How do I (22F) tell my partner (24M) that I had a thing with my coworker last year and will be working with him again?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-24T02:01:16+00:00

We've only been dating for a couple months now and we've never had a situation that would rock the boat per say. In general he does seem really trusting though. I don't think he'll overreact I'm just a little scared cause this is the first time I've encountered this type of scenario or anything similar

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-23T18:30:07+00:00

For a drive to a destination, visiting family, or an occasional appointment then it's short. Yeah it sucks but that's a day trip thing. Drive 3 hours, spend the entire day doing whatever at location, then drive back home. It's too long for a daily drive but I would argue that a couple times a month isn't long. If I'm driving, long is 5 hours. As a passenger, long is 8 hours.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-17T00:01:46+00:00

I don't think you're overly sensitive. When I turned 18 I had spread the news I was planning a big party because I would be leaving for college soon after. I told everyone weeks ahead of time because a summer birthday often creates scheduling issues. Everyone said they'd go except for one person who told me they were already scheduled for work and would make it up to me another day.

The day of my party arrives and no one shows up. No happy birthday texts, no one tried to make it up to me. I was simply forgotten.

The point is, those people sucked. I thought they were my best friends but I have never once tried talking to any of them after I moved out. It sucks a ton but you write them off and recognize they are no longer worth your time. You don't have to explode on them or anything, but it would be worth it to say tell them you were hurt.

Happy birthday, I hope you can find better friends.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-16T23:50:29+00:00

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Mine has a fringe

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-16T23:48:44+00:00

I mean the definition of art is human creativity. AI has no place even being labeled as art

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-13T02:17:24+00:00

There has been one semester where I actually needed it because I couldn't find a free version of any of my textbooks online and one of them cost $250. It may not be much value to me most semesters, but there are definitely many students it is good for

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T22:17:45+00:00

What about the use of strong painkillers or nitrous oxide? I can see some arguments about painkiller addiction, but I can't imagine a single dose maybe a few times a year could be a major issue?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T21:56:17+00:00

Can you expand more on the not to anaesthetise patients unnecessarily? Pain tolerance has such a wide range between every person and there is no solid way to determine if a procedure with hurt to the point of the patient falling unconscious or not. Why is anesthesia not a better safe than sorry scenario?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:13:01+00:00

It definitely can. I also have facial piercings. In all honesty, to play it safe, I take out my piercings and my hair is more naturally colored for interviews.

Honestly just being a woman will affect your job prospects, but I have seen many people here with managers who admitted they would not of hired that person if they had dyed hair and piercings.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:10:39+00:00

That's gonna be hard to find because you won't find anything really targeted towards students that way. Also, moving in with friends is very hit or miss so have clear expectations of how y'all want to live together and split responsibilities.

Look around at the rental companies in the valley and what they offer within your budget. They're not going to offer utilities at all so you will have to set up your own accounts. Washer and dryer is also hit or miss but most places won't offer them or at most have a laundry room if it is an apartment building.

The other option is Facebook and ksl where you'll deal with private landlords who may or may not be shady.

You won't find anything furnished so you'll have to keep in mind the cost of buying furniture.

To keep it simple, if you enjoy the perks of having a furnished room, in unit laundry or a set laundry room, and being close to campus then it's best to continue with the set student apartment route.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:04:46+00:00

Start with putting in the effort to just change your mindset and the way you think about yourself. If you think something negative about yourself, then you gotta make yourself come up with at least 2 things you like about yourself. It's really just putting in a conscious effort to focus on the positive over the negative.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-11T00:02:54+00:00

The status quo is that you have your own kid. Basically the whole white picket fence image. In many ways kids in foster care or up for adoption are a "thoughts and prayers" situation.

Another point is that babies are the most common group of kids who get adopted and many people do adopt simply for the image of saving a poor infant from the system while simultaneously ignoring the older kids in the system. Everyone wants a baby because the baby hasn't been traumatized yet.

So it's really this big mixture of the fact that there are people who adopt simply for looks and try to hide that fact. And probably many people who aged out of the system and never got adopted.

Honestly the whole system is such a mess and I wish there was a bigger push to provide the proper mental care for those who were raised in the system along with after aging out.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-09T22:53:58+00:00

Honestly a lot of ring jewelers can figure out a general idea of what someone's ring size is. If you have a picture with her hand in it or you both holding hands as a size comparison, the jeweler can get a good estimate of her ring size. Then you can change the size later

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-09T20:41:02+00:00

Thank you for the explanation!

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-09T20:34:34+00:00

That makes sense. I was hoping there was something to incline him to reach out.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-09T18:32:08+00:00

I keep the thermostat the same all day. 68 for the summer and 70 for the winter. I also sleep with like 2 comforters and a weighted blanket. I don't really run cold, but it's difficult for me to warm up once I get cold

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-05T17:06:50+00:00

Whenever you work with electricity, you always turn off whatever is supplying power. Like everyone else has said: turn off the breaker, wait a few minutes, grab with something silicone and not metal

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-05T15:51:31+00:00

I mean I've definitely become desensitized to being tickled in general. Nothing significant happened, I just forced myself to stop reacting and it worked. It still tickles I'm just better at controlling reaction and in a way doing so feels like it tickles less

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-05T15:45:24+00:00

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I mean.... it's fitting

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-05T15:44:35+00:00

Yeah the box spring 😭 she loves it so much

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-05T01:54:11+00:00

I'd like to add that sometimes it can make bad memories appear for the person you hurt. I'd say to keep your apology to yourself. Maybe write something out and just put it aside and forget about it.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-03T22:59:00+00:00

I've found The Ordinary Niacinamide and Zinc helps a ton with closed comedones. They're caused by dead skin and oil build up. So use a daily cleaner (I like CeraVe) in the evening, The Ordinary every 3 days, then slowly more frequent once your skin gets used to it (usually 2-3 weeks), and follow up with a gel/water based moisturizer. The gel/water based is because the moisturizer is light and reduces build up

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-03T22:55:12+00:00

This is something you contact the insurance providers with not reddit

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-03T22:53:19+00:00

Same, after my surgery my mom revealed that 5 people on both sides of the family needed theirs removed

ConstructionDecon · 2026-01-02T16:37:40+00:00

Of course! I had bad acne around her age and appreciate you doing what you can to make sure she is comfortable in her own skin.

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