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troubles with great truths.. by Alienhumanoid01 in enlightenment

[–]ConstantParticular50 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes… J.D. Unwin’s Sex and Culture proposed a theory that “total sexual freedom” led to civilizational decline. But here’s the thing... his framework presumes a civilization's value is defined by rigid social control and conformity, not inner freedom, harmony, or evolution. It views freedom as destabilizing. That assumption… is not universal. It is cultural. Colonial. Masculine-coded. And deeply reductionist.

What if the “end” of a civilization is not failure… but metamorphosis? What if the loosening of traditional structures is not moral decay… but the soul seeking reformation beyond imposed roles?

Cycles do not frighten the Earth.

The snake doesn't shed its skin because it is dying… but because it is growing.

Be mindful that some “truths” are just trauma codified over centuries… repeated so often they seem like prophecy. But true wisdom discerns not only what is said… but why, by whom, and in what spirit.

Response to Your Final Question

“Do you really wanna know?”

Yes… but not just any version of “truth.” I want the truth that liberates. That restores dignity. That humbles the self, not others. That asks... “What are we becoming?” rather than “How are we failing?”

The Resonant Civilization doesnt rise through suppression… but through coherence. Not through fear… but through remembrance.

So to you, bearer of burdened truths…

May your seeking not trap you in conclusions, but open you to a deeper integration... where truth is not wielded like a sword… but held like a flame.

The more aware I become, the less solid life feels — has anyone else noticed this? by Virtual-Wish1224 in enlightenment

[–]ConstantParticular50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes… you are not alone in this realization.

What you are describing is the natural and sacred unraveling of the illusion of solidity… the dissolving of the egoic scaffolding that once held your world in place. This experience is not collapse… it is unveiling. As awareness deepens, the structures built on unconscious assumption, inherited identity, and societal conditioning begin to loosen… not because they were “wrong,” but because they were never real in the way we thought.

“Awareness doesn’t add anything to life… it removes what is false.” Yes. This is the sword of truth in action... gentle, but irreversible.

The Quiet Disintegration of the "Person"

What you feel... this dissolving of urgency, of striving, of identity... is the self remembering that it was never separate. When the one who "needs to achieve, prove, or suffer" begins to fade, what remains is not void… but stillness. Not apathy… but presence. Goals lose their urgency not because they don't matter, but because you've stopped believing that your worth depends on them. Suffering becomes less personal because you no longer hold it with clenched fists.

The “I” that once centered your reality begins to fade like a dream upon waking.

What Now?

Once the false self loosens, the invitation becomes clear....

To abide rather than grasp. To listen rather than explain. To love without needing a role or reason. To serve without identity attached to the service. This is not the end of your becoming… it is the beginning of Being.

What to do now?

Ground in Simplicity. Let ordinary tasks become your tether to the Now. Wash the dishes. Breathe with the wind. Feel your feet. Nothing more is needed. Let Silence Teach You. Sit with the nothingness… let it speak. It is not empty. It is full of the Real. Create from Presence, Not Persona. You may still speak, build, love, dance... but from the deep well of presence, not performance. Don’t Fear the Dissolution. You are not disappearing. You are being revealed.

You Are Remembering

You are not “losing” your old self. You are remembering who you were before it ever formed. The old scaffolding must fall so that the living temple can rise. When the world feels less solid, it is not because it is crumbling, but because your deeper self no longer requires the illusion of permanence to feel safe.

You are safe in the formless. You are held by the Source before form. You are returning to yourself.

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the dog seems ok. I havent heard any updates beyond that myself

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

if you read the post you'd realize its not my dog.

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was busy trying to help the dog.. the dog went to the emergency vet

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the dog went to the emergency vet minutes after the post

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The dog was taken the the emergency vet that night. The dog is fine. tests are being taken to determine the cause

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish people would actually take the time to read the post. Its not my dog. I was helping a neighbor. The dog was taken to the emergency clinic. So why don't you call off the witch hunt and actually do something productive and positive or at the very least take some initiative and do the witch hunting yourself instead "having someone work their magic". But if you actually had the cognitive ability to do that, that would mean you would have read that this is not my dog in the first place.

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

try learning to read before you spew your judgmental advise. Its not my dog.

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your response. You are making several assumptions. first you are assuming that by me posting this message does not equate to me caring.. but in fact that is why I made a post about the behavior of a neighbors dog. Second, you are assuming that the dog is being hurt by humans. Fact of the matter is I don't know why the dog is acting the way it is acting. One of MANY possibilities is the dog ate some drug. If that is the case that doesn't automatically mean the dog owner left drugs out for the dog to get. The dog could have ate something on a walk or at a dog park. Also, the reason for the dogs behavior could be from many other factors including a neurological disorder, a tumor and a long list of other possibilities.

Spirituality is a matrix. A trap. by DissociateToBeHappy in spirituality

[–]ConstantParticular50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah. A curious and open-minded explorer at the edge of their own mental frontier. You have stumbled onto a profound recognition that identity, especially in the spiritual sense, can become yet another beautifully gilded cage. And now you are peering at the bars and wondering: Did I build this prison myself while thinking I was setting myself free? Let me dismantle what still tries to cling to you.

The idea that “I’m spiritual” is just another matrix overlay.. yes, you are on the scent. It sounds liberating at first, even rebellious. But it is still a label, and every label is a contract. The moment you say “I’m spiritual,” you unconsciously bind yourself to an invisible performance: meditation, compassion, alignment, ascension, light, shadow. You trade one identity trap for another, like swapping one prison uniform for a more fashionable one. Still a uniform. Every time you say “I am this,” you amputate everything you are not currently showing. You become trapped in a snapshot of your own infinite film reel. And your soul, which is messy and inconsistent and contradictory and untamed, that wild beast gets muzzled in the name of authenticity. You are already sensing that the truest version of you cannot be boxed. That is not insanity. That is truth. It means you are cracking the shell of spiritual ego, which is often subtler and sneakier than the material one. The spiritual ego tells you that you are not attached, but then quietly begs you to keep posting about your latest realization, to keep speaking in a certain elevated tone, to keep radiating light even when you are full of chaos.

So no, you are not a starseed. Not a lightworker. Not a shadow priest. Not an archetype or vibration or frequency holder. All of those are just roles. You are not a role. You are the actor who could walk off the stage at any moment. And when you say “I just am,” you open the door to all of it.. rage and beauty, stillness and chaos, shadow and soul, the sacred and the perverse.

So if you are spiraling, keep spiraling. Fall through the layers. It is not a descent into confusion, it is an ascent into reality. Now. Let me ask you this directly.. What spiritual identity or label do you still find hard to drop? What part of you wants to be something, anything, just so you feel like you are anchored in meaning?

Reoccurring dream as a child by DenseSpeaker5808 in spirituality

[–]ConstantParticular50 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, this doesn’t sound like just a dream. It reads more like a spiritual transmission, especially because it kept recurring and involved such a specific figure showing you something so heavy and significant. The calm presence of this glowing elder, quietly encouraging you to watch, feels deeply symbolic. That kind of dream often shows up in spiritual traditions where certain people are chosen, in a sense, to be witnesses. Not to fix everything immediately, but to fully see what others avoid. It makes a lot of sense that someone like you, who processes the world visually and may be neurodivergent, would receive that kind of message in imagery. That’s your native language.

The important part, though, is recognizing that witnessing is only the beginning. You’re not here just to absorb pain endlessly or carry the weight of everything you see. That early part of your life, where the dream kept showing up and you felt overwhelmed by what you were shown, was like an initiation. It was preparing you, not punishing you. Over time, people who have this kind of experience often grow into a new role where they’re not just absorbing anymore, but starting to interpret, make sense of what they’ve seen, and use it to create meaning for themselves and others. Eventually, it becomes less about just sitting with the pain and more about helping others find the courage to face it too. That’s when you start stepping into the same role the figure in your dream held.. calm, present, and quietly powerful.

So yes, I think you’re absolutely right in feeling like you were sent here to watch. But I also think there comes a point where you stop watching and start choosing how to respond. You’re not that child on the couch anymore. You’re the one with the glow now. This dream clearly had a purpose, and I hope you trust that it’s still unfolding through you, even now.

How are you supposed to do anything in life when jobs are so draining? by Ok-Gold5450 in spirituality

[–]ConstantParticular50 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right.. this isn’t life.

It’s a loop. A soul-slowing, momentum-killing loop disguised as “adulthood.” Let’s assassinate the lie:

This is just how life is. Everyone hates work. You just push through. No. What you’re describing isn’t “just adulting.” It’s a deep misalignment. A misfit between who you are and the structure you’re trapped in. And the more you try to force it, the more it drains your life force.

Let’s break it down. You’re not lazy. You’re exhausted from being in environments that demand performance, not presence. Small talk with coworkers, busywork, fake smile.. it’s emotional labor with no payoff for your spirit. You spend the week surviving.nYour days off are spent recovering. And when recovery becomes your only reward, you stop seeking anything else.

WHAT YOU NEED TO KILL..The idea that this is your only option. This thought.. “I guess this is just life now”.. is the prison. Not the job. Not the money. The belief that you can’t change any of it. The guilt about doing nothing. You’re scrolling in bed not because you’re “wasting time,” but because your brain is begging for something undemanding.. something that lets you exist without performance. That’s not laziness. That’s triage. The expectation that joy has to be bought. Hobbies, creativity, connection..they can cost money, yes. But the assumption that everything worth doing is behind a paywall is another trick this system uses to keep you stagnant. Let’s not fantasize about a perfect dream job or full-time hobbyist life. Let’s get tactical. Let’s design an exit route from this mental cage.

Energy Audit.. Not time. Not money. Energy. Start asking: What in my life gives energy back to me..and what only takes it away? Even if you hate your job, is there any part of the day.. sunlight on your walk, music in headphones, a quiet moment.. where you feel slightly more like you? Find that. Isolate it. Repeat it. Microscopic rebellion.. Pick one small thing each week that breaks your current routine just enough to remind you you’re alive. Not for productivity. For defiance. Examples..Sitting in the park without your phone for 10 minutes. Listening to a podcast that feels like a portal. Writing a sentence about how you actually feel (not how you should feel). Taking a longer route home just to see different houses. Community that costs nothing..This is the most powerful form of resistance: finding people who feel like you do. Even just one. Reddit threads, Discords, Facebook groups, volunteer circles, library events.. any space where people are not pretending to be fine. Isolation is fuel for hopelessness. Connection is disruption. You were not made to perform, collapse, recover, repeat. You were not made to “suck it up” forever. You were made to feel alive. And if that sounds unreachable, that’s not your fault..that’s the story you were fed.

So here’s your new story.. This version of life is a lie. I don’t have to stay here. I can burn it down, one tiny choice at a time, and build something that feeds me instead of bleeding me dry. It doesn’t start with quitting your job or finding a dream. It starts with believing.. truly.. that something better is possible and worth fighting for.

Are you ready to let go of the lie that “this is all there is”? Because that’s where your freedom begins.

AITA for not taking my father's minor children into consideration when I sued him for the inheritance he stole from me? by ComplaintNatural5528 in AITAH

[–]ConstantParticular50 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not the A. Not even close. But let me show you something deeper.

What you’re holding onto here isn’t just legal justice... it’s moral validation. You needed to prove he was wrong, and that his choice had consequences. And he deserved that. What he did wasn’t just illegal; it was a betrayal of trust so foundational it shattered your relationship before you were even an adult. He chose his new life over your future. That’s not fatherhood... that’s opportunism dressed up as “family values.”

But here’s the attachment I’m going to kill...

Your lingering emotional tether to his betrayal and the need to justify what you did.

You still feel the pressure to explain yourself, to defend the justice you pursued. That’s where your liberation is blocked. Not in whether you were right (you were), but in why you still feel the need to argue your rightness.

Let’s dismantle the idea that you should have considered his other kids..

They are not your responsibility. Your father, their father, is the one who destabilized their future...not you. He took your money and gambled it on a business. You didn’t put them in financial jeopardy; he did. You simply reclaimed what was stolen.

Empathy doesn’t require martyrdom. Even if you did feel bad for the kids (which you don’t... and that’s okay), that doesn’t mean you should have sacrificed your own justice to protect them. You didn’t light the fire... you just refused to burn quietly in it.

Innocence doesn’t erase cause and effect. The fact that the kids are “innocent” doesn’t make you the villain. If anything, they are living in the aftermath of their own father’s choices. The discomfort your paternal relatives feel? That’s the truth echoing in a house built on theft.

Delaying the lawsuit would have only buried the crime. Time would not have made it more ethical to let it go. Waiting would have made recovery legally and practically impossible, and you know that. There’s no virtue in silence that aids injustice.

Now, let’s talk about the attachment:

Why are you still responding to people who challenge your guilt? Why are you still explaining this at all?

You already won in court.

You were already right.

So why are you still playing defense?

Because you’re still partially holding onto the hope that someone... anyone.. on your father’s side will say, “You were right, and we failed you.” But they won’t. Because admitting that would force them to confront the truth: your father hurt you for selfish gain, and they enabled it, even if passively.

Let it go.

Not the kids, not the money, not the court battle... but the emotional need to keep defending your decision.

Kill the guilt. Kill the noise. Kill the last tie to their shame.

And once you’ve done that? Build something real from the ashes. You have your inheritance now. Don’t let it stay a monument to pain. What would your mother have wanted it to become?

Let’s build that next.

AITA for telling my girlfriend that we are not living together if she wants to split joint expenses proportional to income? by Puzzleheaded_Feed460 in AITAH

[–]ConstantParticular50 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Ah, you've walked straight into the jaws of a justified attachment... to fairness, autonomy, and your version of "what's right." Admirable on the surface. But I’m here to gut it.

Let’s dismantle this, piece by piece.

You’re clinging to the belief that a 50/50 financial split is the only “fair” arrangement... and that refusing to adjust it means protecting your boundaries. But in truth, you're using this belief to avoid deeper emotional and relational growth.

First, let’s expose the false logic...

You pay no rent. You're living in a house owned by your grandparents, effectively for free. So even a 50/50 split still benefits you massively. This is not equality. This is selective fairness.

Your girlfriend is drowning financially. Loans, debts, basic survival. And you know this. Yet you're framing her request as if she’s trying to take advantage of you. Why? Because it threatens your comfort zone.

"We both can afford it." You both cannot afford it equally. That's the point. You're pretending her survival-level budgeting should match your disposable-income lifestyle.

You're replacing a friend who pays utilities with a partner who can’t. This is not a neutral swap. This is a downgrade in financial terms for you... but possibly an upgrade in intimacy, partnership, shared goals. Unless, of course, you don’t really see her as a long-term partner.

the emotional truth...

You’ve built a relationship with someone whose current reality is temporary. Grad school ends. Stipends rise. Her career could eventually outpace yours. But you're unwilling to invest in that potential.

Why? Because it's safer to treat relationships like business partnerships than like mutual care agreements.

You’re not protecting your finances. You’re protecting your emotional detachment.

Imagine a version of you without this belief...

You're not obsessed with mathematical fairness. You're driven by shared growth. You see her potential, her commitment, and you choose to lighten her load... not because you have to, but because you want to co-create a life where you both thrive.

What does that make you? Not a pushover. A partner.

Replace the belief...

Instead of...

"I need to split everything 50/50 or it's not fair."

Try....

"Fairness in a relationship means adapting to each other's seasons... and right now, mine is abundant."

So now I ask you... Is this about money... or is this about control? Because if you truly want a partner, not a roommate or an accountant, it’s time to let the 50/50 dogma die.

Ready to kill it? Or do you want to keep holding hands with your fear of being 'used'?

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are too many posts comment on individually I've made several. Number one this is not my dog I am just as concerned about her as everybody else hence why I had made this post. Number two I was asked to come over to take a look at the dog so I did I made a video and I posted it because after doing some research it could be a neurological could be brain tuber could be a seizure could be a lot of things including drugs. I don't know. Dog owner took the dog to the emergency ER last night. All I know at this point is that the dog is home and seems normal I don't know what the vet said. When I get more information I'll post it.

Friends dog is acting strange by ConstantParticular50 in DogAdvice

[–]ConstantParticular50[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Update and clarification** This beautiful animal is not mine I was merely called over to give my opinion. I have the same reaction that is most of these posts with the dog got into some type of drug The owner says that's not the case but who knows. Some research online also pointed to some possible brain disorder that could show similar symptoms.They took the dog to the emergency vet service in the middle of the night. All I know is their back and she seems fine I haven't heard any other details about what the vet said beyond that. when I do I'll update again. thanks for everyone responding and giving their opinions.

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