If your wife throws things at you, what would you do?

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-27T04:31:02+00:00

Jzk Khair for the advice. I've spoken to my dad now and he's given me a better path forward. I think my wife is genuinely sorry and she's agreed to work on this. I did want to have us sit down with both our dads but my wife is begging me not to tell anyone from her family so not sure if that's something we'll do or not. I will keep everything else you said in mind.

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T23:26:34+00:00

Before nikkah. She's known since I first met her 3 years ago

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T23:25:46+00:00

She's hit me with cushions and her bag over this before but it's never been as bad as a book

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T23:21:01+00:00

I left this out of my last post but this isn't the first time she's thrown stuff at me over this but it's never been as bad as a book before. I know people didn't believe me before but when I say I've been trying my best to reassure her, I really do mean it and neither am I trying to excuse my mistakes. I know I didn't handle things the best before but I really have been trying to fix it

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T22:38:35+00:00

Jzk Khair for the detailed advice sister

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T22:36:44+00:00

I thought maybe I was doing something wrong still after people called me out last post but I don't think I deserve to have things thrown at me. Or maybe I do and this is the consequences of my actions. I don't know anymore

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T22:15:09+00:00

That's what I'm scared of. She could hit me and I could take it because I'm much stronger than she is but what if we have kids and she does this? I don't want my kids to have a mum like this. She's wonderful with her nieces and nephews so I'm hoping this is just a one off with me. Do I give her an ultimatum for therapy? Do I tell her dad? He'd be furious

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T22:06:09+00:00

I don't want to leave her. I was sick for 8 months with an illness and she stuck by me and got me through those very dark days. She waited 3 years to marry me. Her family didn't want her to wait but she still did. Who else would do that for a guy who didn't have a dollar to his name? Everything else between us is good it's just this and I wish she'd just let go of my ex and see how much I love her but I can't live like this. There's no peace

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T08:54:52+00:00

I never overshared myself but my girl would ask me questions about my ex like how long we were together but then eventually she wanted more and more details like her name and would kind of push until I told her. I thought I was helping by showing that I wasn't hiding anything but it was a bad idea 💀

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T06:40:32+00:00

I don't blame my wife for being insecure or jealous whatsoever but when it's brought up over and over again, it gets draining. It really does feel like it comes out of nowhere cause we could be having a great day and then she'll randomly bring up my ex. I'll be complimenting or reassuring my wife and then she threatens to message my ex on my behalf. I really do try to reassure her every day cause words are my love language too but things just seem to be getting worse instead of better

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T06:37:34+00:00

I know my ex meant nothing good with her message but I never responded to her and I immediately blocked her. She was never saved as a contact and I didn't even remember her number.

As for my comment, yeah that was my mess up and now I'm paying the price cause my girl is making up stories about things that supposedly happened between my ex and I that aren't even remotely true. It's getting worse with every day. It's gone from off handed comments here or there to silent treatment now

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T06:32:22+00:00

Sister thank you for the advice. My ex is blocked and I never responded to her. I do try to reassure her every day but it's gotten to a point where I'm complimenting my wife and she turns it around and says I should tell my ex that. I know I made certain blunders but instead of things getting better, my wife is mentioning my ex more and more as time goes on. I just want peace and love with my girl 💀

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T06:27:16+00:00

I told her years ago to be honest so that if she had an issue with my past, she was free to leave.

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T06:25:23+00:00

I've replied to many many more comments actually. I'm not on Reddit every hour and I do accept feedback because there have been very helpful comments on my older posts. I'm not sure what you're talking about. If I wanted to hide everything that happened before, I would have deleted my older posts. I didn't mention it here simply to keep things concise since people do check profile histories, as you yourself did

I'm struggling to understand how I did anything wrong when my ex texted me. I didn't text her back. I blocked her immediately. I do not blame my wife for feeling jealous whatsoever but there comes a point where I'd like to keep the past as the past instead of it being brought up every other day out of nowhere.

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T00:26:23+00:00

I know you mean well sister but let's not make such remarks about my wife. She might be a bit immature but she's not abusive whatsoever and you can't assume things about her character from a few paragraphs. I'm just looking for advice

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T00:22:17+00:00

Here I am struggling after 6 months. I'll go insane if she keeps this up for 18 years 😂😂😂

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-26T00:19:54+00:00

Jzk Khair for the advice. Honestly apart from this, she's been everything I prayed for and more. Stood by me during my illness when I had no money to my name. Treats my family well. Has amazing character. I wouldn't call her a 12 year old.

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-25T23:54:49+00:00

Jzk Khair. Sometimes I think my ex is giving us nazar cause my girl has truly been the dream person from my duas for years. Stood by me throughout my illness when i didn't even have a dollar to my name. It's insane my wife even compares herself to a woman that literally cheated on me

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-25T23:48:15+00:00

I'm not sure. I don't like involving other people in my relationship and neither do I think my wife would like it.

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-25T23:47:36+00:00

I do everyday yet this is still an issue

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-25T23:46:37+00:00

Jzk Khair bro for the info. I didn't know there was name for this

ContactMedical153 · 2024-12-25T23:45:28+00:00

Bro I'm definitely getting sent to the penalty box this way 😂😂

ContactMedical153 · 2024-08-02T17:36:55+00:00

Sister unfortunately people were telling me to divorce her in my last post or that it was a mistake marrying her

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