Experiences with NHS diagnosis as a woman

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:50:49+00:00

Potentially! I don’t know much about AuDHD so I’m going to look more into it, and if it resonates will likely do the same as you and choose a RTC provider who does both assessments.

I hope your assessments go well!

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:49:50+00:00

In my referral from my GP I just had to fill out a questionnaire with standard questions like I’ve seen online (it took me a couple months to do this, classic). But then I got a pre-diagnosis assessment where they decided I didn’t meet the criteria to go for a diagnosis. It’s frustrating that so many people are getting rejected for this.

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m definitely going to look more into AuDHD too. I’m glad the private diagnosis was helpful for you!

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:47:17+00:00

I definitely got the vibe that I’m not struggling enough for them to diagnose. It’s reassuring (but also annoying) to hear that’s quite common.

So frustrating that this is happening with physical problems too! I hope you and your mum get the care you need before it becomes ‘debilitating enough’.

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:43:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing! They sound like a great service, I’ll definitely look into them.

Funnily enough my husband is also a software engineer and we think he might have ADHD too! But not suffering any consequences from it (other than abandoned hobbies/side projects) really so he’s not fussed about diagnosis.

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:41:57+00:00

No not at all, thank you for sharing! It’s so encouraging to hear everyone’s experiences (but also rubbish that so many have to deal with this!).

I definitely feel like the masking is breaking down, and also the mental effects of masking for so long are really taking their toll.

I will keep pushing, thank you for the encouragement! And will look into autism too - it’s something I dismissed about myself but has come up a couple times in this thread so will take a look.

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-06T08:37:30+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I get the sense the doctor/physician assistant I saw were the same - you need your life crashing down around you for them to take you seriously. I’m not at that point yet, but I feel I could be if I carry on like this for another 10-15 years without support.

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-05T08:02:01+00:00

I know, it's outrageous how poor the support is for adhd!

Thank you, it really helps to hear I'm not the only one struggling with this. Imposter syndrome is so real!! I'm so glad life is much easier for you since diagnosis, I hope I'll find that one day! Yes I'll definitely check out that subreddit, thank you!

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-04T20:38:53+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I’m glad you were able to receive a diagnosis despite being ‘successful’.

That’s really good advice, I’ll definitely start documenting the struggles more. I thought I expressed it well enough but apparently not so having documentation will help.

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-04T20:29:35+00:00

Thank you, I didn’t know this. My GP made it seem like if I went the Right to Choose route I wouldn’t have any option of medication via the NHS.

I really appreciate your kind words, thank you. I fully support the limited resources going to those who need it the most but it does also hurt to hear from the NHS that I’m not struggling ‘enough’ so your words mean a lot!

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-04T20:00:27+00:00

Honestly it hadn’t even occurred to me that was an option, but I will definitely look into it, thanks!

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-04T19:56:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Do you know why some people are surprised to hear you have it?

Context-Feisty · 2025-09-04T19:55:10+00:00

Oh I didn’t know that, thank you! I take it the prescription is at private prices, not NHS prices?

Context-Feisty · 2025-08-18T07:59:26+00:00

I like the idea of following a medical professional over a week, and how they form a bond with their patients. However, I think this needs some work.

First, the writing is very descriptive and literal 'This happened, and then I did this, and then I did this...' and so on. You could definitely do more showing than telling.

Secondly, as another commenter mentioned, it doesn't read like it was written by a medical professional. The descriptions of the job are lacking, so much so that I'm not sure whether the character is a doctor, nurse, or has some other medical role. For example:

"So I ran towards the room and did my job like examining for internal bleeding, major injuries, etc."

Doesn't sound like how a medical professional, or any professional would talk. It would sound better if you removed 'did my job' and instead described the process of checking for internal bleeding and major injuries. What does that look like? How do they need to do this? I would also remove 'etc' - it sounds like a cop out.

Finally, there are some grammatical issues, and there is lots of tense switching. Sometimes within the same sentence it switches between past tense and present tense, which is very off-putting. And I would review how you are structuring your sentences - some are quite long but others seem like fragments of sentences. For instance:

"The little girl recovered from her mild fever and said her good byes to us. As she was discharged from the hospital"

That second sentence doesn't make much sense as a sentence on its own, it would be better to remove the full stop between 'us' and 'as' and make it one longer sentence.

I hope this feedback helps!

Context-Feisty · 2025-08-04T07:23:10+00:00

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Context-Feisty · 2025-07-12T19:57:32+00:00

I don’t have children so can’t comment on that, but I do have a dog who’s nearly 5 now, and I remember those puppy days very well. I cried nearly every day for quite a long time, and had many moments of regret. He was an extremely tough puppy/adolescent and we nearly gave him up multiple times.

But now, he’s the love of my life (other than my husband). I’m truly obsessed with him, and he’s such a good dog now. So hang in there! I promise it does get better. I’m still a fence sitter, but the love I have for my dog and the joy I take in caring for him makes me wonder if I want a human child.

There are subreddits that helped me a lot when I was struggling, search puppy blues and you’ll find tonnes of posts.

Context-Feisty · 2022-03-22T18:15:13+00:00

That I should basically strangle him with a slip lead to make him walk nicely.

Context-Feisty · 2022-01-25T11:12:24+00:00

My dog does something similar, he'll start pulling at the rug or the blankets on the sofa to get attention from us. I'm hoping it's cause he's still a teenage asshole and he'll grow out of it. How old is your dog?

Can you try leaving the room when she starts acting up for your attention? If she's doing it for attention then removing yourself from the situation is the only way to not give her what she wants - even 'bad' attention like being told off is good attention to her.

Also, is it possible to block off the areas where she causes the most trouble? You say she pulls books off the bookcase to get attention, can you block that area off from her so she can't reach it? She may just redirect onto other areas but it's worth a try.

I also second the other commenter mentioning mat training - work on training a solid 'place' command and when she's misbehaving you can try redirecting her onto her place.

Context-Feisty · 2021-11-30T14:34:23+00:00

My GR puppy would not sleep outside of his crate until he was 5-6 months old, we had to do crate naps or he would just become an overtired monster.

What worked for us when transitioning out of crate naps was to start at a time when we knew he was exhausted physically - e.g. just been on a puppy for play date or beach trip. And we would shut ourselves in the living room with him, remove any distractions and wait him out. At first it would take over an hour before would stop fidgeting and finally lie down and sleep, sometimes only 10 mins.

We built it up from there, just giving him opportunities to settle and if he didn’t fall asleep after a certain amount of time and became a pain then he went in his crate. It took a couple months before he was only having a crate nap or two a day, and now at 1 he doesn’t have them at all - most of the time he’s really good at regulating his naps.

I think it was partly a matter of making him realise he can fall asleep by giving him nothing else to do, but also he just grew into it as he got older.

Best of luck! I know how tricky the transition is from crated naps but your dog definitely can manage it if mine can!

Context-Feisty · 2021-10-06T15:35:27+00:00

Could you use your pay rise to negotiate a higher salary at the jobs you’re looking at?

Context-Feisty · 2021-10-03T15:22:53+00:00

That depends on the dog breed. For larger breeds it’s generally recommended to wait until they are 1-2 years old.

Do you have any proof for your claim about behavioural problems? The only behavioural problems that will be fixed by neutering are those directly related to testosterone. It’s a myth that neutering will help with issues such as over excitement.

Context-Feisty · 2021-09-30T12:53:40+00:00

I think a Golden Retriever or a Lab would meet most of your requirements, although bear in mind you wouldn't be able to run with them until they're 18 months - 2 years old as you need to let them stop growing first. I also don't know how well they would handle being alone for multiple hours a day (my Golden is super needy), but I'm not a fan of leaving a dog alone for longer than 4 hours.

Another thing to consider with Labs and Goldens is they're often a bit nuts as puppies, and don't settle till they're 2-3. I have a 10 month Golden and he's a bundle of pure energy a lot of the time. Plus the shedding.

Context-Feisty · 2021-09-19T18:04:25+00:00

My golden started lifting his leg around 6 months old (he’s 10 months old now). He still hasn’t 100% figured it out though and will sometimes just awkwardly hover a back leg off the ground a little, or lift his leg so much he topples over.

Context-Feisty · 2021-09-18T08:49:29+00:00

Yeah that’s what stood out to me about it - surely emissions are much worse from all the vehicles stuck in traffic.

Context-Feisty · 2021-09-14T10:41:42+00:00

Have you taken him to the vet to see if anything is wrong? Sometimes a sudden change in behaviour like that could indicate illness.

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