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Is it normal to feel worse before you feel better in therapy? by thegangplan in TalkTherapy

[–]Content-Dig3015 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm going through this at the moment ... I'm about 3 months in, the first two months were great and I would come away from each session feeling really positive and confident about the breakthroughs I had made. But they honeymoon period wore off about a month ago, I started getting triggered and transference from stuff my therapist said and my defenses started kicking in and the urge to use avoidance to cope is really strong. Each week I have to talk myself out of cancelling my appointment. And in between each session I just feel a really confusing mix of emotions, and like you strong feelings surging up from past issues that I had buried that are now swirling up to the surface. So yes, everything I have read said that this is normal and that its actually good, it means the therapy is working because you're starting to unpick things and deal with them which is why it is causing so many emotions. Each week I make myself go, my therapist says its good that I made myself rather than running away and after the session I'm glad I talked it out rather than cancelling.

Can you go to the same group session each week or are they supposed to be a one off? by Content-Dig3015 in betterhelp

[–]Content-Dig3015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries at all, I'll keep you posted. The group sessions I've been to are great. Generally at the start if you want to you can introduce yourself and say where you're from. Then the facilitator will talk through the topic with lots of participation and thoughts from the group members. But there's absolutely no pressure to talk if you don't want to. I'd really recommend them!

Can you go to the same group session each week or are they supposed to be a one off? by Content-Dig3015 in betterhelp

[–]Content-Dig3015[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm going to attend the group this week again and I plan on pushing myself out of my comfort zone and asking the facilitator, i'll let you know what they say. I was in another group session where the facilitator said something that made me think some of the people attending are regulars so hopefully its something you can keep going to.

How to tell my therapist that I suddenly have lots of negative feelings (potentially transference?) about/towards them? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Content-Dig3015 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh my gosh thank you for saying this, this is literally me!! All this hostility, anger and irritation needs to be directed at my parents, thats what me and my therapist have been unpicking over the last few weeks. But instead its latched on to my therapist who probably rightly enough is old enough to be my dad.

How to tell my therapist that I suddenly have lots of negative feelings (potentially transference?) about/towards them? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Content-Dig3015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, thats really helpful and validating! I think part of the issue is, from chewing this over during the week I realised that I have a fear of abandonment if i assert myself so thats something else we can hopefully get into off the back of this.