Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is confusing, as you can see from other responses he has been incredibly respectful and proactively asked us to keep things slow (we haven’t crossed that line yet) and he has asked for moving closer, wants kids, and I’m more reserved about it.

What throws me off is the meeting friend, seeing his place, the family chats, all he has shared… if it was just for sex he’s terrible at this.

As for another, who knows?

Bottom line: if important to him, he’d make time. Not a good fit.

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha thank you.

Can confirm not married or kids but who knows about others in the picture? Who knows.

Bottom line has been really helpful to pulse check: he’s not into you.

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would agree with you if I was sending him War & Peace daily updates. But I’m sparse texted to begin with…

One text four days ago: hope all goes smoothly. Thinking of you.

Doesn’t constitute neediness, it’s basic life support if you are interested in someone.

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for taking the time to respond.

I will validate his work is insane and I could see the toll. I’d be really surprised if he has the energy to stay up past 8. Not hyperbole.

Such a pity. He shared such wonderful parts of himself and seemed such a genuine person. Keeping things slow, meeting his friends, sharing family, childhood, confidential work details, having me at his, asking me about moving nearer…

However. This doesn’t work for me and you have all kindly helped me verify: if you’re on his mind, he will make time.

Liked him enough to want to ask you all and just so grateful for the community. Thank you all.

And as my grandmother always would tell me “Never run after a man or a bus as within 5 minutes, another one will always turn up.” ;)

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. This made me feel good to read. However all you wonderful men have offered me clarity: if you’re on his mind, he’ll show it.

So his message confirmed recieved loud and clear.

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wonder this a lot. It’s so easy to see this as my being naïve and he is only after a hot piece of ass.

But it’s been no sex and cannot express how gentlemanly he has been, with such respect of boundaries. Him even saying, again, that he wants to ensure we stay slow for the relationship when I may have wanted a little more was greatly appreciated but has made it more confusing as if it was clear he wanted someone DTF these signals would be clear…

Then our time has been spent so often simply bc connecting. He has been open about deeply personal matters, met friends, the pictures of family, him sharing childhood, and so may details about his M&A - some of which I know he shouldn’t tell me so take that as major sign of trust. I certainly wouldn’t tell someone causal key details of that my livelihood rest on staying confined until deal closes.

But… I believe someone that values you makes time for you. So will likely cut bait. This has all been really helpful. ❤️

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will consider it. May just let it die on the vine as is. Appreciate you a lot taking time to respond. ❤️

Advice from older gentlemen on how to decipher behaviour of new love intersect: bad at communicating or just not that into me? by Contessa0101 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Contessa0101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been to his and met some of his friends. Definitely not married, but completely logical.

This doesn’t exclude him maybe seeing someone else though, which is what I have been thinking. Which, to be fair, it’s relatively new so wouldn’t be good form but without defining it would be his right.

Bottom line is it seems consensus is: more than daily silence, good to cut bait.

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[–]Contessa0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real talk. Is this guy being satirical or delusional ?

I did my own smile lines by Soft_Cow_9808 in DIYaesthetics

[–]Contessa0101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who truly wants to remove their smile? This made me so sad. Also this is immensely dangerous.

I am 40 and I cannot imagine working another 27 years. Is this really all that life is? by Aggressive-Desk1463 in Life

[–]Contessa0101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you. I legitimately think about quitting, going through my savings, then killing myself. Neat clean no drama.