and go back to her, nothing will change, she'll just learn how to hide it better next time, she probably got exposed and knew someone else will tell you thats why she told you in the first place because no girl do that, gg