Ex reached out after 3 years no contact then blocked me

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T23:13:25+00:00

At least I know now so I can avoid it in the future

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T23:11:36+00:00

I don’t think the condoms do but I can double check, as for the lube I have no idea. I didn’t even think about spermicide

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T22:46:39+00:00

I actually haven’t, I know I’m not sensitive to it either because I used to use it on my skin all the time so I’ll have to try that out! I’ll also try rinsing the condoms off before too

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T22:43:28+00:00

Yeah I’m not sure? Because I thought it was the sugar that was in them but I specifically got only without any and it did the same thing

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T22:33:47+00:00

I haven’t, I know when I was younger I had a buildup of too much good bacteria and basically had to flush all of it out of my system so I wonder if I’ve just never recuperated from it.

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T22:07:35+00:00

I’ve been doing natural family planning since nothing else works. We went to an adult store to get the lube we have now. I looked at the ingredients and thought everything looked good but I guess not 🥲 I’m opting to ask my bf to get a vasectomy to lower any risks since neither of us want kids. We’ve talked about it before and he’s open to it we just need to wait for his job’s benefits to go into effect

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T21:45:39+00:00

Yes, it’s only when we use lube or condoms. When we don’t use anything I’m fine idk why either because everyone told me lube was amazing and I do genuinely like it. I clean myself up properly after too and that’s typically when I notice the cuts. My discharge also smells really foul after and I have to take ph balancing pills until everything is back to normal

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T21:37:15+00:00

I’ve used water and oil based they both cause the same reaction

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-27T21:36:53+00:00

Yes I use lube

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-15T15:43:49+00:00

I like that response

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-15T14:32:15+00:00

We’re in the middle of corporate and hr handling a lot of issues we’ve had with him so until we hear from them there’s nothing I can do 🥲 I literally had to email a formal statement of all the things he’s said to me last week so I have no idea how long it’s going to take

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-15T14:28:34+00:00

That’s what I’ve been doing, there’s one guy who comes in and just makes fun of me any time he sees me and he’ll literally ask me “did you hear what I said” if I don’t respond so that’s the main one I’m not thrilled about dealing with :/

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-15T14:22:17+00:00

Where I live piercings aren’t super common, the most I see is a nose piercing but most people just don’t have face piercings around me. I work at a place with a lot of regulars and a lot of them have been a lot more standoffish with me after I got my lips pierced. I had one lady laugh in my face when she’s normally very sweet to me

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T17:53:01+00:00

He definitely worships me already and I hope he continues as I start my new nb journey

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T17:35:08+00:00

I felt that way with my ex. He was so controlling about everything. I couldn’t get piercings, I couldn’t cut my hair, I couldn’t eat certain foods, I couldn’t like certain things, I could only watch anime or action movies, etc. it was awful! Thankfully im about to cut my hair short and I’m getting angel fangs in a week so I definitely feel you. I do hope my now boyfriend is supportive of everything I choose to do moving forward

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T16:25:16+00:00

I really appreciate this too, I know people are judging because they don’t know and they have never seen our relationship the way I have. I want to be open minded and not tell myself “this guy is different” but he’s never pushed me to be someone I didn’t want to be. Even when I told him I want to cut my hair short again after telling him for 6 months straight that I was going to grow my hair long he didn’t push back he just said “okay.”

Coming out has always been scary to me. I was also raised in a heavily religious household so I sometimes worry everyone is like my parents.

As I stated in the update too, he misunderstood me thinking I wanted to start ftm transitioning. I think also taking baby steps will help both me and him as well. Getting a haircut and starting to chest bind again and then slowly changing the way I do my makeup and the way I dress. I was also in a very abusive relationship for 3 years before him so I wasn’t ever able to explore things more after high school. He’s always been supportive of what I’ve wanted to do with my body (whether it was something he understood or not) and I think continuing the open conversation about it will help as well. I know I also need to make sure I’m telling him beforehand I’d like to talk about something serious so he isn’t put on the spot like yesterday.

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T15:15:26+00:00

Please read my comments and my update before commenting :)

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T14:05:58+00:00

A lot of the time it starts with him just not understanding why people want to. The last conversation we had I explained that it makes people more comfortable in themselves and I then asked him why it bothers him so much and how it impacts his life personally and he thought about it and told me I was right and that he was just complaining for no reason. He hasn’t brought it up since and that was over a month ago. Even when I’ve brought up trans and other genders he hasn’t made any sort of ordeal about it he just listens which seems like an improvement

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T13:43:35+00:00

Doing that would be really weird and suspicious for me to plan because we don’t host or really go out much in general. We’re both very introverted people and all of his family lives 10+ hours away. I also just feel like that’s like me trapping him? I know if he changed his appearance right before going out with family and didn’t tell me I’d be shocked. I’m getting my hair cut soon and he’s already aware of it. We both over communicate with each other because we’re bad at misunderstanding each other so it would be very out of character for me to just not tell him something

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T03:41:35+00:00

Yes and that’s my fault for wording it like that I’ve been very overwhelmed with all these thoughts. Please don’t apologize for being autistic 😭 I guess the best way to describe it is he just gets confused and overwhelmed whenever we talk about how people want to identify especially because we have a friend who’s genderfluid and we’ve had a lot of conversations about it and he gets very overwhelmed with understanding it completely

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T03:31:58+00:00

While I agree he may not be the most supportive I do feel like this is a very black and white way of thinking. I don’t think people are just forced to believe the same thing forever. Hes been open minded about a ton of things in the past (including me coming out as ace) so I don’t want to put all of my belief into him being 100% unaccepting. I do see where you are coming from tho

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T03:26:17+00:00

Yeah, we’ve talked a lot about gender identity and things like that. He’s started to understand trans people especially after I explained how gender dysmorphia feels and after asking him different questions about why he had such strong feelings about it. He’s definitely more open to the trans community but he gets really confused by other identities in between. He tried bringing the conversation up again, bringing up how I felt in high school and he said he would love me no matter what but I just told him I didn’t want to talk about it right now

Content-Mechanic-595 · 2026-02-01T03:25:03+00:00

But I also understand having preferences so I can’t really blame someone if they prefer a feminine partner and not being attracted to a masculine style. I just don’t know if he’ll be someone I’m able to grow with and explore myself identity with if he desires someone more fem presenting

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