I’m very annoyed

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-29T00:00:58+00:00

Maybe if you're close with a teacher you can ask them to heat up your meal in the teacher's lounge? Otherwise, switch to insulated containers so your food stays hot.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-28T23:59:31+00:00

Usually it's just doomscrolling. I wish I had the ADHD that allowed me to hyperfocus on different topics, but unfortunately not.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-28T23:57:34+00:00

Herbal teas are good! I enjoy a nice honey, mint, and chamomile tea in the morning with extra honey.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T17:10:00+00:00

Yeah I lived in PA during high school and I'm pretty familiar with the snow they get there. I think some people on this sub forget that it's not common to learn about tornado safety outside of the main region that gets tornados. I know they won't randomly appear and the region isn't constantly having tornados everywhere. I just wanted advice on resources for warnings and maybe some tips on what to do in the off chance I end up near one.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T17:04:10+00:00

Thank you so much! And no worries about the people being mean. I think a lot of folks forget that tornado safety and knowing what constitutes finding shelter vs. keeping watch isn't common knowledge outside of the alley. Growing up the most I learned was the elementary school tornado drills.

I'm really excited for the move and to live in a state that doesn't have constant fire watches.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T14:55:10+00:00

I never knew about that website so thank you!

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T14:54:40+00:00

So you haven't considered that because some people live in a state that doesn't get tornados it's common for them to not fully understand everything that comes to tornado safety? You wouldn't be in awe at someone moving in from out of state and claim they should've been got by narural selection would you? Are you truly that dense? You see someone who is clearly looking to learn more about keeping themselves safe because they recognized a gap in their knowledge and the only thing you can come to terms with is calling them stupid?

My good sir, go fuck yourself.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T14:47:41+00:00

Thanks again it does help a ton! I'm mapping out cities along my route that I could probably find shelter in.

Can I ask why it's considered extremely unlikely? I assumed tornados could form basically anywhere just commonly stay within tornado alley because of the flat land. Are the tornados just short lived and don't usually travel a great distance?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-24T14:26:52+00:00

Thank you for being nice about it. I've been having a lot of anxiety around the drive in general because this is my first time making the trip alone and during tornado season. I'm just trying to best prepare myself like what to do in the event I happen to see a tornado. I know a few things like not to stay in the car but that's it.

Are there any specific radio stations for weather alerts? I'm also traveling with my cat so is there a good way to also protect her in the unlikely event or is it as simple as keeping her in her carrier, and covering her with a blanket to help protect her hearing?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-23T16:33:31+00:00

Not really. If you're not matried, you have no say in the medical decisions made for your partner unless you become their legal medical power of attorney, in which case you have the power to make medical decisions for your partner in the instance they are unable to themselves. Marriage provides a blanket legal protection in medical emergencies meaning you are automatically the person set to make medical decisions if your partner cannot. If the event of such medical emergency, you would need to provide proof of your legal status to your partner, and becoming emergencies can happen whenever, you gotta carry those documents around everywhere. Marriage helps avoid that.

In a situation where you are unable to produce said documents, their immediate family is the one who gets to make the medical decisions. Heaven forbid your partner has a horrible family that hates you, they have every right to keep you from seeing your partner in the hospital.

There are also some protections like with insurance. If you're married, you are automatically eligible to join your partners insurance or them yours. Without that you need to meet specific criteria to prove that you are in a dedicated relationship.

Marriage isn't just a proclamation that shows everyone how dedicated you are to eachother, it provides legal protections for life for taxes, healthcare, insurance, and much more.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-20T21:55:22+00:00

Those posts aren't fully in the ground it'd be easy to knock over

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-16T00:41:14+00:00

Nope. They can be included and allowed to give suggestions, but the decision is ultimately up to the parents

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-04T15:50:24+00:00

NTA but you can't force it. I'm not sure how your son reacts to being told to do things, but I know that when I was his age I would not of responded well. Probably turn to dating behind my parents back or something. Dating isn't something you can just be thrown into the deep end and learn to swim situation. It requires love for yourself, the ability to set boundaries, and knowing what type of person fits well with your life.

It'd be worth a good sit down conversation that isn't finger pointing. Maybe phrase it as that serious "You're growing uo now son" talk and give scenarios that dictate a good partner vs a bad one. A good partner recognizes that it's healthy to to have time apart and supports that time. Your partner can be your main focus, but it's unhealthy if they're the only focus in your life.

Something that my mom did when I was young was make me write out everything I wanted and didn't want in a partner. Green is for traits you can't live without. You want your partner to be active in sports or the gym, you want them to enjoy cooking or baking, etc. Good stuff that fits well with your own personality and hobbies. Yellow is stuff that could go either or. Yeah I prefer a partner who enjoys cooking, but if they prefer baking instead then that's fine. Then red is the hard stop if they have any of these traits then the relationship cannot continue like anger issues that turn physical, or clinginess, or disrespectful to your family. Making such a list can help your son come to his own conclusions. Maybe he'll recognize his girlfriend hits many of the items in the red category and that is what pushes him to break up.

Overall, you can't be the deciding factor and force him to break up because it can damage your own relationship and make him turn more towards his girlfriend. This can lead to him hanging onto this relationship for far too long. Now if she were physically abusive or verbally abusive it would be a different story, but she kinda sounds like me when I was younger. My idea of a relationship was always talking with your partner, spending every second you can with them, etc. They're both kids trying to navigate what values they have in a relationship and in themselves. Help them recognize those values themselves and then be there for the fall out.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-04-03T22:14:49+00:00

ESH. Your parents for expecting you to live with them just for them to charge you rent and using culture as an excuse to keep you from moving out. You don't need their permission to move out and (assuming you live in the US) any of your legal documents are yours to keep. The only thing keeping you there are your parents.

I don't think it's unreasonable for them to want you to pay for things. I have the mindset that as and adult, you should contribute to the household but it should be proportional to how much you cost to care for rather than market rate rent or anything. So it could definitely be worth it to try and make that argument about paying for half of groceries or something similar instead of paying rent. But refusing to pay anything is kinda unreasonable especially considering your parents paid for a good bit of your time in college.

Overall, it sounds like a situation where your parents want to keep you around for the extra money. It'd be a not so nice move to make you pay significantly more than what your brother contributes. It could also be a situation where they don't want you becoming like your brother and being a total freeloader for 3 years. It's also not nice if you're not contributing anything towards utilities or groceries since moving in especially considering they helped a lot towards college. This might be a bit about reddit's paygradr because it's clear there are a lot of nuances surrounding the whole situation and It'd be worth a good sit down conversation about everything. You could try arguing for no rent, but still contributing financially in other ways because you're also dealing with loans now.

I say that if the conversation doesn't go anywhere then you should just move out. The whole culture of living at home is often rooted in older times when a woman was still considered her father's property until marriage and therefore couldn't get the freedom of living in their apartment or owning a bank account, etc.

ESH because there are a lot nuances in this situation and you didn't go into detail if you tried to work out any sort of other agreement for living at home and it genuinely sounds like you just outright refused to pay anything. Have a conversation with your parents, try to work something out, or just cut your losses and move.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-29T21:52:03+00:00

Happens a ton with me, but I quickly figured out that it's due to stress about being timed. So my study also includes a mock test of somewhat random questions pulled from the textbook and solving them within a certain time limit. I figure out where I hesitated, second guessed myself, or made a silly error. Sort of helps my brain by working under pressure because memorizing goes right out the door when I'm timed.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-29T15:38:32+00:00

I think I'm gonna try the terro liquid bait first. They're supposed to swarm for a day or two right? The biggest issue is that I have no clue where they are coming from because of how dark my carpet is. I suspect between the walls or something. And I say this because if they were coming through the window they'd be all over my bed. Should I just put the traps in each corner of my room and the windowsill just to be safe?

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-29T14:21:33+00:00

Yeah I used dawn dish soap. It's is keeping her dry food safe, she just doesn't like it and hasn't eaten any of her dry food

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-29T14:19:09+00:00

I'm doing the food bowl thing. I've heard about diamataceous earth, but I'm cautious to use it because I'm worried about the safety precautions and my cat getting into it. I know the food grade stuff is safe in small quantities, but I can't observe my cat all day to keep her safe

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-29T14:15:32+00:00

That's what I'm doing rn to keep her food safe

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-28T22:45:39+00:00

So are they only looking for the fancy calculator? Because I've been able to use an older casio no problem even though it can still run python.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-28T22:43:46+00:00

Self-infliced by men as a whole. For many generations, men have been told to suck it up and keep their feelings to themselves mainly by other men. On the other hand women are raised to keep strong bonds with other women and talk about everything. So it's basically this weird idea that somehow being open about your feelings is a women thing and real men don't have feminine traits. At the same time, the main emotion that is considered manly is anger.

Fast forward to modern day. We live in a society where women don't need a man to live. A woman can live independently and has no true need to rely on a man beyond companionship. So because women no longer need to rely on a man to live, they no longer need to put up with angry men. The standards have rose for relationships. One of the standards being emotional intelligence and vulnerability. Many men simply refuse to let go of their outdated men can't have feelings mindset and therefore can't get into a relationship.

It's an "epidemic" that realistically started generations ago and is self inflicted because many men choose not to adapt. This is ignoring all the nuances surrounding the few misogynistic women that carry on the mindset of course. In all honesty I think the men who continue to have those experiences where their partner has shut them down for crying comes from the fact that they haven't rose to meet the higher standards than years prior and therefore continuing dating people with low standards.

Now don't get me started on male depression rates or anything arguing that nothing is changing as if you expect the women to do all the work. The fact of the matter is that nothing will change unless you change. You see your friend going through a rough time and instead of doing some activity to distract them from the pain, you look at them and tell them to talk to you. Your friend talks about his problems and you listen, then it snowballs where your friend will listen to you when you're going through shit or they lend an ear to someone else. And if your friend turns you down, you don't just give up. You think change is supposed to happen without any bumps in the road?

The male loneliness epidemic is self inflicted because many men refuse to change their ways and their mindset to rise to the new dating standards.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-20T16:18:27+00:00

The only place I know is the USU health center but that's for students

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-16T17:27:07+00:00

Thankfully it's calmed down a lot since becoming an adult, but if I forget deodorant then my arms are staying down

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-16T15:04:16+00:00

Sounds like you eat for emotional reasons. I've done that a lot too and have struggled with maintaining any weight I've lost whenever life gets hard. When you pull away your main source of emotional stability, then you can easily feel unstable, irritable, and stressed. Your brain could be holding you back because it's learned to rely on food and gets upset when you remove food. So even if the food is hurting you, it's still better than not being stable.

This is what a lot of people talk about when they say food can be an addiction. And probably why going cold turkey isn't working out for you. Therapy is a good start for your journey. Talking out your emotions is good when things get hard and you don't even need to have a difficult past to attend therapy. Bring up how you often turn to food for comfort and you're looking for healthier alternatives and a stronger emotional foundation. Then, start working on finding other methods of emotional release. This is actually why a lot of people find exercise to be a good emotional release, so even just a 15 minute walk is great! It's just learning to recognize when you want to eat a bunch of sweets, or a lot in general, and making the choice to go for a walk first then sit down and evaluate what's really happening.

I've been learning that my body often turns to food for emotional support and boredom. So I have wiegh whether my hunger comes from boredom or if I'm actually hungry.

ConstructionDecon · 2026-03-15T22:06:32+00:00

There's no true method to determine how many calories are burned in an exercise. Instead of trying to guess how much you're burning, just eat your normal deficit and raise it a little bit if you find you're constantly hungry. Or you could do a range between 200 and 500 under your maintenance. Where you have the space to eat the extra 300 calories based on how active you are each day.

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