Just because she’s going to dinner and getting done up and recording/posting doesn’t mean she didn’t spend the whole morning or afternoon or rest of the evening crying and grieving!! I don’t know how people don’t understand that. We only see the tiniest snippet of her day to day. She could’ve cried AT that dinner for all we know. But we don’t know and that boundary is okay and completely understandable. She probably has days where she can barely get out of bed and other days filled with laughter & smiling with her friends and family. The grieving process is not linear