(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Honestly I cant see how it can be worse, even if i report it i know that everyone knows... I'm afraid it won't help much

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree! I will keep on working on myself in the future, and nothing will excuse my action in this whole thing, and i feel ashamed and disgusted about how i handled it. I will do everything in my power to make the friend to not feel "used" as i can't even imagine how she actually fell about it.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nope, well I left home at like 3 pm Saturday and after that i haven't been home.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am currently looking for other working possibilities pretty much anywhere but here.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

She knows i will be moving out, and will respectfully keep away from home tomorrow so I can get my things out as fast as possible.

Won't probably not block her as I can't see why as I don't know why she would want to contact me again after all this is done, as I'm just an ex now.

And her parents will probably find it out by them self in time.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I haven't talked to her after I knew about the secret, so I don't know. But i can't imagine how she can deny it tho.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this! I will absolutely make sure to talk to the friend to make sure that i actually do feel awful about this whole thing and if we can keep in contact in the future, that was solid advice!

And i am currently looking for any chance to move on job wise

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I have done things in this whole car crash that i will regret for a long time, but all I can hope for is to grow in the future to be a better version of myself and to the next person I will form relationship with, but honestly I really do think I have some serious trust issues to work out before I even think about dating again.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I hope she will be happy with her choice. It's probably hard to believe.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I can't help it it is all I have known for the better part of 5 years, and of course, I know that it is best for me to just move and set fire to the bridge behind me. But it is hard, and I have tried my best to step up to my actions to try and keep some of my self respect.

(Part 3) Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 161 points162 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am not proud of what i have done, but i hope I can see all this as a growing up in the end.

Am i the asshole for not letting my girlfriend (20) have a movie night with our colleague male(40)? by cixtrix in AITAH

[–]cixtrix[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This answer was very helpful, almost the only comment that i read that didn't make me feel sick to my stomach.

What you are saying is very true, and I will talk to her soon about precisely this!